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20 Mar 2012, 7:37 pm

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That wasn't a dig at you Hyperlex, at various times the feminist movement has gotten behind some strange ideas because they came from radical feminists and at various times erupted into self righteous outrage about absurd things.

For example the Skepchick debacle.

if you're using that as an argument against feminists though, you should take into account the feminists who have spoken up in this thread. we haven't gotten behind things like that, so promoting the idea that "feminists support _X_" is not accurate.


The great bit is that the person who supposedly said this (Andrea Dworkin) said no such thing,
and the "source" for this supposed quote (her book Intercourse) doesn't contain it.

So while it's true that it's absurd to waste time talking about what one individual from a progressive movement numbering in the tens of millions did or did not say,
in this instance,
the individual in question didn't even say it.

:lol:


I'm not 'against feminists' and I'm not against equality and I'm not against feminism.

But I am saying that as in the Skepchick example there is a tendency in the feminist movement to offer knee jerk, unthinking support to other radical feminists because they claim to a feminist. This is not unique to the feminist movement, you should see environmentalism, it is a lot worse.

Regarding my 'all sex is rape' comment, it is true that neither Dworkins or Mackinnon actually uttered those words but as a summation of their work and ideology it is a perfectly fair and apt one.

Here is what Dworkins actually says in her book Intercourse:

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This is nihilism, or this is truth. He has to push in past boundaries. There is the outline of a body, distinct, separate, its integrity an illusion, a tragic deception, because unseen there is a slit between the legs, and he has to push into it. There is never a real privacy of the body that can coexist with intercourse: with being entered. The vagina itself is muscled and the muscles have to be pushed apart. The thrusting is persistent invasion. She is opened up, split down the center. She is occupied--physically, internally, in her privacy. ... There is no analogue anywhere among subordinated groups of people to this experience of being made for intercourse: for penetration, entry, occupation. There is no analogue in occupied countries or in dominated races or in imprisoned dissidents or in colonialized cultures or in the submission of children to adults or in the atrocities that have marked the twentieth century ranging from Auschwitz to the Gulag. There is nothing exactly the same, and this is not because the political invasion and significance of intercourse is banal up against these other hierarchies and brutalities. Intercourse is a particular reality for women as an inferior class; and it has, in it, as part of it, violation of boundaries, taking over, occupation, destruction of privacy, all of which are construed to be normal and also fundamental to continuing human existence. There is nothing that happens to any other civilly inferior people that is the same in its meaning and in its effect even when those people are forced into sexual availability, heterosexual or homosexual; while the subject people, for instance, may be forced to have intercourse with those who dominate them, the God who does not exist did not make human existence, broadly speaking, dependent on their compliance. The political meaning of intercourse for women is the fundamental question of feminism and freedom: can an occupied people--physically occupied inside, internally invaded--be free; can those with a metaphysically compromised privacy have self-determination; can those without a biologically based physical integrity have self-respect?




So tell me again how the phrase 'all sex is rape' is somehow being unfair to the garbage that this woman produced?



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20 Mar 2012, 7:43 pm

this was you speaking out against feminists, DC:

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Why exactly do you feel the need to show 'feminist solidarity' when someone claiming to be a feminist loses the plot and starts demanding absurd things like this or that 'all sex is rape' etc etc etc


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That wasn't a dig at you Hyperlex, at various times the feminist movement has gotten behind some strange ideas because they came from radical feminists and at various times erupted into self righteous outrage about absurd things.

you were telling me what feminists supposedly do. but we didn't do that. and we are feminists.


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20 Mar 2012, 7:56 pm

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So tell me again how the phrase 'all sex is rape' is somehow being unfair to the garbage that this woman produced?

I don't know what to tell you.
When one reads the passage you quoted with a basic understanding of the book's topic,
that being the experience of heterosexual sex within a patriarchal society,
then "all sex is rape" appears not even an oversimplification, but a flat-out made-up phrase.

I've yet to meet someone who makes said stupifying claim who's actually read the damned book, is what I'm sayin'.


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20 Mar 2012, 8:00 pm

ValentineWiggin wrote:
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So tell me again how the phrase 'all sex is rape' is somehow being unfair to the garbage that this woman produced?

I don't know what to tell you.
When one reads the passage you quoted with a basic understanding of the book's topic,
that being the experience of heterosexual sex within a patriarchal society,
then "all sex is rape" appears not even an oversimplification, but a flat-out made-up phrase.

I've yet to meet someone who makes said stupifying claim who's actually read the damned book, is what I'm sayin'.

it seems like the passage is saying that women are subjugated by patriarchal society, and that the act of sexual interccourse is a metaphorical example of that power differential. that we have sex with our oppressors, in a sense. and sometimes we are also sexually assaulted in addition to that.

i don't agree, i am just doing my own summary.


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20 Mar 2012, 8:01 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
this was you speaking out against feminists, DC:

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Why exactly do you feel the need to show 'feminist solidarity' when someone claiming to be a feminist loses the plot and starts demanding absurd things like this or that 'all sex is rape' etc etc etc


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That wasn't a dig at you Hyperlex, at various times the feminist movement has gotten behind some strange ideas because they came from radical feminists and at various times erupted into self righteous outrage about absurd things.

you were telling me what feminists supposedly do. but we didn't do that. and we are feminists.


I'm trying, actually, to move us back from a compound premise:
"The feminists who said X, Y, Z are representative of a millions strong group" (lulzy in itself)
to a more simple one:
"Some feminists said X, Y, and Z".
it's not looking good for the latter claim.


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20 Mar 2012, 8:03 pm

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So tell me again how the phrase 'all sex is rape' is somehow being unfair to the garbage that this woman produced?

I don't know what to tell you.
When one reads the passage you quoted with a basic understanding of the book's topic,
that being the experience of heterosexual sex within a patriarchal society,
then "all sex is rape" appears not even an oversimplification, but a flat-out made-up phrase.

I've yet to meet someone who makes said stupifying claim who's actually read the damned book, is what I'm sayin'.

it seems like the passage is saying that women are subjugated by patriarchal society, and that the act of sexual interccourse is a metaphorical example of that power differential. that we have sex with our oppressors, in a sense. and sometimes we are also sexually assaulted in addition to that.

i don't agree, i am just doing my own summary.


True.
Any act can be used as (and experienced as) an expression of cultural oppression.


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20 Mar 2012, 8:25 pm

Feminism has always been a big part of my life my mom is the strongest women I know I look up to women as role models more then men women are strong intelligent beatiful most of my close friends are women too I am bigender so the only time I get to show girl side is when I am hanging out with them.



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20 Mar 2012, 9:33 pm

I dunno. I often get the feeling Dworkin simply wrote down what a lot of people were secretly thinking. I do sometimes feel like a member of the 'inferior' sex because the hole in my body was put there for the purpose of being penetrated. That I have organs that are there for the purpose of my body being parasitised to continue the human race. That for thousands of years, being penetrated and carrying babies was mandatory. You don't carry around that kind of cultural baggage lightly, especially when the facts of your biology seem to confirm it.

It is genuinely a deep source of sadness for me. I understand that this is not the case for other women, but I don't think I'm alone in this.


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20 Mar 2012, 9:45 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
this was you speaking out against feminists, DC:

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Why exactly do you feel the need to show 'feminist solidarity' when someone claiming to be a feminist loses the plot and starts demanding absurd things like this or that 'all sex is rape' etc etc etc


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That wasn't a dig at you Hyperlex, at various times the feminist movement has gotten behind some strange ideas because they came from radical feminists and at various times erupted into self righteous outrage about absurd things.

you were telling me what feminists supposedly do. but we didn't do that. and we are feminists.



I am a man.
I have never raped anyone.
Therefore men do not rape.

Same logic as you are using and just as untrue... :roll:



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20 Mar 2012, 10:03 pm

DC wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
this was you speaking out against feminists, DC:

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Why exactly do you feel the need to show 'feminist solidarity' when someone claiming to be a feminist loses the plot and starts demanding absurd things like this or that 'all sex is rape' etc etc etc


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That wasn't a dig at you Hyperlex, at various times the feminist movement has gotten behind some strange ideas because they came from radical feminists and at various times erupted into self righteous outrage about absurd things.

you were telling me what feminists supposedly do. but we didn't do that. and we are feminists.



I am a man.
I have never raped anyone.
Therefore men do not rape.

Same logic as you are using and just as untrue... :roll:

show me where i said that men are rapists.


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20 Mar 2012, 10:10 pm

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women are strong intelligent beautiful.



Some are, and some aren't.



TBQH I scoff at those who idealize entire groups people; especially the idealization of women as the "fair sex". And do not try to deploy the false dichotomy that I either love women as a whole or hate them entirely! They too are flawed, imperfect, self-interested humans.........As are men.



On the lighter side, here's a hilarious quote by Sandra Harding:

Isaac Newton's Principia Mathematica is a 'rape manual' because science is a male rape of female nature.

:lmao:



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20 Mar 2012, 10:15 pm

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women are strong intelligent beautiful.



Some are, and some aren't.



TBQH....I scoff at those who idealize entire groups people; especially the idealization of women as the "fair sex". And do not try to deploy the false dichotomy that I either love women as a whole or hate them entirely! They are flawed, imperfect, self-interested humans too, as are men.


I find women to be more beautiful then men plus they have better qualitys too.



20 Mar 2012, 10:17 pm

Joker wrote:
AspieRogue wrote:
Joker wrote:
women are strong intelligent beautiful.



Some are, and some aren't.



TBQH....I scoff at those who idealize entire groups people; especially the idealization of women as the "fair sex". And do not try to deploy the false dichotomy that I either love women as a whole or hate them entirely! They are flawed, imperfect, self-interested humans too, as are men.


I find women to be more beautiful then men plus they have better qualitys too.


Well Joker, they certainly are more physically attractive than men......Sounds to me like you get along very well with them so you never see the shady side of women. I however, have had much worse luck than you have.



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20 Mar 2012, 10:18 pm

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I find women to be more beautiful then men plus they have better qualitys too.


Women are people - not better or worse, just people.



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20 Mar 2012, 11:30 pm

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I dunno. I often get the feeling Dworkin simply wrote down what a lot of people were secretly thinking. I do sometimes feel like a member of the 'inferior' sex because the hole in my body was put there for the purpose of being penetrated. That I have organs that are there for the purpose of my body being parasitised to continue the human race. That for thousands of years, being penetrated and carrying babies was mandatory. You don't carry around that kind of cultural baggage lightly, especially when the facts of your biology seem to confirm it.

It is genuinely a deep source of sadness for me. I understand that this is not the case for other women, but I don't think I'm alone in this.



I am asexual....I can usually pretend the hole is not there except once a month. I feel more or less genderless most of the time.
Are you asexual too, if not, you are a good candidate.

I dont feel inferior because of my biology though...sometimes I do feel inferior due to my introverted awkwardness.

I hate that you feel so bad about being female. I believe that women are more than just reproductive hosts for humanity. Women are also the creative and gentler one of the 2 sexes...our creativity is partly due to our biology as well. If the world embraced the female creativity, I think things would be alot different. I dont mean like the Condalizza Rice's and Hillary Clinton's of the world, which are women who play by men's rules and are just like men with vaginas. But if women who embrace the best qualities of women like nurturing, gentleness, compassion, creativity and govern with a strong but gentle will were in power, I think the world will be a better place for both man and woman.

It is no coincidence that countries that treat women better have less suffering overall.

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21 Mar 2012, 12:41 am

Tequila wrote:
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I find women to be more beautiful then men plus they have better qualitys too.


Women are people - not better or worse, just people.


When did I say they where n better I just get along with women better then men.