Does ''getting it over with'' guarantee life satisfaction ?

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I seem to think that if we pressure ourselves or other people pressure us to do something because it seems like society expects it. Would it guarantee happiness, contentment or fulfilment in life ?

Even though I don't have a partner I still feel as though there is now this pressure to find someone sooner rather than later because a person is in their late 20s or early 30s. I don't understand why some people they have to do it and get it over with. I remember a story I heard about a lady who was 28 who had decided she and her partner wouldn't have children and was considering sterilisation and someone in response said that when she was 28, she felt now is the time to have children and did it and got it over and done with. I don't know if they made her happy though.

Only do things when YOU feel like doing them.

It doesn't make sense to marry someone, say, just to "get it over with."

Nothing guarantees life satisfaction.

When you find someone and plan your life with them you gain a sense of purpose and completeness. At least that's how it was for me.

Uncertainty and indecision plagued my life, that problem largely went away with a partner.

If you feel like doing something, do it. If you don't feel like doing something, than don't.

"she felt now is the time to have children and did it and got it over and done with."

Except now there's a whole ass human being that has to navigate existence for 80 odd years (provided they don't die prematurely) because this person had the mindset to "just do it". ✓

Does that even include having a baby anyway even if you are not entirely sure you want it ?

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Having a baby is 18 year commitment

Time, cash and energy

The solar system contains plenty of unwanted children

Better to regret not having a baby, than regret having a baby

You could adopt

NEVER have a baby just to “get it over with” or society expects you to have one.

Only have a baby if you and your significant other want a baby.

I’m 61, with no kids. Significant harm wasn’t done as a result of this.

It only makes sense if you were going to do that thing anyway and are procrastinating for no useful reason.

As a pressure tactic, "get it over with" runs smack into the wall of "I was never going to do that anyway, why would I do it now?"