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BrenFM
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23 Jan 2013, 7:06 pm

Howdy there!

Does anyone else ever find themselves mirroring the personalities of the people you're talking with? Maybe the way they talk or little things, sort of like a parrot. I do it subconsciously and I feel like people notice and think I'm a phony! A DOWNRIGHT FRAUD.



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24 Jan 2013, 2:49 pm

Sometimes if the person I'm talking to has a noticable accent I'll start to unconsciously mimic it slightly.



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27 Jan 2013, 10:27 pm

Yes! It's something that happens to me all the time and it drives me and everyone else crazy. The thing is I realize I'm doing it but I just can't stop. It causes me a lot of anxiety because I don't want others to think I'm making fun of them or being a copycat, I just literally can't stop myself.



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27 Jan 2013, 10:33 pm

Yes, I do that sometimes! And I tend to repeat things people have said that I find amusing



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28 Jan 2013, 5:48 pm

Haha, I gradually adopt the personalities of those I hang around with too often... And by gradually I mean not gradually at all. Not. At all.

The reason for this is that I simply do not HAVE a fixed personality. I have a fixed Essence, or Being, if you will..... But "personality"???? PSHHH.

And yeah tons of people love to call me "fake".... hahaha. I don't mind being fake if it means I get to wear the fancy hats and sweaters of all my loved ones (so-to-speak) :)



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28 Jan 2013, 6:37 pm

MollyAmins wrote:
Haha, I gradually adopt the personalities of those I hang around with too often... And by gradually I mean not gradually at all. Not. At all.

The reason for this is that I simply do not HAVE a fixed personality. I have a fixed Essence, or Being, if you will..... But "personality"???? PSHHH.

And yeah tons of people love to call me "fake".... hahaha. I don't mind being fake if it means I get to wear the fancy hats and sweaters of all my loved ones (so-to-speak) :)


^^ This is exactly how I feel. It's like I change personality to suit whomever I'm with or talking to.



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29 Jan 2013, 1:37 am

You know guys 21 years old here AS and I do it too!

You probably find yourself copying people you admire in some way shape or form. I did the same thing with accents myself and still do from time to time.

I think personally through my own experiences now that I live by myself I've developed my personalities (peace of mind)

I think I still do it from time to time. I mimic people I admire whether they be real or even in an anime I really like I mirror that image so I can address the real world's problems. I don't really think it's a flaw per say. The accent thing really does annoy your friends [I know from experience] That's just something you have to confront and a habit you have to break. It seems to be very common among Aspies. Although I wouldn't go and classify it as a symptom.

I self diagnose myself as having BPD[borderline personality disorder] It's similar to bipolar--- but completely different at the same time. At any rate copying personalities is probably an acquired trait I feel that you don't need to worry about too much.

I think its all about mind over matter. If its something that you know is part of you; You should be able to explain it to the people who matter. Aspies are open minded loving people In a lot of cases I find; Surrounding yourself with people who are going to persecute you for minor personality quirks isn't good for your social health.

I don't have much else to say though guys. best of luck!



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29 Jan 2013, 11:54 am

Uncertainty wrote:
You know guys 21 years old here AS and I do it too!

You probably find yourself copying people you admire in some way shape or form. I did the same thing with accents myself and still do from time to time.

I think personally through my own experiences now that I live by myself I've developed my personalities (peace of mind)

I think I still do it from time to time. I mimic people I admire whether they be real or even in an anime I really like I mirror that image so I can address the real world's problems. I don't really think it's a flaw per say. The accent thing really does annoy your friends [I know from experience] That's just something you have to confront and a habit you have to break. It seems to be very common among Aspies. Although I wouldn't go and classify it as a symptom.

I self diagnose myself as having BPD[borderline personality disorder] It's similar to bipolar--- but completely different at the same time. At any rate copying personalities is probably an acquired trait I feel that you don't need to worry about too much.

I think its all about mind over matter. If its something that you know is part of you; You should be able to explain it to the people who matter. Aspies are open minded loving people In a lot of cases I find; Surrounding yourself with people who are going to persecute you for minor personality quirks isn't good for your social health.

I don't have much else to say though guys. best of luck!


I found this post to be very spot-on, and I thank you. I am actually nearly 20 now, and I'm realizing that yes-- as you said-- "Surrounding yourself with people who are going to persecute you(me) for minor personality quirks isn't good for your(my) social health".... Exactly. I do the accents thing. I picked up a heavy Boston accent while hanging out with people from inner-city areas. And you know what? So many people judged me so very harshly for it. But I enjoyed it. I wasn't "making fun" of anyone. I was UNDERSTANDING them, in my own way. I was putting myself in their shoes! And this is nothing to be ashamed of. It really does help me to see the world through others' eyes, this general adoption of personality traits.

At the same time... I end up losing myself in the process, often. I forget who I really am and IF I really am.... Maturing has helped me to realize I do in fact have my OWN style, and I'm finding perhaps I just need a bit more self-confidence. :)



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29 Jan 2013, 1:10 pm

I don't.



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29 Jan 2013, 1:18 pm

:thumright:



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29 Jan 2013, 10:03 pm

Same here. When I'm with my music oriented friend, we talk about music. When I'm with my philosophy oriented friend, we talk serious questions. I probably only have one friend who I'm totally unaltered with.



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30 Jan 2013, 9:03 am

Well, perhaps over a long period of time, but not really to be honest.
But it is true that I speak to different people in slightly different ways


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03 Feb 2013, 3:52 am

I have noticed that I act differently around other people, but I haven't noticed my accent or personality change.



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07 Feb 2013, 8:30 pm

blue1skies wrote:
Yes, I do that sometimes! And I tend to repeat things people have said that I find amusing


Haha! I do. Two things my cousin would say I've picked up on because I found it funny. Like, when he jumped off of something high, such as the side of a truck, he'd go "whoo-hoo!" in a quick, high-pitched voice. I found it amusing. Along with a phrase that he posted on facebook one day when he got sick, saying he 'felt like a soggy cracker.' Hahaha! I couldn't help but start using it when I didn't feel good. :tongue:



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09 Feb 2013, 12:24 pm

chlov wrote:
I don't.
Same....


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09 Feb 2013, 2:26 pm

Occasionally I'll pick up a phrase from something or other and use it for a short time, but after a while I drop it.