Lucky girlfriend of a wonderful aspie man

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Hi everyone! I'm feeling a little bit nervous about posting here and not quite sure what to say about myself and my situation...

I'm a businesswoman and writer in my mid-twenties living in Wales. I'm lucky enough to be in a relationship with a wonderful man who has fairly severe aspergers which was only properly diagnosed three years ago (he's twenty now). We've now been living together for four months.

I'm hoping that, by joining this forum, I'll be able to talk to and get to know other people with aspergers or who are in relationships with aspies. We seem to end up in situations which most people I know won't understand and unfortunately for me my few aspie friends prefer to try and pretend they don't have it.

I'm looking forward to getting to know you.

Welcome to WP!

welcome if you don't mind me asking what kind of problems does your boyfriends aspergers cause?

Welcome to WrongPlanet!

Hope you enjoy your stay here

Welcome

Congratulations on your boyfriend acquirement.

Thanks for the welcomes

Naomi, the biggest problem for me has been getting him to talk about things that upset or bother him rather than just trying to cope with it on his own. He's used to being so self-sufficient and whilst I understand his need to deal with things his own way, it'd be nice to know what's going on sometimes. We've also had an issue with touching; he dislikes being touched but since he knows I love to be cuddled he insists on making an effort to do so. I feel guilty about it, but if I ask him to stop he feels unwanted.

But the problems are far outweighed by his good points! I love his straightforwardness, the different perspective he brings to things I'm thinking about, his slightly odd sense of humour... Nothing has been enough of an issue for either of us so far that we're not prepared to work around it, there are just... quirks... that it would be nice to be able to talk to someone about without getting blank looks

Welkome to WP

Mick

I'm also new on wrong planet with an aspie husband

I don't really notice any "problems", but that might be because i'm extremely introvert myself

Welcome to WP! It makes me happy to see partners call themselves "lucky" to be with someone with asperger's because many of us are afraid that potential and current partners wouldn't even accept that part of us. Hope you enjoy it here!!

Hi, welcome to WP

Hope you enjoy your stay

Mike

Thanks for the welcomes

Welcome to Wrong Planet!