I have PDD-NOS and this support worker harassed me.

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13 May 2013, 2:00 am

Hey.

I was diagnosed as having PDD-NOS back in 2007 after a series of tests. Then I started receiving support in 2008 from Autism Initiatives.

Through a series of bizarre events, I have come to suspect that an ex-support worker had been strategically harassing me over a fairly long period of time, between 2007 up until 2010. :?

In 2007, I was feeling very lonesome and clinically depressed after being bullied on various Internet message boards and I was still a virgin in real life, who wanted a real girlfriend; I also wanted to have sex really badly, as I'd never had sex before and it was annoying me.

I had been forced to quit a job I had for 9 months, because I assaulted someone out of lust when I was rejected, in December of 2006. I wasn't very happy with the job anyway, as my staff were starting to become a-holes towards me, but I guess there was no excuse for doing that.

Anyway, that year, I was posting adverts on Gumtree, in relation to finding a girlfriend, but I never got anywhere. Every girl I spoke to ended up being a weirdo. Like there was one woman I felt I got on with because we both liked watching horror movies, but I did Google searches of her user name(s) and then I discovered she was on these dodgy websites. Then she started being nasty to me and also once created a MySpace account with a similar name to mine, at the time.

There was actually one other person who somehow knew I wanted to see an escort for sex, so he or she began emailing me crap and even offered me a job, but the catch was I had to be passive gay (or something). This person had me going to some flat once as a wind up; I got to this location, but no-one answered the door.

I also started putting up adverts in relation to an ex-girlfriend I had during 2005. We didn't go out for very long, but I felt depressed that the relationship was a failure and I was fixated on her because although she let her pals bully me, she was also my first ever girlfriend. Then some guy named Bruce Ritchie started emailing me from my adverts, pretending he knew her.

Around the time the emails started, a man called Patrick come to AI for to work as a support worker. He was actually an older guy and I worked with him a lot, plus I also regularly worked with my key worker who is an older lady. So anyway, this Bruce character eventually started saying I knew who he was and that I'd met him before. He also said to ask Patrick if I didn't believe [him].

I'd quietly spoken to Patrick to see if he knew who this person was, but he'd always act like he didn't know what I was talking about, but he'd sometimes try to pretend like we needed to crack the mystery. I'd tried not to go into too much detail, so I just asked him if he knew who this person was. However, he actually once offered to get a gang to beat up my sister's partner, because she was being put under a lot of stress and he would say to remember our 'little chat' afterwards.

This Bruce person had a habit of putting in veiled references in his emails to 80's music, but usually the comments he made were in relation to a band called The Smiths, who were the former band of Morrissey. 'Bruce' would tell me to listen to The World Won't Listen when I finally shook off my mortal coil, as he put it. At the time, I had no idea what the heck this meant, until I got curious and did a Google search of what it was. He also named both of my ex-girlfriend's former schools and said he'd be intrigued if I knew where to obtain that info on my own. Among other things, he also insulted my favorite pro-wrestler, Eddie Guerrero, who died in 2005.

He later created Facebook, MySpace and Bebo accounts using pictures of people who were my namesake. Meaning they were random images of people who shared either my real name or my most popular user name, Grace Saunders, but they weren't always images of me. I knew this because when I did searches of the names myself, the same pictures would normally appear on top ranking searches.

Using his Bebo account, he was posting the lyrics to the song in The Wizard of Oz on a friend's account (assuming it wasn't him too as he had the same images) about how the Scarecrow needs a brain. I'd done this musical as a show in college and I played the role that Ray Bolger played in the 1939 film, but I to this day do not recall ever mentioning anything about my college work online, as I tend to try and keep my real life unique from my Internet life.

In the Summer of 2010, I had a shift with Patrick one day and he was being cool and chatty like he usually was. We went to a snooker hall and everything was okay at first. There was no cause for concern. Then my mate from college turned up later on and then Patrick started drinking alcohol from a bottle he had in his jacket. When I asked him what it was, he called it Russian water and he was supposed to be playing snooker with my friend, and I was the referee. Patrick wasn't taken it seriously and was showing off. Then he suddenly come out with some random remark about me listening to The World Won't Listen and then I explained how some guy named Bruce said that too, then I think he realized he'd made a slip and tried to joke it off until we left. As soon as I got home, I told my mother that I now believed 100% it was him who was harassing me on Gumtree and she too believed it was way too much of a coincidence.

I also did an IP address check on his emails and they were traced to a hotel in my home town, which actually isn't that far from the supported accommodation my support people use today. He used to do a sleep over sometimes in the staff flat, although he left AI many months before I moved in, after I grew tired of living with my parents. That's when I knew it was certainly him who had been harassing me for 3 years. He however took a leave of absence from work right after our last shift together and probably got fired. To this day, I still don't get why he did this to me and it's actually upsetting to me. Shortly after he left, the e-mail address he used to contact me was either closed or it got compromised, as I started receiving simplified spam emails, rather than actual hand written messages.

There is a part of every email that has a box where you can add in who you wish to contact. Well, I noticed five or so contacts he'd added in; I actually recognized one of the addresses from when that 'other person' was emailing me about escorts in the past. One and the same, perhaps?

What do you make of all this then? 8O

P.S. I actually did get back with my ex last year. She just used me for my money yet again and she again did horrible stuff, and now she's being nice to me again, because I was meant to take her to court for not paying half the money for a games console we agreed to pay up on credit. Although she doesn't know who Patrick is, she has had a long history of being a liar and a user. It's been rough, to say the least.



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13 May 2013, 2:24 am

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13 May 2013, 4:29 pm

So, yeah. What was he thinking about?



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13 May 2013, 6:47 pm

I honestly have no idea. All of this sounds like a bunch of social nastiness that would fly straight over my head--I can't even really follow your description.

One thing I think you should remember, though, is that it is better to have no friends than to have bad friends. If they mistreat you, it is better to be alone, to hang out with a pet or with family, to spend time on hobbies or on learning new things.

I don't know what it's like to have a really strong sex drive, but I hope you can figure that out. I do know what it's like to be hungry and not be able to get food (never been seriously malnourished, but still been there), so maybe it's a little like that? But the same thing should apply: If they don't treat you right, it's better not to have it at all. I don't think you would like becoming the person that people kick around, just because you want to hang out with them or date them.

You did mention that at one point you assaulted somebody because they didn't want to date you, and that you acknowledge that it was wrong: Yes, it was. It's among the nastier things you can do to people, even if you are desperate. I do hope you have tried to figure out what was behind that, so that no matter what happens you will never do anything like that again. Down that road is the sort of person you do not ever want to become.


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13 May 2013, 7:04 pm

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Like there was one woman I felt I got on with because we both liked watching horror movies, but I did Google searches of her user name(s) and then I discovered she was on these dodgy websites.


What are 'dodgy' websites?



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28 May 2013, 12:00 am

Sorry for not replying sooner.

As I recall, they were something along the lines of S & M sites, although in pictures we exchanged, they looked ordinary enough. Man rod sucker P. Connolly aka Bruce is probably in hell now, getting butt rammed by Satan himself and rightfully so.

Some people. :roll: