I should look like a highschooler again. (Anti-aging sup...)

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There's drama in college that's more complex than I'm prepared for. A lot of it originates from the fact that people have so many expectations of me (and therefore a smaller repository of compliments and praises for when I do anything good). A Garrett Fine told me that "People have a set of expectations of you. When they aren't met, it's quite a crash."

I've "crashed" an unknown number of times, so my thoughts turned toward anti-aging supplements so people won't expect too much of me and will give more compliments for more deeds that I do. When I was in Japan, I saw an infomercial for Fracora (see about it at http://www.fracora.com if you can read Japanese) and despite a language barrier, I still got the whole gist of what the product was about - it was a collagen drink intended to reverse how old you look. (A 57-year-old woman took Fracora and people on the street who saw her new picture thought she was 32.) You know, if these supplements can knock 25 years off a senior citizen, why not 8 years off myself?

Alas, Fracora was way pricey at 4200 yen per 10 bottles (when the Yen was ~105 per dollar; now it's an anemic ~95.) It wasn't sold in stores; I would have had to order it online or over the phone. I didn't get something that wasn't easy to get in the first place. Needless to say, it isn't available in the US either.

I hope to find some other American-made collagen-based anti-aging drink. What may those be and where might I find them? Or if you know an anti-aging drink based on something else, then please let me know what it is.

I saw a side banner ad once of an anti-aging spray that removes wrinkles. Having none on my face, what would it do to me? (Probably nothing, would it?)

Costmetic surgery, as goes without saying, is too costly for a college student's budget. There could be unintended side effects that won't be seen on older patients.

Anything to look 14-15 (like a high school freshman) again would do fine, as long as nothing remained obvious that I was someone older, save for simply sitting in a college classroom. (Though in that case, this could make classmates think I'm a gifted skipper.)

Hey, before you go on about my height, I've met an 8th grader who was taller than me. I've even met a 12-year-old little brother of a residential hall RA whom I knew, and that kid's height exactly matched mine! (I'm 6'0" with shoes on.)

I was told that self-confidence is a better (what subject noun again? "alternative" or "remedy?") than to look younger, but for as long as I have Asperger's, no self-confidence is going to change how good my social skills are. A Brit whom I met in Japan said that I "approach every social situation like a big (pluck)ing exam" and that the idea is to approach them while relaxed, like there's nothing to worry about. I hadn't told him about my Asperger's, and will when I make a public blog about it on Facebook.

I don't know where to find a "social IQ" test but I estimate that my social skills are that of a 15 or 16-year-old teen. (Garrett once told me it seemed that of a high school freshman's.) Therefore, I wonder if staying in college for 8 more years will make my level of social skills that of a 4-year college graduate? (I don't intend to stay THAT much longer. I'll probably try to reach the level of an 18-year-old in that regard, and therefore officially a "young adult" (of some kind).)

This is another reason why I delayed college graduation out of the many I have - I'm hardly "ready" to be a college student, much less an adult. I don't like to tell this often anymore (and whomever I've told it to mostly have already graduated by now,) but I started college in the fall of '03. I don't see myself graduating until sometime in the next decade. I think I'll feel "ready to be an adult" once a company I won't mind working for gives me a job offer BEFORE graduating; I will not get caught up the creek without a paddle for 6 months and have the student loans come back to bite me.

Man, I wish after I go through with the anti-aging supplements, that I could fabricate birth certificates and other credentials, in order to enroll in high school again. That's too risky and difficult, so I won't even try THAT. (Who in history has EVER pulled that off?????)

I guess what would suffice is if I'm walking in a mall on a school day and its security officer starts to tirade me for not being at school, I'll pull out my university student ID (and DL) and say, "Thank you so kindly for that compliment, sir. I want to look that young, and reached this goal. I'm actually twenty-#_#_#_# years old." (I wonder how he'd reply.)

With so many of you that share Asperger's, you want to look younger again too, don't you?

Last edited by EgaoNoGenki on 26 Nov 2008, 4:36 pm, edited 4 times in total.

Try beer. You don't have to DRINK it.
Just buy some every now and then and see if people think you are using fake ID.

Or are you the one who altered their appearance to look older?

If not, just see if people strongly doubt you are old enough to buy beer.
It happens to me and I'm 30something.

I had a severe "I look too old" delusion in my teens,
and I think you might be having one now.

ALSO if you want but don't know what fountain of youth potions to use, just
go to a health spa and get a "facial", and I'm sure they will sell you products.

edit:
Man,
if you are Asian I'm sure I can't guess your age within 10 years accuracy by looking.
Seriously, I met some 40something and 50something Asians who I thought were
20somethings and 30somethings!

It sounds great in theory (just taking your word for it as I don't read Japanese) but it's probably 'snake oil'. If it really worked Cher and Joan Rivers would look like babies by now, lol.
Don't think I'll be remortgaging the house to buy some just yet There are lots of 'anti-ageing' creams on the market but they are selling a dream The only way too look younger is to physically remove the wrinkles by surgery (and get that stretched-to-distraction 'joker' look)
You're probably better concentrating on spending your money keeping healthy, eating plenty fruit and vegetables, taking regular exercise etc. Oh no! I've turned into my mother The biggest skin ager, so they reckon, is sunlight. So, although you need sunlight to make vitamin D, wearing sunscreen lotion on your face will work long-term to stop skin damage which is ageing.
To answer your question,

*Cries into my coffee cup* I fear it is too late for me anyway Good luck with your quest EgaoNoGenki.

Work out, run, etc. If you run at least 10 miles a week, you carry an extra pint of blood in your system. The glow, good skin, etc of working out will keep you looking very young. If you're a guy, probably best not to bulk up, if you want to look slim and childlike.

sounds like you're saying that looking younger is a band-aid for a deeper issue that you haven't addressed.

And I believe I share it with nearly everyone here, Alex. Who here doesn't want to go back to a younger age?

Addend: I met an old friend just a year younger than me who has braces now. I was told by my dentist long ago that I needed braces. They may cost $4,000, but how many years younger will I look thanks to them? (Hopefully like 5 years younger or so.)

Agree with Alex. You've decided to solve a problem with a non-solution. Making yourself look younger doesn't make you younger. It also doesn't solve your social issues.

You seem to be assuming that staying in college will improve your social skills. I don't believe it will. As in your other recent thread, you're expressing a need to tell someone off (the mall security officer in this case). If you're treating every social encounter as a test and your fallback plan is to come off superior or to teach someone a lesson. You're not going to have successful encounters with this thought process.

If you go through four years of high school, doesn't that make you more socially... oh, what's the word?... Malleable?

So, what makes you say that?



You're right. I do seem to. One Brit told me months ago that I "appear to approach every social situation like a big... ...exam."

That's because anything I say is make-or-break. And it's not just what I say, but HOW I SAY IT.

I think social interaction is a skill where everyone's level "tops-out" at some point. Those of us on the spectrum tend to top-out lower than NTs. You said you've been at school since 2003 - it just seems like you've been there long enough to gain whatever you can from the situation. It'd be different if you're a "shut-in" - keeping yourself from the experience. Then I'd say stay in school, go out, and experience it.




Two things I would ponder based on what you've written:
- Are you comfortable being yourself? Are you sure you know who you are?
- The expectations that are upon you - are they truely society's expectations or are they your own? In either case, are these expectations reasonable?

I really don't think there's any "topping out." I will happily believe that I'm more of a "shut-in" and that I should go out more - definitely some skills to be gained this way.




I think I'd be comfortable being myself if I was born later. Not only should I be younger with the level of social skills I have now, I'm a fan of the latest technologies; I saw a Crayola digital camera and camcorder for children and felt so jealous I decided to read the packaging. I muttered, "If only I was born in the year 2000!"

I don't like to tell my age often anymore, even though I'm not a woman.

I think I'd feel best in working exactly where I hope to work. I don't know - maybe the offices of WrongPlanet, or other kind of Aspie resource organization. (I also want to invent anything to help the environment and our wallets, but that takes more education...)

I can never seem to find other Aspies to intermingle with on campus. Maybe if there was a group, or "official" Aspie organization on campus, I'd feel better in that too.