Why did you have babies?

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Aww that’s horrible why didn’t you get an abortion?

Well you can have kids at 120.

Yah me too. Guess it’s similar to dyslexia you don’t have much choice over whether or not it’s high functioning or low functioning. Probs same amount of control that you have over gender? What ever happened to designer babies? I remember in the only biology class I attended that they were trying to do that back in 2010.

Yah it’s like sex, if you want to and if it’s with the right person then it’s not a chore. Yah psychotic stuff is fixable and not permanent so to not have kids for that would be stupid.

because as soon as I realised i was pregnant my hormones changed and i naturally wanted to protect my baby
also just out of luck my dad found out about my lifestyle and he basically came and rescued me and took me to live with him . it was brilliant timing really otherwise i might have still drank or take drugs

i did drink before i knew i was pregnant but my boy came out fine and is neurotypical

Why did I get pregnant? Because I really, really want to be a mom. I've loved babies ever since my 8-years-younger brother was born, and the older I got, the more clear it became to me that I want to raise a child of my own.

I did get genetically tested, but that had nothing to do with my plans to have a child - I was genetically tested for my own curiosity. I'm not a carrier of anything particularly scary, according to the test. The only recessive condition they found in my DNA is hemochromatosis, which isn't really that bad if it's diagnosed and treated appropriately, so I decided it wasn't worth worrying about when picking a sperm donor.

The main reason I got tested was wondering why I'm autistic, and it turns out I've got a ton of SNPs that have been suggested to be linked to autism, so I've got my answer - I have polygenetic autism. Not a huge surprise, since my Dad is autistic and most multiplex autism families likely have polygenetic autism, but it's nice to know. And once I started trying to conceive, I found it reassuring to know, because I would love to have an autistic child and I have a pretty decent chance of that with my genetics.

Would you love to have a low functioning autistic child ?

Did you have his iq tested? Drinking doesn’t cause Autism. Drinking causes other neurological problems and learning disabilities.

I don't really think functioning labels are the best way to categorize autistic people.

I do admit that my ideal child would be smart and verbal, but I'm fine with one who is missing one or both of those characteristics. I don't see "low functioning autism" as some sort of horrible tragedy to be avoided, it's just more challenging and they need more support than most people. I've worked with autistic kids who couldn't speak and who may have had cognitive delays (though it can be hard to assess the latter accurately) and would be glad to have a child like that as my own.

I also think that if you're not ready and willing to deal with any sort of special needs that may arise in a child, you shouldn't have children. There are no guarantees in life - even a normal child could get meningitis or be in a car accident and end up needing far more help than any "low functioning autistic" person. (Autism requires a certain level of capability in order to assess, so there's actually a minimum functioning level for autistic people, and I've met people with other disabilities who function below that level.)

I also know that disability is by and large irrelevant to quality of life.

thats what i meant by neurotypical -- no specific learning disability or any other neurological problems

No I didn't. I don't even know what that means.

Babies are cool. They're like little versions of yourself and then they grow and grow and grow and they become really cool grown up people.

My husband made me write an essay to say why I should have children.

I guess I passed his exam.

How Condescending!

Ha....he sounds like a riot.

Nope....can't father a child now. Can only adopt. Because of prostate cancer.

Yup. Good times. Six months after she was born premature he announced he was gay and left us.

He's been in violation of child support and psychiatric care orders since 1997.

The funniest thing was when he sued our daughter in court in 2019, then disowned her entirely.