Awkwardness

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Do you feel trapped when you are in a class room or college building, and when discussing things with your teacher or talking with someone do you just feel like you regret even talking to that person because sometime later you realize just how awkward the whole thing was or you look back over what you say because you have no idea what you were thinking? I'm not sure how to explain it. My thoughts are pretty jumbled at the moment.

Yep...all the time.

I always feel awkward even when I have a pleasant conversation with somebody. I have difficulty "ending" the conversation on a harmonious note.

This is how I feel when I get into a conversation that's about something that I'm interested in (video games particularly) and I realize that the other person isn't nearly as thoughtful or passionate about it as I am, or when I ask for help and feel like it makes me look like I'm stupid or not doing what I should be doing. I feel similarly when someone that's gregarious forces a conversation with me. It's very awkward, but I suppose I don't quite feel quite uncomfortable as you in such situations, as I seem to be able to be able to get back to my work to distract myself from what happened.

Yes, although I don't think that that is a distinctly Aaspergers trait. More of a general social thing, although people with same are more likely to mess it up or make it awkward.

I am so worried about this. I haven't yet started uni, but there are only two issues which are making me nervous and this is one of them (the other is maintaining a high enough grade average to get into the master's programme I want). I have never heard it described as feeling "trapped", however now that I read it I think it is more correct than any other description I've come across. It feels like this with every person with whom I speak, an exception being my close family, and the only reason they are an exception is because they are used to my awkwardness. It usually gets to the point where I absolutely cannot look at the person's face anymore (generally I try for as long as I'm able to look at the mouth, which helps with the processing of verbal information) because I am devoting so much attention to appearing as normal and not awkward as I can. That is takes me longer than most people to reply to questions since I must first determine whether the person actually means what the question literally means also doesn't help. After about five minutes of interaction with someone I don't know well, I want to go somewhere far away where I can be alone and collect my thoughts (and stim, most likely), but I can't because the damned person is still talking at me. This is when it begins to feel like I'm trapped. And then of course there is what you've described: the replaying of the conversation over and over again in my brain and analyzing what I said and how I said it, and regretting how awkward I was and that I missed some joke which later seems obvious. Or completely missing the point of the person's questions and not noticing until my mother tells me three days later.

In conclusion: yes.

yes . sometimes someone tells me a joke and i don't laugh because i didn't realize it was a joke until its to late

Yes, I am awkward at times. Especially when it comes to jokes - I feel that they are real, when they are really just a joke. Sometimes I am not awkward and get in conversation really well. But at other times, I sweat and at times blush.
With teachers and other adults, not so much. I got in a conversation for about a half an hour a few weeks ago with a woman at the local library who was looking for the obituary of someone. The conversation went from "where's the microfilm?" to everything else, literally.

Yes, all the time.

I tend to over-analyze social situations, and come out of those social situations more worried because of it.