Sand wrote:
I personally enjoy being called stupid, insane, etc. because it means I've hit a tender spot that is central and probably important. But it requires a certain arrogance in believing in one's self. Apparently a good many people are too insecure to take that kind of assault.
I happen to be an extremely insecure person, and being called names or having innuendo thrown at me can really send me on a tailspin ... but you truly believe hitting alleged "tender spots" with words like stupid or insane is actually helpful to anyone other than possibly yourself? In all of my days, I have never before heard of any such thing. Rather, I have come to embrace this:
"That the man who is making the approach has had the same difficulty, that he obviously knows what he is talking about, that his whole deportment shouts at the new prospect that he is a man with a real answer, that he has no attitude of Holier Than Thou, nothing whatever except the sincere desire to be helpful; that there are no fees to pay, no axes to grind, no people to please, no lectures to be endured - these are the conditions we have found most effective. After such an approach many take up their beds and walk again." ("A.A.", the book)
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29 Jan 2010, 4:20 pm
