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Emu Egg
Emu Egg

Joined: 4 Jun 2019
Gender: Female
Posts: 7
Location: West Coast

04 Oct 2019, 11:04 pm

I am currently in high school, and I am talking to this guy I really like. He seems to like me back, but he doesn't really understand what I mean when I say I have autism (I'm a female with mild Asperger's). He offers to "train" me so I can flirt; it makes me feel like I'm somehow impaired or clueless. I also have strict boundaries for sexual behavior (I still haven't had my first kiss and I'm 15), and he teases me about it in a playful but also condescending way. He's a really sweet guy, but his attempts to help me interpret social cues are wrong-headed. How do I articulate this in a way that makes sense to him? Does anyone else not have much experience with touching?


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Joined: 1 Jun 2017
Age: 34
Gender: Female
Posts: 3,458
Location: Poland

05 Oct 2019, 6:12 am

Maybe something like "I don't want to be better at pretending, I want to be acknowledged for who I am"?

Keep calm and choose your battles carefully.