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19 Apr 2019, 5:14 am

...Hi!! !! !! !! !! ! :D Coming from the NYC metroplex (Westchester) and being older, too...I feel connected :) :mrgreen:.


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19 Apr 2019, 9:44 am

ASS-P wrote:
...Hi!! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! :D Coming from the NYC metroplex (Westchester) and being older, too...I feel connected :) :mrgreen:.

Hi! When did you leave the NYC area? (Your profile says Santa Cruz, which I assume is where you live now? My boyfriend's Dad lives in Santa Cruz.)


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- Finally diagnosed with ASD in May 2019, after having suspected it for over ten years, and after having deeply explored the autism community for over one year while waiting for and obtaining diagnosis.
- In longterm relationship with boyfriend who was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome in 2001.
- Long history of participation in various oddball subcultures.
- My "Getting to know each other" thread: Hello from NYC.


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19 Apr 2019, 10:29 am

Mona Pereth wrote:
Finished testing / diagnostic interviews / etc. last week. "Feedback" appointment is coming up for me on May 14. (The externs take 4+ weeks to look through everything, apparently.)

Glad to read things are moving along.


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15 May 2019, 8:38 am

I finally had the feedback appointment yesterday.

I was told that I definitely qualify for a diagnosis of ASD. In general there were no big surprises in what I was finally told.

But throughout the whole long testing/evaluation process, because I have not had psychotherapy in the past, I experienced a lot of what I think of as psychotherapy-world culture shock. Throughout the whole long testing/evaluation process, I encountered a lot of things that seemed utterly weird to me, but then my boyfriend, who has had a lot of past experience as a psychotherapy client, assured me that those things are perfectly normal in the psychotherapy world.

For example, my most recent experience of psychotherapy-world culture shock was how, at the feedback appointment, the therapist refused to tell me the diagnosis at the beginning of the appointment, but instead insisted on diving into the details of various tests before telling me her final conclusions. When I got home, my boyfriend told me that that's normal.

Anyhow, it's a huge relief to have the final confirmation of something that I've suspected for about ten years and that I've been almost certain of for nearly a year after reading a lot of websites and blogs about autism.


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- Finally diagnosed with ASD in May 2019, after having suspected it for over ten years, and after having deeply explored the autism community for over one year while waiting for and obtaining diagnosis.
- In longterm relationship with boyfriend who was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome in 2001.
- Long history of participation in various oddball subcultures.
- My "Getting to know each other" thread: Hello from NYC.


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15 May 2019, 8:52 am

Congratulations on getting the ASD diagnosis after all these years!



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15 May 2019, 9:06 am

Mona Pereth wrote:
I finally had the feedback appointment yesterday.

I was told that I definitely qualify for a diagnosis of ASD. In general there were no big surprises in what I was finally told.

But throughout the whole long testing/evaluation process, because I have not had psychotherapy in the past, I experienced a lot of what I think of as psychotherapy-world culture shock. Throughout the whole long testing/evaluation process, I encountered a lot of things that seemed utterly weird to me, but then my boyfriend, who has had a lot of past experience as a psychotherapy client, assured me that those things are perfectly normal in the psychotherapy world.

For example, my most recent experience of psychotherapy-world culture shock was how, at the feedback appointment, the therapist refused to tell me the diagnosis at the beginning of the appointment, but instead insisted on diving into the details of various tests before telling me her final conclusions. When I got home, my boyfriend told me that that's normal.

Anyhow, it's a huge relief to have the final confirmation of something that I've suspected for about ten years and that I've been almost certain of for nearly a year after reading a lot of websites and blogs about autism.

Congratulations.

My results day went like this
1. Some more questions about why I did and did not do certain things in my life.
2. Test results
3. She asked me for some reasons why I don’t think I am Autistic and then talked about coping mechanisms.
4. Said “I have no problem diagnosing you with Aspergers”. That a clinician with over 30 years experience said it in that way was and has been a great help in avoiding the feeling that the diagnoses was wrong and that I was a lazy bum who faked myself and the clinition out, a feeling that many members have expressed over the years.


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24 May 2019, 4:40 am

Mona Pereth wrote:
Hi all,

New here. I'm very glad that this forum exists. I'm glad to see an independent web forum -- much better than, say, a Facebook group. (Too many autism-related groups seem to rely too much on Facebook groups, alas.)

I have a longterm boyfriend who was diagnosed with what was then called Asperger's Syndrome back in 2001. Both of us feel that I'm at least as autistic as he is in some ways. I'm finally getting around to seeking a diagnosis.

We do programming work from home. Alas, this doesn't earn us anywhere near as much money as can be made by a programmer who works in a corporate office. But, for various reasons, we both feel that we are not capable of working in the latter setting.

I have a strong interest in the history and development of various subcultures such as the LGBT community. Based on my knowledge of this history, I have high hopes for the neurodiversity movement.


Congrats on your new diagnosis! I know how important the late diagnosis is for older adult aspies.



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31 May 2019, 3:04 am

as is often the case, i am late to the party if even i know it exists at any time at all. :oops: welcome to our club, Mona :flower: wish i was fast enough mentally and physically to live in an exciting place like NYC also.



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14 Jun 2019, 11:15 pm

Given my experiences in the LGBT community and various other subcultures, I have a lot of ideas on how to build the autistic community and make it much more useful, in many more ways, than it is now. See the separate thread Building the autistic community?, especially page 2 of that thread. (See also the threads Autistic-friendly workplaces and Autistic-friendly social skills vs. blending in with NT's.)


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- Finally diagnosed with ASD in May 2019, after having suspected it for over ten years, and after having deeply explored the autism community for over one year while waiting for and obtaining diagnosis.
- In longterm relationship with boyfriend who was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome in 2001.
- Long history of participation in various oddball subcultures.
- My "Getting to know each other" thread: Hello from NYC.