Kraichgauer wrote:
Before I met my wife, I had dated a girl with Borderline Personality Disorder, though I think she could fit the definition of a psychopath.
Yeah, I am currently with a man who has a lot of qualities of NPD. But sometimes he talks like a psychopath.
One night he was talking about his co-workers. He was so angry because they "never worked" and just "had fun." Including his boss. Then he said, "it's OK. I'll just act like them. They're so easy to read--like an open book. It's not hard if you have the ability."
He often talks of wearing a "mask" all the time. Or being an "actor."
To everyone else we know he seems like this super-nice, charming guy. He's the first one to offer you help, compliment you, or give you a big smile. If you share a belief he disagrees with, he will agree with you and compliment you on how you are right.
Then, when he's alone with me he will become emotionally abusive. Sometimes he starts yelling about how he wants to shoot people for doing minor things.
And it's amazing to watch him switch. He'll go from degrading me, sulking, and refusing to speak to me, and then if an other acquaintance calls him, he immediately changes everything about his tone of voice and becomes this layed back, charming man. He laughs, makes light jokes--EVERYTHING about him changes. It's pretty creepy.
And the other creepy thing is that all these friends of his think he's so amazing and nice--the most helpful man in the world....but when they aren't around he complains and attacks them all...for little slights. Like one night he was yelling, because his friend hadn't called him--he was yelling at me as if I was his friend, "You f-ing a-----! I hope you die in the street! I'll f*** shoot you myself. I'll dance over your body!" And then he did a little dance.
I sometimes wonder if he is a psychopath.
I know this isn't the thread to go off on psychopaths--and I don't want to get into a "you should leave him" discussion--I'm all on top of that. But I think about that a lot--I wonder if he's a mild psychopath.
As for child psychopaths--can't they find psychopathy by brain imaging? Does it not work for children? What about giving them injections of cortisol. I know that we don't want to mess with kids biology, but I really do dislike psychopaths. It must be terrible for the mother.