Male disposability, the Apex fallacy, and male privilege

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TRIGGER WARNING!! !!This post contains discussions about physical and sexual violence.




I would like to clarify that the purpose of this thread is in no way to deny any struggles women have or continue to experience. After all, I think we can all agree that anyone who would gaslight and deny the struggles of an entire class of people on the basis of their gender is a sh!tty human being. I simply want to shed some light on the oft overlooked struggles and adversity many men face.

With that out of the way, let's begin:

The very first thing I would like to talk about is the social phenomenon known as male disposability. Remember that scene in the Titanic, when women and children are called to board the lifeboats, while the men (with the exception of the wealthy ones like Cal) are ordered to stay behind and die? Remember how several men were gunned down for the crime of not wanting to die? This is actually a fairly common social phenomenon. While an elite minority of men control the wealth and power in a society, the lives of the powerless and impoverished majority of men are considered by society to have significantly less value than those of child-bearing women. Not only is this vast majority of men overworked and underpaid, never getting a foothold in the social hierarchy; but they are treated as literal canon fodder sent out to die on the front lines of wars their neither had any control in the creation of nor benefit from in any way. These foot soldiers are never valued by their generals as anything more than a strategic asset to be sacrificed without a second thought, and often act as human shields to protect their "more important" superior officers. And even in times of peace, the destitute majority of men are commonly relegated to dangerous jobs like mining or construction, that result in high numbers of work-related injuries and fatalities. And to add insult to injury, the men doing these jobs are working for chicken scratch and struggle their whole lives from pay check to pay check. This culling of men is evolutionarily desirable, as it weeds the "unfit" males from the gene pool. It is also desirable by the upper echelon of men who hold power, as it serves to curtail the threat of potential competitors rising to challenge them.

The Apex Fallacy is a logical fallacy in which a group is evaluated according to the performance of only its best/strongest members. An example would be the statement that all basketball players are as skilled as Michael Jordan or Lebron James. Which is, of course, equally as absurd as arguing that because all cows are mammals, all mammals therefore must be cows. In relation to the male privilege argument, woke culture looks at who possesses the wealth and power in our society and sees that its mostly men, then concludes from that that all men are privileged. When the reality is that most of what it commonly described as male privilege is limited to the very small percentage of men at the top.

Now, let's look at some of the facts that woke culture doesn't want you to know about:

- The U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics reports that men represent more than 90% of work-related fatalities, being 10 times more likely to die due occupational hazards than women. We constantly hear about the Gender Wage Gap, and how women are paid less than men. And while that is a grave injustice which certainly needs to be addressed, women aren't dying in alarming numbers because of it. The fact that the wage gap gets all the media and academic attention while the gender death gap is swept under the rug and ignored goes to show how skewed our perspective is.

- Feminists and woke media outlets would like you to believe that violence disproportionately affects women, but that is simply not true. According to the CDC, 1 in 3 men experience physical or sexual violence from an intimate partner in their lifetime. According to international law scholar Solange Mouthaan, sexual and domestic violence against men is largely ignored in favor of prioritizing violence against women and children. It is estimated that most male victims of domestic violence never report the violence because of societal expectations of masculinity and fear of being dismissed or ridiculed, and third parties are 3 times as likely to report violence when the victim is female than when the victim is male. Furthermore, men face much higher rates of non-sexual violence than women. According to U.S. crime statistics from 1979 onward, 75% of homicide victims are men. A study predicts that 1 in 2,000 men will be killed by the police, while only 1 in 33,000 women will. Most people think that being raped is significantly more horrific than being stabbed or shot, even though there is no objective standard to determine that. From what I can gather, this belief relies on the circular argument that rape is more horrific because it happens to women, and women face more horrific violence because they are more likely to get raped. And in case you think I'm biased; I have never been stabbed or shot, but I have been raped.

- Men and boys represent the vast majority of deaths in wars. Feminists like to counter this point by bringing up the fact that women are largely barred from serving in the military. In response, I'd like to point out two facts: 1. While it is true that women are unfairly barred from serving in the military, nobody is dying as a result. Making this the priority of the conversation, over all the people who are actually dying every day, is f***ed up! 2. Even among civilians, men and boys were disproportionately targeted in mass killings and genocides like the Rwandan genocide, the Arminian genocide, the Anfal campaign, and many other atrocities. More than 90% of the civilian casualties in the Kosovo War were males.

- Male genital mutilation, often performed on children without their consent, remains legal and normalized in most Western countries.

- Men make 75% of the homeless population. Despite this, when I called a shelter when I was homeless, I was told that they only accept women and children. In other words, I was denied shelter when I was homeless specifically because of my gender. Somebody explain to me how I'm the privileged party in this scenario?! I'm sure somebody will argue that priority is given to women because I possess privileges they don't. What this person won't do is demonstrate or quantify the nature of this nebulous privilege they will assert without justification.

Despite all the above, I and millions of other men like me are constantly told we need to "check our male privilege". And yet, somehow, the same people making these claims never consider that being significantly less likely to become homeless, significantly less likely to die violently, and astronomically less likely to die while working to earn a meager living, constitute female privileges. And that is nothing short of blatant hypocrisy!

I was beaten by my own father before I could even walk. I was subjected to ritual mutilation without my consent. I was raped multiple times by multiple individuals. I was psychologically abused by me ex-fiancé. And then, simply because of my gender, it was assumed that I must have been the abuser. I got so much hate and abuse after my breakup that I nearly ended my own life. I was homeless no less than 5 different times in the past decade. And throughout all of that, I was constantly gaslighted about my experiences due to being a "privileged" male.

So go ahead! Explain to me where the privilege is in all that. I f***ing dare you!

All this is still not going to make me take the "red pill."

Some guys have it lousy, just like some women have it lousy.

Sure, men get abused.....and that should be acknowledged.

My life's mission is to MAKE SURE that I don't become "disposable."

I agree with you about the disparity, and the lack of education about men's suffering. That's why it's so important to focus on equality, egalitarianism, and treating all human beings with kindness and respect. Gender should never be a determining factor in how we treat or pre-judge others.

"It is impossible for a man to be a victim of domestic or spousal abuse." -- Lorena Bobbitt

For context, Lorena Bobbitt was a lady who cut off her husband's "you know what."

It's, in a small sense, akin to saying that people who are oppressed racially cannot be racists themselves.

Indeed, men as victims of domestic violence are not as acknowledged as women who are victims of domestic violence.

What bothers me sometimes is that "being the victim" becomes the dominant motif in a person's life.

^Yep....my sentiments, exactly!