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willaful
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02 Nov 2014, 4:59 pm

My son heard about no tie shoelaces and really wants them. There seem to be dozens of different kinds. Can anyone recommend a particular brand/style? Are they likely to get him teased? He's in middle school.


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02 Nov 2014, 5:18 pm

I had to research "no-tie shoelaces" http://www.amazon.com/dp/b002pdbt2s at Amazon.com. I amn?t sure which laces your son prefers.

They appear to be kinda ingenious. My guess is that, unless your son wears pants which are short enough to show the laces, they won't be noticed. Even if they are noticed, they aren?t too expensive to try them out briefly without being committed to wearing them everyday.

I prefer this kind http://www.amazon.com/dp/b00975eaj6 of no-tie shoelaces personally.

Of course, Harry Potter's Daniel Radcliffe wears Velcro-fastened shoes because of his dyspraxia.


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02 Nov 2014, 5:49 pm

The pants would have to be pretty baggy to make the unnoticeable. I think it's very likely he'd be teased :( . From what I've read, middle school/jr high is the worst time for bullying, and that aligns with my personal experience.



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02 Nov 2014, 5:52 pm

Radcliffe can probably afford to find some that don't look gawdawful. :lol: My son is in men's sizes and the only velcro shoes we could find were these gleaming white things that you could probably see from space.

I went ahead and ordered some on ebay, since they're pretty reasonable, and not having to worry about tying his laces would be a huge relief for him.


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02 Nov 2014, 6:04 pm

There is something to be said for not letting bullies manipulate his decision of what to wear



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02 Nov 2014, 6:30 pm

I remember when those things were the height of cool...

...right after I'd FINALLY learned to tie my shoes.

Buy him some, in colors that look crazy cool with his shoes.

Will the other kids make fun?? Probably so-- it is f*****g MIDDLE SCHOOL, after all. If they can't FIND a reason to make fun, they'll be happy to MAKE ONE UP.

Middle school-- a special hell for ASD kids. He might as well at least walk through it in comfortable shoes.

This might be a good time to buy him the no-tie laces and teach him the phrase, "f**k 'em if they can't take a joke."


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02 Nov 2014, 6:36 pm

BuyerBeware wrote:
This might be a good time to buy him the no-tie laces and teach him the phrase, "f**k 'em if they can't take a joke."

Are you the Divine Miss M?!? :D


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02 Nov 2014, 6:46 pm

Don't buy the ones that snap into the holes. They come undone pretty easy. There are ones that look just like regular laces, lace like real laces, appear to be tied like real laces, but are made of silicone and so they stretch and don't need to be tied and untied. I can't remember what they are called though.



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02 Nov 2014, 7:23 pm

Look for "Ironman" or "triathalon" laces. Explain to your son that athletes use these in sports where they have to take their shoes off and on quickly because they go from running to swimming to biking - if kids are likely to tease him, find an athlete he can talk about (links below.) Maybe you can get him a t-shirt or hat having to do with the sport to help support the idea.

http://www.ironman.com/triathlon/events ... z3HxaSmsdI
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_Ol ... _triathlon

DS used them until 6th grade, when shoes became a big deal in his school (in part, due to the particular culture of the school - brand names became important) - and at that point, he was able to tie his laces using the "bunny ears" method. We've used Lock Laces and EZ Laces, both essentially the same thing: a bungee-type cord that you lace through the shoes and then lock in place with a clamp. Search "triathlete laces" on Amazon, there are lots of other kinds that work differently; I'm guessing they work on the same principle, though.

Frankly, I use them now - but only because I'm lazy :D



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02 Nov 2014, 10:16 pm

momsparky wrote:

Frankly, I use them now - but only because I'm lazy :D


I confess -- when I ordered his, I ordered two in purple for me. :lol:


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02 Nov 2014, 10:17 pm

I didn't learn to tie my shoelaces until I was 9. I believe that the reason now is because whenever I was shown how it was from another person's perspective and not mine. It was like trying to tie my shoes with feet that faced the opposite direction and with my hands behind my back! When people showed me how to do it with a pair of shoes where the toes faced away from me like my own feet, that helped me figure it out. I remember how relieved I was when Velcro shoes came out before then because I thought I would be the only adult in the world who couldn't tie shoelaces.



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02 Nov 2014, 10:43 pm

I don't see why he would get made fun of for such shoe laces....half middle school kids don't even tie their shoe laces and just shove them in their shoes and have brightly colored ones even. Also how do you know other kids aren't wearing them and that might be part of why he wants some?


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03 Nov 2014, 11:28 am

willaful wrote:
momsparky wrote:

Frankly, I use them now - but only because I'm lazy :D


I confess -- when I ordered his, I ordered two in purple for me. :lol:

Lol - we are purple no-tie shoelace sisters!



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03 Nov 2014, 12:00 pm

We ordered some for us when we ordered for our son. My husband got teased for it at work of all things, where they called them "old man shoelaces." He doesn't care, so it is all good. LOL

My son is homeschooled, but I doubt the kids would have bothered making fun of him for that at school



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04 Nov 2014, 3:07 pm

You see these laces on a lot of new name brand sneakers, they have migrated from triathlons. As long as you get ones close to the kind you would find in those shoes he should be fine. Some of the no tie ones are weird. These look close to what you would find on sneakers.

http://synchbands.com/



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05 Nov 2014, 9:54 pm

setai wrote:
You see these laces on a lot of new name brand sneakers, they have migrated from triathlons. As long as you get ones close to the kind you would find in those shoes he should be fine. Some of the no tie ones are weird. These look close to what you would find on sneakers.

http://synchbands.com/


Those look promising, thanks for the link!

The twisty ones I ordered arrived today and were a complete failure. He found them frustrating and thought they looked awful. Ah well, at least it wasn't expensive.


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