I realize you posted this months ago, I just hope you are feeling better these days. Please let us know!
I don't even know you and yet I care. So, you see, you are not completely alone. I was my husband's first real girlfriend and that was at age 32. But he always says that I was worth the wait. We have been married for 6 years now and we are each other's best friend. I feel often that the whole world sucks but we have each other and now a little boy so it is ok. His sister did not find her wonderful life partner untilt he age of 41. For some of us, things just take longer to happen.
Do see a psychiatrist about your depression. Unfortunately, when you are going to depression, it makes it a hundred times more difficult to cultivate relationships. You may benefit from some antidepresants. Once you feel more stable, give it another go. Take it one step at a time. Make the first month a goal to smile and say hello to people around you everyday--classmates, co-workers and neighbors. Once you have created that good vibe with them, go the next baby step-- Ask them how they are doing, and wait for a reply. Share something about yourself with them when they ask you how you are doing. Don't just say "fine", say something more like "great now that I started jogging again, I just feel full of energy.." or whatever. That way, you are giving them a chance to know something about you and they may even continue the conversation. If you exchange a few sentences, say at the end something like "great talking to you" and " Got to get back to my yard back, see you later." Or something along those lines that leaves lines open for more conversation in the future.
02 Sep 2008, 11:28 am
