As a guy who has seen 6 different escorts across 10 different sessions within a six month period (May to November), I feel qualified to speak on the issue! lol. For the record, I got tested for STDs in September and since then I've only seen 1 escort regularly (whom I have seen 5 times between August and November). And I always use condoms for intercourse (but not oral sex but who does anyway?). So I'm taking proper precautions.
Why do I do it? I'm an introverted, socially awkward, likely Aspie (My Aspie score is 138/200) who finds it really difficult to find myself in those situations where women offer me sex. I've had sex with two civilian women (both neurotypicals) in my lifetime. And it didn't work out with those girls. The first due to a personality clash. The second because she was psycho obsessive. And I wasn't attracted to the second one (obese, very unattractive). She just came on strong with me and I pounced. lol.
It's difficult and tedious to navigate through the social labyrinth that is dating. Due to my Aspie-ness, I tend to engage in a lot of one-way conversation with people and have little interest in two-way conversation. With women, I force myself to be two-way and it feels forced and unnatural to me. I'm also socially awkward, have poor social skills, etc. So yeah I feel like it's more worth it to just pay $200-250/hour for the End Boss Game Genie code than to try my hand at navigating through the social labyrinth in some sort of quest to get laid. It's like playing one of those insanely hard video games where you keep dying and dying and dying and you see no solution in sight to beat the game. Beating a tough video game gives you a sense of accomplishment. But if you just keep dying and dying, you feel demoralized. Plus on top of that, with dating, not only are you investing so much time and effort but you are also indirectly paying for it anyway. For my past date, I paid about $15-16 for her share and I haven't even got a kiss yet (I'm not complaining though. She's a nice girl and we've got a second date. And I'm really hoping that it works out with us. But I'm just making the point that dating isn't really "free" either). And I paid about the same for this other girl and I didn't even get a second date out of it!
I must point out that sex with a woman you barely know often feels awkward as hell (I've had some good experiences though). And I think sex is insanely overrated. Masturbation feels better than sex for me and it's the only way I'm able to get off. I can't get off from another woman. Only through masturbation or my Fleshlight (yes I own one. But it's too tedious for me to even be bothered so I prefer to just use my hand). I bet my reduced sensitivity during sexual encounters with women has something to do with my Aspie-ness somehow.
I still have the desire to seek out sex from escorts in hopes that one day I'll get over my sensitivity issues and I'll be able to cum from sex. Maybe it's a comfort level thing. A lot of women have difficulty cumming from sex. It's just unusual in my case because I'm a guy and most guys are like automatic soap dispensers down there.
And I also have the desire to seek out sex (and more. Ideally, a long-term relationship. Though I'm not quite sure if I really do want a relationship) from "civilian" women. However trust is a big issue for me (a good escort won't judge me if I lose my erection or fail to get hard or otherwise don't perform up to standard or whatever. They get paid for their time either way). My ex-girlfriend referred to me as "Viagra Boy" to her cousin after a break-up and her getting mad at me even though at the time we were intimate she told me "it's ok". And the psycho girl, drunk dialed me, complaining that I don't love her and mocking me for going soft during sex. Experiences like that have made me go through life thinking that women are self-centered b*****s who aren't to be trusted and don't deserve respect. I want to meet a nice girl who isn't like that. I think that if I meet a nice girl I can trust and am comfortable with, the sexual issues will go away. I have sought help for my sexual issues and I've been told that they are psychological since I can masturbate to an erection and then to orgasm just fine. There's not much they can do for me pharmaceutical wise. Still though, even with the sexual issues, that doesn't give women the right to be nasty to me. I deserve a girl who is more understanding and isn't a b***h.
So yeah the escort thing is not about me hating women. It's a safe haven for me to explore my sexuality with a non-judgmental professional (I did have an encounter with a nasty escort once but I should have known better than to see her since she was a relative unknown. The well-reviewed ladies always treat me with respect and are sensitive to the fact that I'm socially awkward). The escorts I've seen are rather accommodating to my fetishes and interests (ie. blowjobs including deep-throating, ass-worship, face-sitting, cunnilingus, analingus, anal sex, etc.) Whereas with the two "civilian" girls I was with, the sex was very vanilla and I'd have to beg for blowjobs, which were very much uninspired.
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02 Dec 2012, 9:18 pm
