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22 Oct 2013, 7:37 am

Wow, ok. So no mercy whatsoever even if your loved one explained to what went on exactly and that he/she was sucked into it and didn't actually abuse the teenager.

Ok, whatever you say. You'd rock the Inquisition world, that's for sure.



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22 Oct 2013, 7:43 am

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A firm line of demarcation can help prevent all kinds of unwanted consequences.


...in addition to wanted consequences....



Such wit, such rapier like repartee :roll: :roll:


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22 Oct 2013, 7:46 am

DentArthurDent wrote:
ArrantPariah wrote:
DentArthurDent wrote:
A firm line of demarcation can help prevent all kinds of unwanted consequences.


...in addition to wanted consequences....



Such wit, such rapier like repartee :roll: :roll:


Thank you. 8)



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22 Oct 2013, 7:48 am

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Comments on blogs do not amount to scientific data, they are anecdotal. Different people may experience sexual abuse differently, and the fact there are some adults saying that they "wished" that they were the boy, doesn't mean that they would feel the same way if it happened to them. You have to actually get the official position of psychologists, especially child psychologists who have specialised in this, order to get an informed view on the issue. Comments on blogs don't count.


Actually, someone was previously telling us to search the internet for anecdotes from people who felt that they had been traumatized by early sexual experiences with teachers. Now, if we find anecdotes from people whose experiences were different, they "don't count?"


I didn't ask you to search for comments on blogs, I asked you to search for websites of support groups for male survivors of sexual abuse and look at the information on them.


And, those are the only search results that count?



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22 Oct 2013, 7:51 am

MCalavera wrote:
Wow, ok. So no mercy whatsoever even if your loved one explained to what went on exactly and that he/she was sucked into it and didn't actually abuse the teenager.

Ok, whatever you say. You'd rock the Inquisition world, that's for sure.


The question you had just asked me was like me asking you if you had thought one of your close male family members should be punished if he was arrested by the authorities for raping a woman. Would you?



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22 Oct 2013, 7:56 am

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Hey, Jono, theoretical question:

Let's say you have an adult sibling/loved one who got involved in a scandal similar to this with a teenager (no feeling of abuse reported from the teenager and the teenager is actually fine with what happened) and he/she got caught by the authorities, would you make sure he/she gets punished by law and, if so, what is a fair punishment for such a case?


Do you think, that if your sister drove double as fast as the speed limit is, in your country, that it would be unfair to sue her for driving double as fast as allowed, because out of luck, noone was harmed?



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22 Oct 2013, 8:00 am

ArrantPariah wrote:
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Comments on blogs do not amount to scientific data, they are anecdotal. Different people may experience sexual abuse differently, and the fact there are some adults saying that they "wished" that they were the boy, doesn't mean that they would feel the same way if it happened to them. You have to actually get the official position of psychologists, especially child psychologists who have specialised in this, order to get an informed view on the issue. Comments on blogs don't count.


Actually, someone was previously telling us to search the internet for anecdotes from people who felt that they had been traumatized by early sexual experiences with teachers. Now, if we find anecdotes from people whose experiences were different, they "don't count?"


I didn't ask you to search for comments on blogs, I asked you to search for websites of support groups for male survivors of sexual abuse and look at the information on them.


And, those are the only search results that count?


This goes for anything, if you are doing a Google search to get an informed view of something, then certain sources count more than others, yes. In this case, if it's a choice between what experts say and what a few random commenters say blogs, I'd have to go with the experts.



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22 Oct 2013, 8:00 am

If it's not an actual rape, and just a label called "statutory rape" (no abuse and no victim), I would hope he doesn't get caught and be punished especially when the law is going to be too harsh for something so relatively trivial.

Why would I not have mercy on my own loved one if the situation wasn't rape and I just respond by lacking empathy and acting like a monster?

Now if it was a real crime like real rape, like murder, and all that stuff, then that would be different story. But it would still hurt me to see my loved go through this regardless.



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22 Oct 2013, 8:02 am

Schneekugel wrote:
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Hey, Jono, theoretical question:

Let's say you have an adult sibling/loved one who got involved in a scandal similar to this with a teenager (no feeling of abuse reported from the teenager and the teenager is actually fine with what happened) and he/she got caught by the authorities, would you make sure he/she gets punished by law and, if so, what is a fair punishment for such a case?


Do you think, that if your sister drove double as fast as the speed limit is, in your country, that it would be unfair to sue her for driving double as fast as allowed, because out of luck, noone was harmed?


Money comes and goes. I would be glad she didn't get hurt more than worry about the fine.

I would also be fine with having her license stripped (for a while on first offense at least).



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22 Oct 2013, 9:49 am

Coitus is a natural part of life for other animal species. Our species is uniquely absurd in seeking to associate this perfectly natural act with enormous layers of guilt, shame, and psychological trauma.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pN4HvrMXbmA[/youtube]


For reasons outlined in the above video, it is perfectly sensible to keep penises away from teenaged girls. Girls have wombs, and may suffer a lot of consequences if impregnated. Shaming, and legal consequences for adult men, both serve as useful and powerful deterrents.

For boys: spermatozoa is very cheap. If we're not ejaculating into a vagina, then we'll empty it into a tissue, or it will come out during a wet dream. Trying to associate any shame with these activities, and trying to keep boys away from willing cougars, is useless and petty.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oYkXcHLPf18[/youtube]



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22 Oct 2013, 10:30 am

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wf-CaIwXaAg[/youtube]


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22 Oct 2013, 11:17 am

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Coitus is a natural part of life for other any species. Our species is uniquely absurd in seeking to associate this perfectly natural act with enormous layers of guilt, shame, and psychological trauma.


Actually, that's entirely wrong. No human society has ever associated the act itself with any of that, other than perhaps certain gnostic religious sects who saw reproduction itself as evil, such as the Cathars:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Catharism .

In fact, not even the most religious groups, who think that any sex outside marriage is immoral, associate the act itself with "enormous layers of guilt, shame, and psychological trauma" as you have just claimed, even they regard it as either pleasurable or associate it with reproduction, they just want it done within the bounds of traditional marriage. However, regardless of whether a society is permissive or conservative with regards to sexuality, they all mostly agree that as bare minimum, consent, (even informed consent, which an immature child or teenager cannot give to an adult) has to be given before any sexual activity takes place. So no, the human species is not different at all with regard to sexuality in that respect to other species, as long as it is done while conforming to the rules of society.

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[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pN4HvrMXbmA[/youtube]


For reasons outlined in the above video, it is perfectly sensible to keep penises away from teenaged girls. Girls have wombs, and may suffer a lot of consequences if impregnated. Shaming, and legal consequences for adult men, both serve as useful and powerful deterrents.

For boys: spermatozoa is very cheap. If we're not ejaculating into a vagina, then we'll empty it into a tissue, or it will come out during a wet dream. Trying to associate any shame with these activities, and trying to keep boys away from willing cougars, is useless and petty.


The above video talks about Bateman's Principle which has nothing whatsoever at all to do with adults having sex with children, or whether it should be allowed. Not to mention that Bateman's Principle, at least in it's original form and the way it's described in that video, is actually wrong it especially doesn't apply in that way to humans. In fact, it doesn't even apply in that way to closest relatives, namely the chimpanzees and bonobos (because the is an evolutionary benefit for females to mate multiple males), that's how we know that it probably doesn't apply to humans either. Also, just by bringing this up, you are invoking the naturalistic fallacy here, just because something is found in nature, that does not make it right ethically.



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22 Oct 2013, 11:28 am

ArrantPariah wrote:
Coitus is a natural part of life for other animal species. Our species is uniquely absurd in seeking to associate this perfectly natural act with enormous layers of guilt, shame, and psychological trauma.


Exactly how is "This is how a condom works." No have fun with your friends associated with "seeking to associate this perfectly natural act with enormous layers of guilt, shame, and psychological trauma."

Could you please decide yourself, what you want to accuse us europeans? Sometimes you are writing about us being so perverted, only because of us not having that typical problems with sex as US people have it, and suddenly, only because of you poor boy being forced to only have access to 90% of our citizens, we are suddenly "associating this perfectly natural act with enormous layers of guilt, shame, and psychological trauma"?

Could you decide yourself, which of both you want to accuse us? Or is that oppinion of yours changing, according what fits the actual topic best to rant around?



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22 Oct 2013, 1:17 pm

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In fact, not even the most religious groups, who think that any sex outside marriage is immoral, associate the act itself with "enormous layers of guilt, shame, and psychological trauma" as you have just claimed, even they regard it as either pleasurable or associate it with reproduction, they just want it done within the bounds of traditional marriage.


Oh? Well, someone above was arguing that boys shouldn't have coitus with MILFs because of the possibility of experiencing latent psychological trauma during adulthood.

http://www.vatican.va/archive/ccc_css/a ... s2c2a6.htm

Catholic Catechism wrote:
...Lust is disordered desire for or inordinate enjoyment of sexual pleasure. Sexual pleasure is morally disordered when sought for itself, isolated from its procreative and unitive purposes.

...By masturbation is to be understood the deliberate stimulation of the genital organs in order to derive sexual pleasure. Both the Magisterium of the Church, in the course of a constant tradition, and the moral sense of the faithful have been in no doubt and have firmly maintained that masturbation is an intrinsically and gravely disordered action. The deliberate use of the sexual faculty, for whatever reason, outside of marriage is essentially contrary to its purpose. For here sexual pleasure is sought outside of the sexual relationship which is demanded by the moral order and in which the total meaning of mutual self-giving and human procreation in the context of true love is achieved.

...Homosexuality refers to relations between men or between women who experience an exclusive or predominant sexual attraction toward persons of the same sex. It has taken a great variety of forms through the centuries and in different cultures. Its psychological genesis remains largely unexplained. Basing itself on Sacred Scripture, which presents homosexual acts as acts of grave depravity, tradition has always declared that homosexual acts are intrinsically disordered. They are contrary to the natural law. They close the sexual act to the gift of life. They do not proceed from a genuine affective and sexual complementarity. Under no circumstances can they be approved.


So, what is one to make of all of this talk of being "morally disordered", "intrinsically and gravely disordered", and "intrinsically disordered?" Teenaged boys can generate buckets of sperm every day. Why not let them have a little fun, and go ahead and ejaculate, without calling them "intrinsically and gravely disordered?"

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However, regardless of whether a society is permissive or conservative with regards to sexuality, they all mostly agree that as bare minimum, consent, (even informed consent, which an immature child or teenager cannot give to an adult) has to be given before any sexual activity takes place.


A teenager can consent. The only distinction is that his consent has no legal bearing, depending upon the jurisdiction. Albania says that one can consent at 14. In Mexico, one can consent at 12. Are 14-year-old Albanians really such much more mature than 14-year-old Americans, that their consent is meaningful whilst the consent of their American counterparts is not? Laws are purely artificial in this regard.

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So no, the human species is not different at all with regard to sexuality in that respect to other species, as long as it is done while conforming to the rules of society.


Conforming to so-called "rules of society" is uniquely human.

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The above video talks about Bateman's Principle which has nothing whatsoever at all to do with adults having sex with children, or whether it should be allowed. Not to mention that Bateman's Principle, at least in it's original form and the way it's described in that video, is actually wrong it especially doesn't apply in that way to humans. In fact, it doesn't even apply in that way to closest relatives, namely the chimpanzees and bonobos (because the is an evolutionary benefit for females to mate multiple males), that's how we know that it probably doesn't apply to humans either.


Scientists are applying Bateman's principle all over the place. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3096780/

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Also, just by bringing this up, you are invoking the naturalistic fallacy here, just because something is found in nature, that does not make it right ethically.


And how does one determine what is "right ethically?" If a simple act does no party any harm, then it should be "right ethically."



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22 Oct 2013, 1:29 pm

This gives new meaning to " Teacher's Pet."
Even if it was legal,it's unprofessional,like office dalliances.It just causes trouble in the long run.What if a boy gets mad because teach didn't pick him to pound erasers?More like pound something else.And if the boy does not please her,will she get mad?Will he have to write a hundred times"I will not ejaculate too soon?"And what if he drops the teach for a girl his age,a jealous grown woman could make a young girls life a living hell .Then some of the male teachers will start to b***h if they don't have the same rights as the females to screw the students.


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22 Oct 2013, 2:17 pm

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This gives new meaning to " Teacher's Pet."
Even if it was legal,it's unprofessional,like office dalliances.It just causes trouble in the long run.What if a boy gets mad because teach didn't pick him to pound erasers?More like pound something else.And if the boy does not please her,will she get mad?Will he have to write a hundred times"I will not ejaculate too soon?"And what if he drops the teach for a girl his age,a jealous grown woman could make a young girls life a living hell .Then some of the male teachers will start to b***h if they don't have the same rights as the females to screw the students.


Well, okay. You're starting to make some sense for the other side.