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30 Dec 2013, 9:47 am

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Maybe she baited somebody into an argument today, and then tried to "play the victim". :idea:


Maybe someone automatically assumed she tried to play the victim because she's a woman.


Maybe someone observed a few of her posts on here, and came to the conclusion that she possibly has some sort of "victim complex".


That might be the case... but even so, it does not negate the very real point she was making.


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30 Dec 2013, 10:11 am

Feralucce wrote:
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Maybe she baited somebody into an argument today, and then tried to "play the victim". :idea:


Maybe someone automatically assumed she tried to play the victim because she's a woman.


Maybe someone observed a few of her posts on here, and came to the conclusion that she possibly has some sort of "victim complex".


That might be the case... but even so, it does not negate the very real point she was making.


Aha! So she does have a victim complex.



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30 Dec 2013, 10:35 am

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Arrant: I stand by my statement... I believe you are being purposely obtuse... end of discussion


And, Mr. Trigonometry, I stand by mine. Image


1) obtuse in a non-mathematical definition is "not quick or alert in perception, feeling, or intellect; not sensitive or observant; dull."
2) In mathematics, it is geometry, not trig
3) If you are going to insult me, do it right.
4) If you REALLY believe what you are saying about this stuff... Never mind... I cannot finish this thought without being insulting...


Okay: Mr. Geometry, then. :salut:

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But I have to tell you... most people do not want or need a pat on the head... to most, nts and Aspies alike... that is condescending...

Your feeling that everyone crave a pat on the head means that you believe that everyone needs to have someone invade their personal space and touch them... Very few peopel crave that kind of contact...


A metaphorical pat on the head, then. Some token or expression of appreciation. No touching, and no tactile/kinesthetic stimulation.

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Let's talk about the christian god... you asked "How would churchgoers who venerate Yahweh be minimizing him by glorifying him?" Different setting... according to the book, the deity ASKED for that behavior... "Benevolent Sexism" does not ask, it just does, presuming that your treatment of them is what they want, need or should receive, REGARDLESS of their wishes...

Ironically enough... They fall into the same category as benevolent sexists... they are providing the behavior that THEY feel he wants... regardless of his wishes... with every denomination handling it differently, all worshiping the SAME deity... And none of them getting it right... or at best... ONE group getting it right...

but the example is flawed in that the deity is not going to give you direct feedback... hence the schisms of faith... and women will...


Well, the deity did get in a big huff and flood the whole planet once.

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My point remains... benevolent sexism is advocating this behavior... without asking the women what they REALLY want... Veneration only serves to set one aside... and while a small percentage of women want that, most do not... most polls and interviews show that women want to be a partner, not have someone worship them... so intent aside... the benevolent sexist is presuming that they know what the woman needs and wants better than she does and is imposing his will and behavior upon her... which is the very thing that feminism is opposed to.

Women are indeed mysterious creatures. It is impossible to fathom what that "mystical, nice-smelling collective" really wants sometimes.

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You are basically arguing that a guilded cage is better than a wrought iron one or a locked basement... it is still a prison of expectation imposed by the will of another... Which is exactly what gender roles are...

Interesting metaphor. So, display nothing that could be construed as chivalry to a lady, or you are confining her to a cage?

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Why do girls play with dolls instead of erector sets? because they are girl toys? Why? because baby dolls trained them to take care of siblings and eventually their own children in past ages... Why can't girls play with erector sets, build robots, be video game designers, assistant directors, ceos? There is no reason... except that society states that they should be girls...

Well, girls can play with erector sets, build robots, be video game designers, assistant directors, and ceos. You're making a big sexist leap there. Girls play with dolls because they like to play with dolls.

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Hell, with some of the tools of the modern geneticist, it is possible to remove the genetic material from an egg and fertilize another woman's egg and make a baby... So... LITERALLY, the differences between male and female are moot... especially in that case... which one is the mother? which is the father? Next time, does the other one carry the baby?

No need for men any more, then. Our spermatozoa are obsolete.



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30 Dec 2013, 10:55 am

By the by, a couple of days ago I went to pick up a pizza, and the waitress who got it ready for me called me "Honey" at least five times over the course of 2 minutes.

I was surprised, but not offended at all. In fact, I rather enjoyed it. I'll bet her male customers leave her really big tips.

Imagine if it had been the other way around. A man getting the pizza ready, and calling a female customer "Honey." Oh, there would be Hell to pay, and the poor guy would be out of a job.



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30 Dec 2013, 11:04 am

Depends on the man.If a gay man says it women don't mind.The lady at the liquor store always calls me sweetie,I don't care.Sugarbuns is never a good choice.


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30 Dec 2013, 11:06 am

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Well, the deity did get in a big huff and flood the whole planet once.

Not according to the geological record... Mythology is not a valid argument

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Women are indeed mysterious creatures. It is impossible to fathom what that "mystical, nice-smelling collective" really wants sometimes.

There are two issues here... 1) There is no collective... they are individuals... 2) No... it is not... ASK THEM... they will tell you.

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Interesting metaphor. So, display nothing that could be construed as chivalry to a lady, or you are confining her to a cage?

Chivalry was the knights code in feudal europe... it portrayed women as inferior... so, yes... it is just as bad... Hell, by the laws of chivalry, a lord could have sex with one of his vassals on her wedding night... Screw chivalry... why not try respect for the individual, regardless of gender...

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Well, girls can play with erector sets, build robots, be video game designers, assistant directors, and ceos. You're making a big sexist leap there. Girls play with dolls because they like to play with dolls.

See... this is where experts will disagree with you.

Please answer the following question: Are you playing devil's advocate, or do you really believe what you've been typing?


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30 Dec 2013, 11:38 am

I didn't like playing with dolls,I liked playing with cars and toy horses.Dolls were boring,it was more fun to dig in the dirt.


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30 Dec 2013, 12:13 pm

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Aha! So she does have a victim complex.


hell if I know... Didn't read the rest of her posts... I was setting aside the snide personal comments and concentrating on the truth of the matter...


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30 Dec 2013, 12:39 pm

Feralucce wrote:
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Well, the deity did get in a big huff and flood the whole planet once.

Not according to the geological record... Mythology is not a valid argument


We were talking about mythology there.

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Women are indeed mysterious creatures. It is impossible to fathom what that "mystical, nice-smelling collective" really wants sometimes.

There are two issues here... 1) There is no collective... they are individuals... 2) No... it is not... ASK THEM... they will tell you.


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Interesting metaphor. So, display nothing that could be construed as chivalry to a lady, or you are confining her to a cage?

Chivalry was the knights code in feudal europe... it portrayed women as inferior... so, yes... it is just as bad... Hell, by the laws of chivalry, a lord could have sex with one of his vassals on her wedding night... Screw chivalry... why not try respect for the individual, regardless of gender...


Okay. No special privileges for the ladies, then.

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Well, girls can play with erector sets, build robots, be video game designers, assistant directors, and ceos. You're making a big sexist leap there. Girls play with dolls because they like to play with dolls.

See... this is where experts will disagree with you.


What "experts?" Miss Lizzy disagrees with you.

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Please answer the following question: Are you playing devil's advocate, or do you really believe what you've been typing?


I don't pretend to adhere to any particular ideology, Satanic or otherwise.



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30 Dec 2013, 12:44 pm

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Depends on the man.If a gay man says it women don't mind.The lady at the liquor store always calls me sweetie,I don't care.Sugarbuns is never a good choice.


But a heterosexual man, and out comes the pepper spray.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NXhnzIO5N30[/youtube]



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30 Dec 2013, 2:28 pm

ArrantPariah wrote:
We were talking about mythology there.

No... you brought it into the conversation...

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Women are indeed mysterious creatures. It is impossible to fathom what that "mystical, nice-smelling collective" really wants sometimes.

There are two issues here... 1) There is no collective... they are individuals... 2) No... it is not... ASK THEM... they will tell you.


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Okay... one author... not a collective, still an individual... You were referring to a collective...



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Okay. No special privileges for the ladies, then.

No special privileges needed... just respect for all... regardless of gender.

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What "experts?" Miss Lizzy disagrees with you.

ACTUALLY, she proved my point. She didn't like playing with dolls. Which was kind of my point... toys are only gender specific because society states that they are.

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Please answer the following question: Are you playing devil's advocate, or do you really believe what you've been typing?

I don't pretend to adhere to any particular ideology, Satanic or otherwise.

And still not answering the question...

Since you can't be bothered answer a simple question, and only respond with more intentional evasion ... I believe that I am wasting my time responding to trollish behavior.


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30 Dec 2013, 3:00 pm

ArrantPariah wrote:
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Depends on the man.If a gay man says it women don't mind.The lady at the liquor store always calls me sweetie,I don't care.Sugarbuns is never a good choice.


But a heterosexual man, and out comes the pepper spray.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NXhnzIO5N30[/youtube]

Depends.I've heard sweetie used by men and women as a term of affection.If I'm sitting at a table,and a man says,"pass the salt,hon,"I'm not likely to even notice that,because he would say that if I was 9 or 99.It has more to do with the tone of voice that's used.


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30 Dec 2013, 6:30 pm

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It has more to do with the tone of voice that's used.


I suppose that how you say it can make a difference

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FgAoGf84-3A[/youtube]



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30 Dec 2013, 6:40 pm

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j4xpPJgX0Nk[/youtube]



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30 Dec 2013, 6:59 pm

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[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j4xpPJgX0Nk[/youtube]


"There's a fine line between being a strong woman and being a difficult woman."

"Difficult" woman????

Do I need to explain to anyone why this is problematic?



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30 Dec 2013, 7:44 pm

Difficult...problematic...

*Snort*

If I didn't know better, I'd have believed that word surgically chosen.