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15 Jan 2018, 3:35 pm

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In my younger days, I was pro-choice. Now that I'm more religious, I am against abortion. I also feel that anyone who is religious, should not be for abortion. It is clearly stated in the Bible that you shall not kill. People try to get around this by saying when they believe a baby is a real person - whatever helps them sleep at night.

Political View

I do not think abortion should be forced on the people who do not believe in it and this would include taxes. If people want abortions, then it should be paid out of pocket just like any other personal choices (cigarettes or alcohol).

Do you also believe that wars should be paid for out-of-pocket by politicians, so that violence isn't forced on the people who do not believe in it?

For that matter, given that some people believe (based on religious faith) that blood transfusions violate God's will, we should also insist that our tax money cannot be used to subsidize insurance coverage that pays for transfusions, right?


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15 Jan 2018, 3:44 pm

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I don't think it's appropriate in *every* situation, but I can't support any restrictions on it.

Elaborate?
Which situations do you feel are acceptable and which are not?


Appropriate: Rape, incest, danger to the mother, economic difficulties
Inappropriate: "it will no longer be all about *me*", birth control, immaturity

Disclaimer: Tim, I'm not meaning to attack your views at all, just to discuss them from a different viewpoint.

If a woman is shallow enough, or just self-aware and self-obsessed enough, that she would reject a child because sees it as competition for attention ("it will no longer be all about *me*"), I think she's likely to do a horrible job of raising any child she's forced to bear. It's possible becoming a mother will improve her as a person, but it's by no means a guarantee, and I'd be scared of what that hypothetical child would suffer growing up with that kind of mother.

If a woman is responsible enough to use birth control properly, thus demonstrating that she doesn't want children or doesn't feel capable of raising them right now, but her birth control fails and she winds up pregnant - again, that child isn't going to grow up in a loving, secure environment.

If a woman is too immature to make sensible choices regarding sex and birth control, I think by definition she's not mature enough to raise a child.

I hear a lot of people who oppose abortion saying, "Then she shouldn't be having sex!". (I haven't heard you say that, Tim, I'm going off on a tangent now.) I only hear this said about women - but women can't get pregnant alone. If all the men who oppose abortion decided they would abstain from sex, or choose sexual activities that can't result in pregnancy...I suspect there would be a significant impact on the number of women seeking abortion.


Upon reading my post, I didn't think the "immaturity" argument through, and I agree with you that those who are that way shouldn't be raising a child.

My apologies.


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15 Jan 2018, 3:46 pm

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It's possible to be both pro-life and pro-choice. I've met a few people like that. It's a matter of understanding that no one has the right to push their beliefs on anyone else.

Agreed. As a woman who was told she would never be able to have children, and who has had multiple pregnancies end in miscarriage, I don't think I could ever have chosen to have an abortion myself. My two living children are precious beyond words to me.

And I'm still firmly pro-choice. No woman should be forced to carry a pregnancy she doesn't want or can't afford. A child should be born because it is wanted, not because backward superstitions and ignorant legislators decided the mother's right to bodily integrity can be suspended while she's incubating a fetus.


About the "a child should be born because it is wanted" - there are a lot of "unwanted" people that I'd like to do something about that have really done some crappy things. Can we find a way to abort them? That would make room so that some of these babies could have a chance to show they could be wanted by others even if their mother didn't want them.


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15 Jan 2018, 3:48 pm

Tim_Tex wrote:
MissChess wrote:
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Tim_Tex wrote:
I don't think it's appropriate in *every* situation, but I can't support any restrictions on it.

Elaborate?
Which situations do you feel are acceptable and which are not?


Appropriate: Rape, incest, danger to the mother, economic difficulties
Inappropriate: "it will no longer be all about *me*", birth control, immaturity

Disclaimer: Tim, I'm not meaning to attack your views at all, just to discuss them from a different viewpoint.

If a woman is shallow enough, or just self-aware and self-obsessed enough, that she would reject a child because sees it as competition for attention ("it will no longer be all about *me*"), I think she's likely to do a horrible job of raising any child she's forced to bear. It's possible becoming a mother will improve her as a person, but it's by no means a guarantee, and I'd be scared of what that hypothetical child would suffer growing up with that kind of mother.

If a woman is responsible enough to use birth control properly, thus demonstrating that she doesn't want children or doesn't feel capable of raising them right now, but her birth control fails and she winds up pregnant - again, that child isn't going to grow up in a loving, secure environment.

If a woman is too immature to make sensible choices regarding sex and birth control, I think by definition she's not mature enough to raise a child.

I hear a lot of people who oppose abortion saying, "Then she shouldn't be having sex!". (I haven't heard you say that, Tim, I'm going off on a tangent now.) I only hear this said about women - but women can't get pregnant alone. If all the men who oppose abortion decided they would abstain from sex, or choose sexual activities that can't result in pregnancy...I suspect there would be a significant impact on the number of women seeking abortion.


Upon reading my post, I didn't think the "immaturity" argument through, and I agree with you that those who are that way shouldn't be raising a child. I think they should try to be on the most powerful birth control there is, though.

My apologies.


Most powerful birth control is sterilization.

Speaking of which, do men here believe at some point it should be the man's place to get a vasectomy?


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15 Jan 2018, 3:49 pm

nurseangela wrote:
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It's possible to be both pro-life and pro-choice. I've met a few people like that. It's a matter of understanding that no one has the right to push their beliefs on anyone else.

Agreed. As a woman who was told she would never be able to have children, and who has had multiple pregnancies end in miscarriage, I don't think I could ever have chosen to have an abortion myself. My two living children are precious beyond words to me.

And I'm still firmly pro-choice. No woman should be forced to carry a pregnancy she doesn't want or can't afford. A child should be born because it is wanted, not because backward superstitions and ignorant legislators decided the mother's right to bodily integrity can be suspended while she's incubating a fetus.


About the "a child should be born because it is wanted" - there are a lot of "unwanted" people that I'd like to do something about that have really done some crappy things. Can we find a way to abort them? That would make room so that some of these babies could have a chance to show they could be wanted by others even if their mother didn't want them.

*chuckles*

I can't argue with you - while I recognize the concept of a "retroactive abortion" is unethical, and murdery, and all that stuff...I admit there are some folks I think just need killing. Of course, my opinion is worth whatever you paid for it, and I promise I won't climb a clock tower and act on that opinion.


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15 Jan 2018, 3:52 pm

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Religious View

In my younger days, I was pro-choice. Now that I'm more religious, I am against abortion. I also feel that anyone who is religious, should not be for abortion. It is clearly stated in the Bible that you shall not kill. People try to get around this by saying when they believe a baby is a real person - whatever helps them sleep at night.

Political View

I do not think abortion should be forced on the people who do not believe in it and this would include taxes. If people want abortions, then it should be paid out of pocket just like any other personal choices (cigarettes or alcohol).

Do you also believe that wars should be paid for out-of-pocket by politicians, so that violence isn't forced on the people who do not believe in it?

For that matter, given that some people believe (based on religious faith) that blood transfusions violate God's will, we should also insist that our tax money cannot be used to subsidize insurance coverage that pays for transfusions, right?


Actually, I'm not for war because I'm against killing and I pay taxes, so I too, would be paying for anything that tax money is used for. If you can figure a way out of "paying for war" then let me know what that is.


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15 Jan 2018, 5:41 pm

There should be no mandated vasectomies.



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15 Jan 2018, 5:47 pm

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Actually, I'm not for war because I'm against killing and I pay taxes, so I too, would be paying for anything that tax money is used for. If you can figure a way out of "paying for war" then let me know what that is.


Work a BS job (or not) and have kids you can't afford. You won't pay a dime in taxes, so therefor none of the money paid to war. Most likely you would get a huge return via tax credits! You also have to b***h about corporate America and the rich. It's some type of requirement...



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15 Jan 2018, 6:26 pm

I see abortion as a necessary evil.



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15 Jan 2018, 6:43 pm

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There should be no mandated vasectomies.


Of course not. But women should have to be on the "strongest birth control that there is". Coming from the medical side, birth control for women can cause a high risk of stroke and heart attack for women in their 30's and above, but I guess that's OK.


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15 Jan 2018, 7:10 pm

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There should be no mandated vasectomies.


I do wish more insurance companies would pay for it and doctors wouldn't be so uptight about giving it to young males.



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15 Jan 2018, 8:05 pm

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Abortion is not "killing a newborn"; it's excising a zygote. Read some biology.
Don't like abortion? Don't have one.
Don't have a uterus? STFU


Don't like murder? Don't commit one...

An idiotic slogan. I can't be bothered with this argument again, my views are well known here.


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15 Jan 2018, 8:10 pm

Mikah wrote:
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Abortion is not "killing a newborn"; it's excising a zygote. Read some biology.
Don't like abortion? Don't have one.
Don't have a uterus? STFU


Don't like murder? Don't commit one...

An idiotic slogan. I can't be bothered with this argument again, my views are well known here.


Abortion is not murder, since the definition of murder is the illegal taking of life -- much like war and executions.


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15 Jan 2018, 8:14 pm

nurseangela wrote:
Tim_Tex wrote:
MissChess wrote:
Tim_Tex wrote:
The Musings Of The Lost wrote:
Tim_Tex wrote:
I don't think it's appropriate in *every* situation, but I can't support any restrictions on it.

Elaborate?
Which situations do you feel are acceptable and which are not?


Appropriate: Rape, incest, danger to the mother, economic difficulties
Inappropriate: "it will no longer be all about *me*", birth control, immaturity

Disclaimer: Tim, I'm not meaning to attack your views at all, just to discuss them from a different viewpoint.

If a woman is shallow enough, or just self-aware and self-obsessed enough, that she would reject a child because sees it as competition for attention ("it will no longer be all about *me*"), I think she's likely to do a horrible job of raising any child she's forced to bear. It's possible becoming a mother will improve her as a person, but it's by no means a guarantee, and I'd be scared of what that hypothetical child would suffer growing up with that kind of mother.

If a woman is responsible enough to use birth control properly, thus demonstrating that she doesn't want children or doesn't feel capable of raising them right now, but her birth control fails and she winds up pregnant - again, that child isn't going to grow up in a loving, secure environment.

If a woman is too immature to make sensible choices regarding sex and birth control, I think by definition she's not mature enough to raise a child.

I hear a lot of people who oppose abortion saying, "Then she shouldn't be having sex!". (I haven't heard you say that, Tim, I'm going off on a tangent now.) I only hear this said about women - but women can't get pregnant alone. If all the men who oppose abortion decided they would abstain from sex, or choose sexual activities that can't result in pregnancy...I suspect there would be a significant impact on the number of women seeking abortion.


Upon reading my post, I didn't think the "immaturity" argument through, and I agree with you that those who are that way shouldn't be raising a child. I think they should try to be on the most powerful birth control there is, though.

My apologies.


Most powerful birth control is sterilization.

Speaking of which, do men here believe at some point it should be the man's place to get a vasectomy?

Although I'm not a man, I'd like to respond to this. (If that's out of place or disruptive, please tell me, I'm not trying to cause problems.)

I think any man who is certain he doesn't want to father children or cause pregnancies should absolutely go get a vasectomy.

When my husband and I agreed that we weren't going to risk any more pregnancies, which are dangerous to my health for reasons that don't really pertain to the topic, we looked at the risk for vasectomy vs. tubal ligation. Based on those risks, he got a vasectomy - he wasn't excited about it, but he was thoroughly convinced that it was less risky than getting my tubes tied.

Men who spout off about how women who don't want to get pregnant should just stop having sex often seem to be the same men who p*ss and moan about how they're not getting laid as often as they'd like. Pregnancy generally takes two participants, but women bear the vast majority of the associated and consequent risk (and expense). I struggle to reconcile the viewpoints.


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15 Jan 2018, 8:25 pm

VegetableMan wrote:
Mikah wrote:
Piobaire wrote:
Abortion is not "killing a newborn"; it's excising a zygote. Read some biology.
Don't like abortion? Don't have one.
Don't have a uterus? STFU


Don't like murder? Don't commit one...

An idiotic slogan. I can't be bothered with this argument again, my views are well known here.


Abortion is not murder, since the definition of murder is the illegal taking of life -- much like war and executions.

I wasn't drawing that particular parallel. I'm just saying, the slogan is moronic.

How about don't like robbery? Don't commit one.


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15 Jan 2018, 8:39 pm

Mikah wrote:
VegetableMan wrote:
Mikah wrote:
Piobaire wrote:
Abortion is not "killing a newborn"; it's excising a zygote. Read some biology.
Don't like abortion? Don't have one.
Don't have a uterus? STFU


Don't like murder? Don't commit one...

An idiotic slogan. I can't be bothered with this argument again, my views are well known here.


Abortion is not murder, since the definition of murder is the illegal taking of life -- much like war and executions.

I wasn't drawing that particular parallel. I'm just saying, the slogan is moronic.

How about don't like robbery? Don't commit one.

I think the disconnect here may be in the categories you're choosing. Murder and robbery are both crimes. Abortion, currently, is not, so the comparison falls apart.

If an objection to abortion is based in religious views, the more accurate comparison would be something like:
Think pork and shellfish are unclean? Don't eat them.
Think polyester is an abomination? Don't wear it.
Think premarital sex is a sin? Don't have it.

...see the difference?


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