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Tim_Tex
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24 Jan 2025, 1:59 pm

I am permanently trapped in Trumpland/Abbottistan.


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24 Jan 2025, 2:14 pm

I'm glad (and thankful) that I'm healthy.
Physcally and mentally.
Health is priceless.



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25 Jan 2025, 12:56 am

I need to bar myself from the news again.


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29 Jan 2025, 1:24 pm

Realizing after leaving a comment on a MSN article about how "Bosses are done caring how you feel" an important truth that I never really told myself. That your job dosen't determine your value or worth and to not let it dictate it. For so many years I tried to please everyone at the jobs I had. I was a people pleaser and when I performed well I felt better about myself. I let that dictate my value instead of it being internal.



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29 Jan 2025, 1:37 pm

Brian0787 wrote:
Realizing after leaving a comment on a MSN article about how "Bosses are done caring how you feel" an important truth that I never really told myself. That your job dosen't determine your value or worth and to not let it dictate it. For so many years I tried to please everyone at the jobs I had. I was a people pleaser and when I performed well I felt better about myself. I let that dictate my value instead of it being internal.


If bosses don’t care about how we feel, I guess it’s logical to assume that we shouldn’t care about them either. If they are of the sort who feel that way. 8)



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29 Jan 2025, 1:58 pm

Stargazer99 wrote:
Brian0787 wrote:
Realizing after leaving a comment on a MSN article about how "Bosses are done caring how you feel" an important truth that I never really told myself. That your job dosen't determine your value or worth and to not let it dictate it. For so many years I tried to please everyone at the jobs I had. I was a people pleaser and when I performed well I felt better about myself. I let that dictate my value instead of it being internal.


If bosses don’t care about how we feel, I guess it’s logical to assume that we shouldn’t care about them either. If they are of the sort who feel that way. 8)


That's true! It is a two way street :)



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29 Jan 2025, 1:59 pm

The more you do for them the more they expect

Just do your job and go home...that's what I say


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01 Feb 2025, 2:14 pm

Honestly I'm suddenly anxious and having a feeling of shame. I'm having a random thing where I just feel that way. Thinking of moments I don't want to like school. School was rough for me and it honestly didn't feel like a safe place in Grade 12. That's when I really started struggling. I stopped showing up on time, I'd call in sick for no reason other than I couldn't get out of bed, my teacher made fun of me, I stopped doing work, I had no friends. I sometimes would feel fear at school because it honestly started feeling unfamiliar, and one time I thought we were there at 6 in the morning and getting ready for a school trip in Alaska, however it was 2 and a regular day. I was so confused. Im just thinking about it because I have random flashbacks to things that make me feel dread.



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02 Feb 2025, 9:18 pm

I get tired of feeling like i'm different. I keep wishing I could be like everyone else. At the same time we are all unique and there is no such thing as "everyone else". I guess I sometimes wonder what life would be like if I was neurotypical.



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03 Feb 2025, 12:35 am

I like that I’m different, even though others may not understand me. I can sense things that they can’t and I’m able to conceptualize things on a much larger scale with multiple perspectives. Sometimes I can help others because of that.



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03 Feb 2025, 3:35 am

another conversation axed off
there's not much left to talk
ow yeah that's the point
you are not allowed,
only praise

the old thing in some other way
you must be hacked down always, but respond in awe and fawn
the mother and sisters thing where i must be both

what's the point of going on ?



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03 Feb 2025, 6:57 am

I need to solve the root of this executive dysfuncsh*t since puberty before I ended up causing an accident or a fatal mistake.

It had to end by this month.
End of discussion. No more holding out, no more waiting it out. If I have to blow my savings, if I have to ask my relatives for money, I'll do it.

And if professionals cannot help me or misunderstand my situation, I'll take all the risks myself.
I already have an important piece to this sh*tty puzzle. I already have multiple breakthroughs from that alone within a year.


I'm nearing 30. I already wasted my 20s holding it out over the idea that "I'm too young".
I already spent nearly a year adjusting since I took 'risk'. It only took me a month of consistency to see the contrast.


I need it and I need it now before I make another near fatal mistake, while I'm still eloquent enough, while it still works, while it's not so bad enough I'm returning back to zero.

Not because I'm missing out, because I'm wasting or losing time, but because I'd rather NOT regress all because my body is being a sh*tty enabler for all the dysfunctions I want nothing to do with by itself "naturally adjusting" to it's sh*tty 'default deficit'.


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03 Feb 2025, 7:28 pm

Another beautiful sunset tonight. Even the squirrels and birds were happily going about their business. :D



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03 Feb 2025, 10:39 pm

Oops! I just noticed that there are 2 different “What’s on Your Mind?” threads in two different places. Sorry, if I posted to the wrong one earlier.



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04 Feb 2025, 8:47 am

I hope the whole world can get better


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05 Feb 2025, 4:47 pm

My therapist shouldn't have to do all that he does for me really...its not right


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