Why Are Right Wing Men So Sad?
I'm not sure most men are sexually violent? there is, however, an undeniable misogynistic culture that persists among males (particularly those who consider themselves alphas) that is still discussed in locker rooms of sports clubs/teams.
The tinder age has mean't women have direct access now to literally thousands of these men. If a man is selected on one of these apps there's undeniably no confusion that he's expecting sex.
There's a reason frat-boy culture persists. Whatever part of the world you live in. The United states had a POTUS who celebrated being able to do this to any woman he wanted and a member of the supreme court who had a history of attempting to rape girls in his dorm.
We could have been having this conversation in 2016.
People do use Tinder for dating, not just hook ups (I hate that term, but I'm stuck for a better one right now).
I was reading r/askUK on Reddit earlier and the question was, "where did you meet your significant other?" And a lot met on Tinder and had been married for a few years.
So even then, it's not expected.
I was reading r/askUK on Reddit earlier and the question was, "where did you meet your significant other?" And a lot met on Tinder and had been married for a few years.
So even then, it's not expected.
That's true but because of the ratio of men:women on the apps any male who get's picked thinks they have a shot.
There's another of those Pavlovian conditioned responses, you have to admire the public relations campaign that has been waged in order to shut down thought. In the scenarios we are discussing, there may be no blame to go around - that is the only point that need be understood.
It's a woman's body, not a tray of sandwiches left in the break room. You can't just dive in, and be like "oh, my bad, I thought it was for everyone..."
The notion of a "blameless" or "faultless" penetration makes it sound like two people just walk along and suddenly trip, and his penis just HAPPENS to become erect, while totally accidentally ending up inside her vagina, by mistake!
I mean, what guy hasn't been just minding their own business, and just ended up with their penis in someone, totally out of nowhere! It's not MY fault! I was on the sofa! My penis just RAN OFF! I had no idea where it was sticking itself! She was bent over and I could see her panties! CLEARLY she was expecting EXACTLY ME to come along, and plow her! I mean, it's possible she was just bending over to pick up her purse that she dropped, and didn't know that I was looking up her skirt, but, p'shaw, get real, what are the odds of THAT?!
It all sounds like porn fantasies.
Learn to be funny.
There's another of those Pavlovian conditioned responses, you have to admire the public relations campaign that has been waged in order to shut down thought. In the scenarios we are discussing, there may be no blame to go around - that is the only point that need be understood.
It's a woman's body, not a tray of sandwiches left in the break room. You can't just dive in, and be like "oh, my bad, I thought it was for everyone..."
The notion of a "blameless" or "faultless" penetration makes it sound like two people just walk along and suddenly trip, and his penis just HAPPENS to become erect, while totally accidentally ending up inside her vagina, by mistake!
I mean, what guy hasn't been just minding their own business, and just ended up with their penis in someone, totally out of nowhere! It's not MY fault! I was on the sofa! My penis just RAN OFF! I had no idea where it was sticking itself! She was bent over and I could see her panties! CLEARLY she was expecting EXACTLY ME to come along, and plow her! I mean, it's possible she was just bending over to pick up her purse that she dropped, and didn't know that I was looking up her skirt, but, p'shaw, get real, what are the odds of THAT?!
It all sounds like porn fantasies.
Learn to be funny.
I know you have been keen to start another fight ever since the abortion thread, but you could at least read the thread before jumping in.
There are three components to securing a criminal rape conviction:
You must find:
1 - that the sex happened
2 - that the person did not consent to that sex
3 - that the alleged perpetrator knew the other person did not consent - this is the mens rea.
If 1 and 2 are found, but 3 is not - this is indeed a blameless situation, it isn't the victims fault, but neither is it the alleged perpetrator's. Your examples are amusing, but there are real life scenarios where mens rea must be seriously considered and investigated in a rape trial.
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Mr Lazarus was convicted by a jury and served 11 months of a three-year non-parole period. However, he was acquitted in a judge-only trial after the judge ruled that while Ms Mullins had not consented, Mr Lazarus believed she was consenting.
Look at that, a judge who understands mens rea unlike a jury of morons. I suppose everyone here thinks this was a travesty of justice.
Kind of seems gross, that it can be found that there may have been a lack of consent, but because the guy could believe that the lack of a no means consent from a drunk woman, he can get acquitted. This really does show that there is a problem, that assumptions of consent doesn't work, it is not just a case of ruining the mood, especially if the ruining the mood is to let the woman make a decision what happens to her body.
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“The penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person, without the consent of the victim.”
For the first time ever, the new definition includes any gender of victim and perpetrator, not just women being raped by men. It also recognizes that rape with an object can be as traumatic as penile/vaginal rape. This definition also includes instances in which the victim is unable to give consent because of temporary or permanent mental or physical incapacity. Furthermore, because many rapes are facilitated by drugs or alcohol, the new definition recognizes that a victim can be incapacitated and thus unable to consent because of ingestion of drugs or alcohol. Similarly, a victim may be legally incapable of consent because of age. The ability of the victim to give consent must be determined in accordance with individual state statutes. Physical resistance is not required on the part of the victim to demonstrate lack of consent.
https://www.justice.gov/archives/opa/bl ... ition-rape
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You must find:
1 - that the sex happened
2 - that the person did not consent to that sex
3 - that the alleged perpetrator knew the other person did not consent - this is the mens rea.
If 1 and 2 are found, but 3 is not - this is indeed a blameless situation, it isn't the victims fault, but neither is it the alleged perpetrator's. Your examples are amusing, but there are real life scenarios where mens rea must be seriously considered and investigated in a rape trial.
To be fair on the third point, you have said before that things like what someone is wearing and where they are is enough to imply consent.
What this really shows that if as you said 1 and 2 and not 3 happens enough, then the instigators of sex need to try harder to know if the other person is consenting. The onus is really being put on the victim to prove what the perpetrator did or didn't know?
This really otherwise gives free reign to guys to do what they want to women who might freeze up in the situations.
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What if you get what appears to be enthusiastic consent - a literal verbal "yes", then the morning afterwards the woman says she didn't really mean it - and she's not lying? She says she only said it because she was afraid for some reason. Do you plead guilty? I suspect you would be busily researching mens rea with your lawyer the next day.
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Mr Lazarus was convicted by a jury and served 11 months of a three-year non-parole period. However, he was acquitted in a judge-only trial after the judge ruled that while Ms Mullins had not consented, Mr Lazarus believed she was consenting.
Look at that, a judge who understands mens rea unlike a jury of morons. I suppose everyone here thinks this was a travesty of justice.
Kind of seems gross, that it can be found that there may have been a lack of consent, but because the guy could believe that the lack of a no means consent from a drunk woman, he can get acquitted. This really does show that there is a problem, that assumptions of consent doesn't work, it is not just a case of ruining the mood, especially if the ruining the mood is to let the woman make a decision what happens to her body.
Speaking anecdotally, I've had female friends who did say no and try to push the man away, but he persisted.
Later, the man would claim something along the lines of, "I thought she was into it and just playing hard to get."
It seems some men can manufacture "consent" in their own minds, even when there clearly is none to be found.
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Not alone, but as part of a bigger picture, unfashionable as that opinion is. What is much more important is the behaviour and history of the victim with the perpetrator when determining criminal intent. It does seems obvious to me that nunnery vs nightclub and heavy moleskin jacket vs hot pants might reasonably colour a scenario. This does actually work the other way too. Someone attacked in a supermarket can say "it's a supermarket - no one reasonable would imagine I was there looking to have sex in the bathroom" but according to this thread it's just crazy to say "it's a sex club, someone reasonable might expect someone there to be looking for sex".
This really otherwise gives free reign to guys to do what they want to women who might freeze up in the situations.
That is the presumption of innocence at work. Yes, it can and does protect the guilty sometimes, but the alternative system where innocence must be proved - is quite undesirable.
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Later, the man would claim something along the lines of, "I thought she was into it and just playing hard to get."
For the record I would count that as rape.
It doesn't actually matter what the man is thinking either. The test of a court is to find whether a reasonable person would believe they had consent. Otherwise you'd have to acquit lunatics who think rape is legal.
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Later, the man would claim something along the lines of, "I thought she was into it and just playing hard to get."
For the record I would count that as rape.
It doesn't actually matter what the man is thinking either. The test of a court is to find whether a reasonable person would believe they had consent. Otherwise you'd have to acquit lunatics who think rape is legal.
What counts as "reasonable" varies.
Recently, in Peru, a man was declared innocent of rape because the victim was wearing red underwear. The judges have since been suspended, and the case declared a mistrial.
No "reasonable" person in a civilized country believes what a person is wearing, or where they are physically at, is a declaration of consent.
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