Mom of a 6 year old

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My son was "categorized" as having AS when he was 4. It has really helped get his teachers to understand him.
I am just looking for other mom's to help me know what to expect or talk to about things going on.

I feel very lucky that we learned what was going on, because I would have lost my job if we hadn't. Working full time and trying to have my son in Day Care didn't work. His day care provider actually worked really close with me and helped me connect with the school district. They did the assessment and have helped with IEP for him each year. So far we have been lucky to have two wonderful teachers and I am excited to see him growing.

His biggest struggle is when I am not there with him. He really looks to me as his anchor in situations to know if things are okay.

Recess has been a really hard thing for him and Gym class. This week some of the other kids were not following the rules. He had a very hard time with this! I don't know how to explain it to him, but I was very proud of him for controlling himself and removing himself from the game before he used his body to make them follow the rules.

My husband, and my son's step dad has a hard time. Sometimes he thinks it is him that he is doing something wrong. Until, our son lashes out in anger at me. Searching for the root of the anger and frustration is often a difficult but rewarding task. Time and understanding are key to helping him.

Are these normal things other Mom's and Dad's are faced with?

Ether way, thanks for the chance to talk to someone.

Well I'm not a parent so I can't really answer any of your questions I'm afraid, although there are many who do have expreience on here as you may have already seen. Anyway welcome to WP, hope you find it helpful

Welkome to WP

Mick

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

It sounds like your son will do well because you are a good mom. I turned out okay (well, we'll see--I am only 23) and I wasn't diagnosed until fifth grade. From what my mom tells me, it would have been a lot easier on her and I if she and my dad had known sooner that I have Asperger's. Instead, they had to wait until I just started to fall apart in school before a professional diagnosis was deemed neccesary.

My advice would be to give your son intense lessons on social skills. Many kids with AS are highly intellectual and, I think, can learn social skills that come naturally to others. It is a challenge though. Also, kindle his passions (only the productive ones) and direct him to utilize his talents as he gets older. Most of all, just be there to support him through the rough times. Honestly, I shudder to think about what would have happened to me if I did not have exceptionally excellent parents. Your son is fortunate because you sound like an excellent mother.

From my experience, there will be rough times. Your son may have fits of rage occasionally. Find a way to let him physically vent his rage, if this happens. I needed that and my dad would wrestle with me, which helped me get my anger out. If he is not in a special education school, I would expect him to be bullied pretty badly. I was. It isn't fun but I didn't seem to mind that I was hated by so many other kids because I had very little interest socializing with any kid other than my one and only friend. Maybe your son will feel the same way.

So yeah, there's a few things. I'm not a mom, I know, but I thought I could give you some insight. If you want more I would be happy to give it to you. Just ask.

Welcome to WP!