Teacher picking groups for projects

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18 Jul 2018, 5:59 pm

Sometimes the teachers decided on the groups for group projects and sometimes they let the students pick their groups. I preferred it when the teacher picked the groups because I was at least guaranteed to be in a group. When the students choose who they wanted to work with, I was often left without a group and the teacher had to put me in a group or I would have to work by myself. Do you prefer it when the teacher picks the groups?



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20 Jul 2018, 5:17 pm

I definitely prefer when the teacher makes the groups. Nobody wants to work with me. They all want to work with their friends or the smartest people in the class. Im not really anyones friend and I am not a very good student. I had a very good teacher in English who would always pick the groups because she knew how hard it was for me. Other students hate it though. The teacher picked partners once. She paired girls and guys together. My partner tried to get another partner and my teacher wouldnt let her. It really sucks. Im good at English


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20 Jul 2018, 9:17 pm

My classmates preferred to work with their friends. I epically failed at making friends in my classes so nobody ever wanted me in their groups. I was known as the weird girl. I know I drove some of my teachers nuts because they would have to put in me in a group because I would be the only one without a group a lot of the time.



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20 Jul 2018, 9:54 pm

All of you are my kindred spirits.

When I was in grade school in the 1970s the teacher would choose two team captains for the after lunch recess game of kickball. The rest of us students would have to stand in a lineup with our backs against the chalkboard and the captains would alternately choose teammates.

I was always chosen last with one captain having no choice but to take me. All boys and all girls being chosen before I was. That lineup happened every school day with the only reprieve being winter when we'd have free play in the snow.

It was so demoralizing. After awhile I just became numb during the process as a coping mechanism and mentally I would be "somewhere else". Terrible repeat experience.

Why was I chosen last every time? The kids said I was "pigeon toed" and would make fun of how I walked. I was extremely uncoordinated and had a hard time figuring out exactly when to kick the ball when it was rolling toward me.



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21 Jul 2018, 10:07 am

I was always picked last for team sports in PE. I sucked at sports. Girls especially gave me a lot of crap because I wasn't as good at sports as they were. They tended to always hog the ball anyways, so there wasn't as much opportunity for me to fully participate in the games.



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21 Jul 2018, 11:03 am

From what I see with the mean people described.....their parents should have used a condom that night.



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21 Jul 2018, 11:08 am

Oh goodness, finding people for project groups, finding people for lunch table, finding people for teams, finding where to sit on bus, my greatest fears :( .... Anything where I have to approach someone random and ask... I literally don't care what group I get put in as long as someone else does it for me :lol: .


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21 Jul 2018, 11:46 am

My bus stop was the last stop on the route when I was in high school. There were usually only a couple seats left so I had to hope someone would have the decency to scoot over and give me a spot. I was usually one of the first ones on the bus after school when my last class of the day was near the bus loop. I got my pick of the seats. In 4th grade, there was a seating chart on the bus. Sometimes the bus driver put me with my brother and sister. When I wasn't seated with either of my siblings, I was out next to this girl that was mean to me and the other kids at our bus stop. This girl was in 5th grade and she was really bossy and I couldn't stand her. She didn't want to sit next to me anymore than I wanted to sit next to her.



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22 Jul 2018, 9:01 am

I was only in a group a couple times in high-skewl & my teachers picked the groups. Reading this thread makes me think it's a good thing the teachers assigned us. I struggled in most of my classes & I had some friends but they had people they were better friends with.


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22 Jul 2018, 11:19 am

I was never anybody's first choice to work with. I could never get beyond the acquaintance stage with any of my classmates. They always had other people in the class that they were much closer with.



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22 Jul 2018, 2:16 pm

The teacher should never pick the groups. Try to force others to be your friends and they'll only hate and bully you even more.


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22 Jul 2018, 4:32 pm

I didn't like the seating chart on the bus in 4th grade because the bus driver put me next to that mean girl and it sucked. I didn't like the seating chart in my 12th grade homeroom either because I couldn't sit next to my best friend. The teacher seated us in alphabetical order and my friend and I were on opposite ends of the alphabet.

I can understand why teachers like to break up social clusters in the classroom as I work with kids and know that they are so much more productive when they aren't goofing off with their friends. The only times the kids have to sit in their assigned spots are during roll call and homework time.

Forced interactions suck. I don't like to be forced to interact with people that treat me like crap.



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24 Jul 2018, 1:02 pm

I preferred it that way too. I was never chosen into a group as I did not have any friends in school so when everybody was finished picking people for their groups the teacher always had to ask a group if it was okay that I joined them. If the teachers picked the groups my group-mates would often sigh loudly and roll their eyes if I was picked to work with them so it was never a fun time for me. I couldn't get along with anyone either as nobody understood me (I didn't get my diagnose until I was no longer in school so nobody ever got why I was the way I was) and I would just sit quietly in the corner and annoy everyone because of it and teachers of course did nothing to help.
Later years i'd sometimes ask to work by myself as it wouldn't require any socializing and i'd be able to focus on what I was gonna do without distractions. :)