How come the outside world hates us?

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People seem to hate each other, we're people, therefore they hate us like they hate anyone else.

I think our problem is a lot of us were raised with the idea that we have a social skills disability, that we need to show more reciprocity, we then expect reciprocity to be the norm. We go out and talk to people, don't get reciprocity, and wonder what we did wrong. The problem isn't that we did something wrong, rather we were taught incorrectly that reciprocity is a social norm when in many if not most cases it isn't.

What does society react positively to? Looks mostly, financial achievement second, and WAY down the list the quality of person you are. We're taught the opposite, try to improve ourselves, go out, get treated like dirt, and it's a horrible loop that you get stuck in until you figure out what's happening. People seem to want the right to treat each other like crap, they want the right to treat you like crap, and nothing offends them more than a person who they want to treat like crap acting in a way that takes away their right to treat them like crap. That's not to say act in a way that gives them the right to treat you like crap, just expect few wins because it's a zero-sum environment.

Sorry to hear of this, TP.

Thanks. It really wasn’t that bad. I hurt my feet when I got away and ran through the woods, though. I’m not sure why I was barefoot.

Hmm, maybe you didn't like shoes?

I didn’t, but I always wore them in the woods.

Maybe the bullies took your shoes?

It’s for the special need kids, the special education bus.

In popular culture:

I'm somewhere probably in the middle of your wife's nephew and yourself. I'm in my 30s.

I officially found out I was on the spectrum in middle school. I never told anyone at school. I was the kid who was different enough to be excluded, yet not quite different enough to be in special ed.

Another thing to take into account: It's possible to hate someone without bullying him/her.

I've found out the hard way I was hated by some of my peers even if they never bullied me.

I had a boss who treated my status (being on the spectrum) as some type of mental handicap. You're right; employers misunderstand us. You're also right when you point out a lot of us have strengths that could be utilized in the workplace.

My IQ is probably higher than that boss.

My experiences in the workplace have been similar to what you have just said above.

It is a sad thing.

Humans just naturally hate anyone who is different, they see such people as something that is "defective" or "weak" or "inferior". In the wild, weaker animals are often abused, bullied and killed by the stronger animals in their family in order to ensure their own survival. Humans are no different. Humans supposedly have the intelligence and morality to know they just should leave us alone, because our "normal" is different from theirs but not "wrong". But they don't. In fact, humans love being intolerant and cruel because it is "fun". It's their evil nature.

I know why people hate me:

• I fight back, instead of being intimidated into silence.

• I prioritized studying, doing my homework, and aceing tests during school years and military service.

• I reported bullying and harassment in the workplace, without regard to the anyone's social status, anger, or threats.

• Nicotine addicts perceived it as personal attacks when I have asked for non-smoking workplaces, especially when my requests were granted.

• Reason, logic, and results are more important to me in problem-solving than assumption, guesswork, and assigning blame.

• Standing up against racism and sexism are also important to me.

• While in the military, I prioritized being where I was supposed to be, when I was supposed to be there, and doing what I was supposed to be doing. I also kept my quarters clean, my uniforms in order, and my haircut the proper length.

So yeah, I was "That Guy" whom everybody hated for being a "Sell-Out", a "Suck-up", and an "Arrogant Bastard".  They also hated me for making them look like fools and slackers by comparison -- not my goals, that's just how it worked out.

We occupy a unique place. We're simultaneously viewed as weak and dangerous.

Nobody views me as dangerous.