Question about asperger's socializing groups

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This is related to school becuase this is college based socializing group at Montclair. There were only a few guys there. They were very intelligent, but it seemed their disabilities were even worse than mine. One kid I spoke with after the group, I thought he was very articulate, his aspie habits were at a minimum (probably better than mine), but he seemed pretty miserable (socialized on the internet for the most, have pessimistic views on everything). Are people at these groups really that interested in socializing? I'd prefer using it as a starting off point to go to clubs (with some kids I can relate to as opposed to going alone, which usually doesn't work).

I joined a local support group. I was disappointed. It struck me as more of a social group than a support group. I felt like the people there wanted to avoid the challenge of trying to socialize with NTs. I felt like they were all much more social than me, though more impaired. They would all talk at the same time, which just turned to gobbldy-gook in my brain. I left the group after a few months. As difficult as it is, I continue to try to socialize with NTs. I wish I could find like-minded people with whom to form a support group.

Yeah the adult AS groups are generally pathetic. Think about it a group of people who have problems socializing getting together for a social group. It just doesn't work very well unless there is a NT that facilitates the group and plans activities. Also there is the problem that activities take money and since the majority of AS people don't work or work minimum wage or lower there is the problem that members cannot even go out to dinner together.

The whole AS group thing sucks. Since you are higher functioning find yourself some hobby groups or church groups to attend. You will find more likeminded people in those sort of groups than you will among your local AS population. Trust me on that.

By like-minded, I mean HFAs who want to work to socialize better with NTs, and want a support group where they can share and assist each other in this sturggle.

I've never been to an AS social group, but I imagine they're not very productive because the very statement of "Aspergers social group" contradicts itself.

Some HFA social groups work. They'll play Risk or Dungeons & Dragons, that sort of thing.

Well, I always thought of groups like "sci-fi club" or "anime club" as underground asperger's support groups in their own right. The problem is, you can run across big a**holes in these groups, bullies who are supposed to be getting bullied or the like. I'm probably going to anime club tonight, mostly out of sheer willpower, even though I'm probably not going to fit in well.

We could form a net based support group... eh heh heh... What's HFA?

High Functioning Austistic, which is the term I've adopted as opposed to "aspie." Both terms are equally non-clinical, but people know what High Functioning Autistic means and it doesn't carry the undesirable connotations some of us have complained about.

HFAs get bullied and some respond by becoming bullies themselves. We've seen some on this site and they've been thrown out. This is indeed a virtual support group.

I know that Alex wanted to make an Asperger's Syndrome Studentt Group on Mason. I wonder if more people reply to his message about that.

I'd really enjoy something like that. I can socialize with NTs but it is always work. It would be enjoyable to have some weirdos to hang out with. Or so I think...


daveybaby, how old are the people in your anime club? I have been thinking about finding and joining one, but I'm 25 and I don't want to hang out with 18 year olds only and I'm afraid that's what I'll find.

If I had the time, I would go to the support group in Fort Worth.

I've seen 35 year olds hanging around anime clubs (occasionally dating 20 yr-old members, I know its ridiculous) but the vast majority consists of students (18-22). Just don't tell anyone how old you are, it worked for me, I actually went to a High School anime club at the library, claiming I was 20. I decided not to go anymore when some of the girls started flirting with me.

Just make sure you make friends with the club officers, they're usually a lot more mature and kinder than the other members. Watch out for the kids that specifically sit away from the other people too, they're usually the, "We hate everyone else crowd, cause we're the 'cool' nerds."

I belong to an Asperger's group at my university. Sometimes we just sit around and chitchat because we all get along well with each other and have a lot of the similar hobbies. Mostly though, we talk about issues we're having and ask for advice from the group. I've had a really good experience with them and its been very helpful for me.

I just want opportunities (outside of WP) to meet other Aspies.