Meghan Markle the gaslighter

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It would be interesting to find out the exact wording on the skin color speculation. “Concerned about” is quite different intent-wise than “speculating on.” I had always understood it to be the later, and actually had to think about why it came across as so shocking (as v just insensitive) to so many.

I think the situation is probably one of different perceptions and experiences. We speculate about all sorts of traits a baby might be born with. Hair color. Eye color. Mom or dad’s nose. And so on. So to some degree it is easy to how it could be completely innocent.

I wonder, however, if speculating about skin tone may be so unique to interracial relationships that it ends up, at minimum, being a micro-aggression, just one more way the world points out to someone how different they are. It doesn’t have to be meant poorly to sting and it’s become clear to me since that interview that such lines of questioning and speculation do sting for the recipients. Again, often meant totally innocently, but at the same time a very pointed way of reminding someone they aren’t part of the group. Those little things can really add up, and I’m guessing that this was just one of many that piled up for and became hurtful to Meghan, increasing her sense of isolation and loneliness within the royal family. No one wants to feel like an outsider in their home.

She gave up everything she knew when she moved, and became family with people who had no idea of her experiences, perceptions, or feelings; had no idea how many little comments and observations increased her sense of being an outsider; and had no idea how to support her or make her feel less alone. When you read interviews after the first Christmas she spent with them, it seemed she was thrilled to be joining such a big family that stuck together. Time changed that. What happened?

It isn’t a bad thing to become more aware of how things we say can create hurt we didn’t mean. I will never claim that the person being hurt is overly-sensitive; it is, instead, my job to figure out why it hurt them.

I'll add to that, that the people watching rich people whine on television, are essentially undergoing a psychological process of submission to the desire to be rich and famous. You cannot claim to be for social justice whilst simultaneously watching rich people on television.

These people shouldn't even be given more than a moment of attention. Starve them of attention, I say.

You are getting bogged down in the micro-details without thinking about the overall ridiculousness of Meghan Markle.

I've yet to see anything about her that isn't vacuous, spiteful tittle-tattle - but that's the weapon of choice for much of Murdoch's output.

Make up your mind!

I, and probably most of us, had taken little interest in what Markle said to Oprah that night.

But Blitz demands that we DO take an interest in it!

But THEN in the same conversation demands that we STOP taking an interest in it!

^ Sorry - it was just sooo good, I couldn't resist...

When you can get canceled for avocados then...maybe wokeness has gone to far!