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thanks for your replies aardvark
the main problem now is i generally have a really bad memory and after a whiles passed i just forget what someones made me feel like, that seems to be putting me in this situation alot because they dont really seem bothered about whats happened before because i forget about it anyway, so they just have a go again.
also becuase i dont really talk to them personally that much they dont really understand how difficult most things are for me, theyll tell their friends about their special son and tell me to use it to get work, but as soon as i use it as a reason for me doing something wrong they say thats no reason and push it to the side.


i can live with measured disclosure and communication with them now though, nopt sure if this will be a problem again but i hope not

Okay, so you have a bad memory, so be it. I happen to have an excellent memory, and let me tell you, that's no bed of roses there either! I am trying to develop skills of going more with the flow and the feel and texture of what's happening right now, and doing so in a more right-brain way, where no, I probably am not sure or certain, but I'm going to go ahead and take what feels like a promising step anyway, staying alert for any feedback along the way that's obvious, not so worried about the subtle stuff, just alert enough and outwardly focused enough to pick up the more obvious stuff, and then take the next medium step, etc, generally staying with the flow (and yes, let me tell you, remembering a bunch detailed specifics from the past can clog this process)

When living in a situation where people are critical of you, it wears on you. Even if you don’t believe the negative things, it’s so much different than living in a situation where people generally do approve of you. For example, suppose I was temporarily living in a Mormon household. Even though I don’t believe the doctrine and dogma, the fact that it’s this undercurrent of negativity and disapproval would probably wear on me. And living with back my own parents, it's a little like low-level diplomacy, most of the time (and frankly, I have a lot of anger toward my Dad, and toward my Mom, because she doesn't see, somehow it doesn't register with her) far, far from a relaxing household.

And so, it is good to have a couple of positives going in your life at the same time. Positive projects do have low ebbs, and when that happens and the home is nonsupportive, in fact anti-support, things can seem real bleak. So, a couple of projects going is a good remedy. And maybe simply viewed as short-term, medium-term, long-term.