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Caz72
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27 Sep 2022, 4:20 pm

KitLily wrote:
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thanks people

but i will be all right

i dont really know what emotion to feel or how im feeling really
anyone else find that hard? like what am i suppose to feel ?


That sounds normal, you are probably numb and as we're on a forum for autistic people, I expect most of us don't know how to feel after a major event like that. :heart:


yes one of my strong autism traits is not feeling/reacting to the right emotions at the right time
i have angry meltdowns but weirdly my husband leaving me isnt one of the causes for a meltdown with me even though i do feel a bit sad

but he let me have his laptop..so i spend a lot of evenings on wp :D


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27 Sep 2022, 4:24 pm

Do you get to keep the house and all the possessions / assets?
Is that all worked out?

It seems to me there's a lot more to sort out than emotions.



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27 Sep 2022, 4:26 pm

IsabellaLinton wrote:
Do you get to keep the house and all the possessions / assets?
Is that all worked out?

It seems to me there's a lot more to sort out than emotions.


well its a private rented bungalow

i think he will sort all that out for me as i struggle with that sort of thing
we are on speaking terms


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27 Sep 2022, 4:29 pm

Will he pay support for your son?
I forget how old he is.

The rental agreement will need to change names.
Likewise any car ownership, utilities accounts, or whatnot.



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27 Sep 2022, 4:33 pm

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Will he pay support for your son?
I forget how old he is.

The rental agreement will need to change names.
Likewise any car ownership, utilities accounts, or whatnot.


i dont think he needs to pay support for my son because he isnt his dad...his real dads in prison at the moment

i can go to citizens advice if i need help as ther are pretty good with helping sorting out things

already i had a guy from work knocking on my door with a bunch of flowers :roll: the flowers are beautiful but he isnt


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27 Sep 2022, 4:43 pm

Where I live it doesn't matter if the person is a biological parent or not.
Step-parents who contribute to the household while the child grows up need to continue.

Money that you used to spend on your son will now go toward heat, electricity, etc.
You'll also being paying rent by yourself.

I would think he should contribute for your son's education since he wants to be a vet.

Anyway, get all the advice you need about financials.

The rest of it about the men sounds bizarre to me.
That would be the farthest thing from my mind.

Personally I'd tell the men at work to respect my privacy and leave me alone.
I'd also tell my ex to stop spreading gossip.



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28 Sep 2022, 5:08 am

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Personally I'd tell the men at work to respect my privacy and leave me alone.
I'd also tell my ex to stop spreading gossip.


Yes, could you go to Human Resources or whatever it's called now, and ask them for support? Maybe they could have a word with people to get them to respect colleagues' privacy.


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28 Sep 2022, 5:09 am

Caz72 wrote:
KitLily wrote:
Caz72 wrote:
thanks people

but i will be all right

i dont really know what emotion to feel or how im feeling really
anyone else find that hard? like what am i suppose to feel ?


That sounds normal, you are probably numb and as we're on a forum for autistic people, I expect most of us don't know how to feel after a major event like that. :heart:


yes one of my strong autism traits is not feeling/reacting to the right emotions at the right time
i have angry meltdowns but weirdly my husband leaving me isnt one of the causes for a meltdown with me even though i do feel a bit sad


I think I'm the same. I don't react at the time, then days/weeks/months later it all filters through my brain and I feel the emotion.


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28 Sep 2022, 6:54 am

IsabellaLinton wrote:
Where I live it doesn't matter if the person is a biological parent or not.
Step-parents who contribute to the household while the child grows up need to continue.

Money that you used to spend on your son will now go toward heat, electricity, etc.
You'll also being paying rent by yourself.

I would think he should contribute for your son's education since he wants to be a vet.

Anyway, get all the advice you need about financials.

The rest of it about the men sounds bizarre to me.
That would be the farthest thing from my mind.

Personally I'd tell the men at work to respect my privacy and leave me alone.
I'd also tell my ex to stop spreading gossip.


In the UK only the biological dad has to contribute. Plus our education to become a vet is in forums of student loans and grants from the government which we spend 30 years paying back. If not paid off it is written off