Is perpetual anger an NT thing? Or just how we see it?

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perpetual anger is a "having the weight of the world collapse on your shoulders" thing. Many aspies have there parents holding all or some of their weight so there is less to be angry about. If it weren't for laughter, everyone would be irritated and angry all the time.

whoa, i only thought people acted like that in food service! what gives? lol. sounds like they hate their job, too. or maybe it's because they are under so much pressure, they can't help but steam a little... because they work with incompetent fools. not that i'm calling you an incompetent fool at all; it's just what i've observed in the pizzeria...

hmm. no, i've experienced perpetual anger before, but mainly in high school, where i was forced around and stuff. maybe these people are forced around in their job? who knows...

Frankly, I'd think people with AS would be more prone to the perpetual anger thing considering how much we struggle to understand how the world works and fit in with it (often failing).

I have a lot of anger issues that are legitimate, but I recently realized the AS issue of being prone to meltdowns explains why I have such a short fuse when it comes to little things going wrong in my daily life.

Doesn't bother me at all.. my internal "censor" seems to automatically label anyone who yells and screams at me as "this person's a f----ing idiot".. not that i'm consciously aware and thinking that..

My sensitivity to anger, on a scale of 1 to 10 is about a 2.5.

With 1 being completely oblivious to even the most horrendous burst of anger

And 10 being ready to run away as if one's life is threatened.

"Is perpetual anger an NT thing? Or just how we see it?"

I can only speak for myself, and I am most certainly not perpetually angry. In fact, so far from it. I strive to be perpetually happy. It is difficult sometimes and therefore impossible, but perpetual happiness is my constant target. Of course I get angry sometimes, but with age I've learned how to recognize anger, process it quickly, and get over it in a relatively short amount of time.

I have met many people who appear to be perpetually angry, or just overall miserable every second of their lives, regardless of neurological status, so these people do exist with some frequency and it would not surprise me if you have run into a few of them also.

One thing I learned when working with an ASD friend, he sometimes thinks I am angry based on my tone of voice when I am in fact not angry. I think that he has difficulty distinguishing subtle differences in my tone of voice and lumps them all under "angry." For example, my voice takes on different "serious" tones when I am in a hurry, preoccupied with something else, or concentrating on something. I don't think my friend can tell the difference from my tone of voice, and it all just comes out as "angry." What I have done is taken the time to talk with my friend and explain to him that I am not angry with him, just in a hurry, or preoccupied, or whatever it was I was doing. I have also learned to be more sensitive to my tone of voice, and try not to sound angry from my friend's perspective.

I've never seen a perpetually angry NT, I've never seen anyone as angry as me.