why do women have to be so mean and condecending

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Ages ago, when I was trolling the net for women, my wise old grandfather told me to give it up and learn to be happy alone. He said that in his day (he meant like the 1930s, so quite a long time ago) men often married the wrong woman because they had done something stupid like get her pregnant, which back then resulted in "shotgun weddings"-and divorce wasn't an option. He was also worried about some of the same stuff you talk about, where women use sex against men. I was about your age.

Today, I realize he was right. I'm convinced that men have a biological need in their teens and twenties to date and have sex with lots of females in order to choose a mate suitable for reproduction. As men get older, the urge decreases, which may be why married couples stop having sex after 2 or 3 kids-the biological need has been filled. So, at 40 I don't have a need to look for women. I no longer care about biological urges, except in the most basic sense-oops, I am thinking about sex again, better empty the seminal ducts. So, your problem is not unique, and it's due to biology beyond your control.

Women, meanwhile, are wired to choose a mate who will be an excellent provider for their future kids. So, they only want rich men, because money means that they will be able to get food for their kids. This same instinct drives women to want muscular men (oooh, a man who will be able to work and get money!) and even violent men, who are perceived as being great hunters, since in the caveman days the strongest, most violent man was best able to get the meatiest tiger, meaning kids got fed. That he beats and rapes his concubines is of little consequence, since being able to eat well is a greater need.

We just can't wish biology and tens of thousands of years of evolution away, unfortunately. Women earn more than men in many cases, yet they still view themselves as nurturers of children, and men as hunters bringing home the bacon. You have the unfortunate status of beta male, the guy that alpha males and women who love them love to kick. In some cultures, beta males were sacrificed to the gods in some really gruesome ways (I'm thinking of the Aztecs, who would rip the beating hearts out of men's chests), so in some ways you're lucky. In Mormon Fundamentalism, betas are dumped in remote parts of the desert and left as buzzard food. So, chill out and try not to worry too much about human biology.

I know men have wimpy sissy side, so that's normal. Don't be offended Sly.

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Big hugs for sly!

That person probably has her own problems, and is taking them out on you. You must not let these people gain the victory.

We're sorry you're going through a rough time.



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When you get to the end of your rope, hang in there!

I'm afraid that I might make sly get offended due to my limited vocabulary regardless my good intension.

Resentment.
Women had to just sit down and do what they were told for a very long time. Now that it is coming to an end, I think there is a kind of backlash. They view men as the abusive Father that beat their asses and then gave them an ice cream cone. It is nice that the oppression has mostly stopped but it will take a bit more time before the water settles and the wounds heal. I can not think of a group of people that are more hated right now than white males, add a dash of Autism and U. S. policies... well, you get the idea.