Why do Autistic/aspie/NLD parents chose to have children?

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02 Jun 2018, 9:40 am

I am curious as to why some of the other Autistic parents out there chose to have children. I have my reasons, but I would like to hear other people's reasons.

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02 Jun 2018, 3:06 pm

I found out I was autistic after four children

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02 Jun 2018, 3:12 pm

I didn't want to be alone.

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02 Jun 2018, 3:59 pm

yaskfls wrote:

I found out I was autistic after four children

(Pats you on the back)

Sympathy via physical contact.

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02 Jun 2018, 9:13 pm

Because they are not ashamed of being who they are.

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03 Jun 2018, 7:39 am

kraftiekortie wrote:

Because they are not ashamed of being who they are.

If you don't mind me asking, do you have kids?

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04 Jun 2018, 12:44 pm

I don't. But that has nothing to do with me being autistic.

It just didn't happen.

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30 Jun 2018, 7:48 pm

I am an Aspie. My kids turned out just fine, maybe even better than fine. One is a medical doctor and the other an engineer. Now I have 4 grandchildren and another one on the way.

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01 Jul 2018, 9:09 am

I agree with kraftiekortie.
I want to adopt children rather than have genetic kids, but that is for a much different reason.

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01 Jul 2018, 6:58 pm

Because my girlfriend keeps pressuring me for kids
Because some people seem to enjoy parenting
Because maybe my child won't be a little sh*t like I was

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02 Jul 2018, 7:37 am

Why not? Should austists not have children?

I know that I want children eventually. I've always liked children and I feel excited about having my own family one day.

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06 Jul 2018, 6:43 am

My wife got her autism diagnose after our 3 kids were born. Since then both sons and the daughter have been diagnosed.
Recognizing myself in the the children and my wife convinced me that I am on the spectrum to.

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09 Jul 2018, 7:26 pm

I'm not a parent, but would like to adopt to give a child a second chance. I don't want biological children because my partner is ADHD and I'm ASD, so I don't think that would be a great combination. Now to only convince him of my reasoning.

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02 Aug 2018, 7:27 pm

I was just diagnosed last year. I have three kids, ages 24, 11, and 10. If I had known before, I probably would have chosen not to have kids. They are quite taxing on sensory and other issues. However, I've done the best job I know how to do, and honestly, having to overcome my issues while parenting has taught me many valuable coping skills. I graduated university (Mathematics). Oldest is a graduate of university (Architect) and married. Youngest two are in advanced math classes, and the middle one is on the spectrum too. All honors students and band members, and all-around good kids, so we're doing good.

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03 Aug 2018, 12:53 pm

Vilxjin wrote:

Something like this. I thought I was ok. But never suspected my husband or his side of the family. He came out after my child got diagnosed and her therapists seemed to think I might have a milder version too coz I told them I have some sensory issues which I have coped up with now.

Both me and my husband have advanced degrees in engineering.

We are divorcing now because he is aromantic with a lot of individual issues

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03 Aug 2018, 2:30 pm

emilyjh75 wrote:

Wow! Well done, it sounds like your best was pretty awesome.

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