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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Question for the Aspies - Imagination vs. Reality |
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Posted: 14 Aug 2006, 12:53 pm
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Replies: 49
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| Affection has to be learned, at least with my son, it was a straightforward lesson. He learned to accept, give and ask for hugs from the Teletubbies. Part of the problem, as I understand it, with physical affection is the need to control what's going on. We started with "Big hug!" and just repeating... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Visual anomalies |
| KimJ |
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Posted: 14 Aug 2006, 12:32 pm
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Replies: 32
Views: 3,390
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| the "bugs" (and by extension, cats) are probably from a fluctuation in blood pressure when you move suddenly. I'm chronically dehydrated and when I stand up too fast or move my head quickly, I see spots or totally black out or see a big blue cloud. If your blood pressure drops, it means it's taking ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Question for the Aspies - Imagination vs. Reality |
| KimJ |
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Posted: 14 Aug 2006, 12:05 pm
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Replies: 49
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| I think the psychosis suggestion may be coming from the erroneous belief that people on the spectrum don't have imaginations. It was one of the first things brought up when my son was diagnosed. So, if a professional sees what looks like imaginative play and he denies what it is, he has to make up s... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I hate it when things like this happen . . . |
| KimJ |
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Posted: 14 Aug 2006, 11:37 am
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Replies: 10
Views: 1,425
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| NTs do yawn at someone when they want to passively end a conversation. It's a style of interupting. They're saying either, "You're boring" or "I'm not really hearing what you're talking about". |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Who has worse disorder in this case? NTs or aspie |
| KimJ |
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Posted: 13 Aug 2006, 11:48 am
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Replies: 48
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| I'm not playing a semantics game. Said bullies were 7-8 years old and living in troubled homes. They were acting out because of their environment. To say that they can't "blame their past" for their behavior doesn't make sense. One girl changed her ways within a year of the bullying and then became ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I need something clarified. |
| KimJ |
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Posted: 13 Aug 2006, 12:44 am
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Replies: 21
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| See, if there is a delivery charge, I don't see the point of tipping. Pizza places are different, some charge and some don't. Some delivery people get paid according to how many deliveries they make, like a bonus or something. Thai food is different, they don't charge and they probably don't have in... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Who has worse disorder in this case? NTs or aspie |
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Posted: 12 Aug 2006, 7:05 pm
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| When I called the girl a bully, I meant that she was the one teasing me in that instance. The sheep are the other children who laugh and join in (sometimes) but don't initiate it or go as far as the bully. They don't because they know the difference and seem to have less reason to be so mean other t... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: haircut |
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Posted: 12 Aug 2006, 6:51 pm
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Replies: 9
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| There are two issues here. One is the cosmetic choice to want long hair. The other issue is your son's tactile/comfort space issues. The first issue (I believe) is up to your son. 9 is old enough to decide on hairstyle. If the teasing doesn't bother him and he actually wants long hair, then maybe le... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Who has worse disorder in this case? NTs or aspie |
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Posted: 12 Aug 2006, 2:57 pm
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Replies: 48
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| Not all NTs are bullies and it seems that the worst Bullies are themselves victims of bullying in their family and/or suffer from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. The "little red head" that bullied me was instructed to behave that way by her mom and was brainwashed to look and act a certain way. She ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: The whole "Family Thing" is a joke to me. |
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Posted: 12 Aug 2006, 12:54 pm
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Replies: 48
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| As both a parent of a HFA and probably on the spectrum myself, I totally disagree with ryansjoy's admonishment. A lot of the parental behaviors described here are emotionally abusive and at the very least hypocritical and selfish. I was adopted by extreme NT's, very intolerant, uneducated and Sunday... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Got an official diagnosis and have some questions |
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Posted: 11 Aug 2006, 11:00 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 1,497
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| I know another parent with an HFA son and the docs tried to dx him as ODD. It seemed to meant to withhold services. An autism dx opens doors for advocacy, IEP's and in California it's covered by the Lanterman Act. (obligatory coverage and services by the state) However, Asperger's and other disabili... |
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Forum: News and Current Events Topic: Petition against Autism Speaks |
| KimJ |
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Posted: 11 Aug 2006, 7:37 pm
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Replies: 31
Views: 4,389
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| That's a pretty horrible example of "autism awareness". I have shared many personal thoughts that those mothers shared (at different times) but I saw nothing redeeming in their stories or outlook. They blamed everything bad on their children. They all seemed to share the same (upper middle class, wh... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do most autistics have very pale skin? |
| KimJ |
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Posted: 11 Aug 2006, 12:54 am
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Replies: 126
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| Perhaps the theory should address "mostly caucasian" autistics. I'm half Indian, half Scandinavian and look Italian. In summer, I'm brown. My husband is Northern European and tans well, a golden tan. My son is autistic and much paler than either of us. He has my Indian bone structure, strawberry blo... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you like hot weather? |
| KimJ |
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Posted: 10 Aug 2006, 6:32 pm
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Replies: 82
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| My husband and I prefer hot, dry weather. Arizona hot! My son prefers to be cold but not necessarily cold weather. ie he's happy with swimming pools, ice water, cold showers in the summer in my observations, NT's like whatever they're used to and prefer mild weather (spring/fall temps). They are ver... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: New Here too |
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Posted: 10 Aug 2006, 5:58 pm
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Replies: 1
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| I joined a couple months ago, but have been shy of posting. I'm the mother of a 6 year old autistic boy. My husband had the same behaviors at his age, that he "snapped out" of at age 14. I developed on schedule but was "socially awkward" after age 7. We have sensory issues that are annoying but not ... |
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