knowledgeiskey wrote:
My father takes my thoughts as a joke. Any time I try to tell him something, he doesn't take it in regard. He goes on and says, "we talking about you." He lives overseas and b*****s about the most smallest things. He keeps nagging me about my room not being clean. I'm 22 years old.Of course, I know the way things are suppose to be. I don't have a problem with the way my room is. I don't invite anyone over. Why should he care if my room isn't clean? I tell him that is just a small problem of all the other we have. I tell him other problems are worse, but he goes on and nag me about sh** I don't care about.I'm not a kid anymore. I don't need that type of discipline. Maybe, If I was a teenager, I would understand, but I;m almost 23. Don't you think that's ridiculous to b***h about that should be discussed to a teenager? He has the notion that I'm just a sucker, and that my opinions and claims mean nothing. I'm getting older, and I'm getting less tolerant of that type of behavior from people. If I was a kid, yes, I would tolerate it. I'm just tired of everything. I don't know how I can survive on this earth any longer.
I have the opinion that all of the things that he carries on about are part of my symptoms. The other day when he visited, he nagged me about cutting my finger nails. I already know that it's bad hygiene, and that society looks down on it.
I really don't want to tell him that I think I have Asperger's because he's ignorant and won't even take it serious. That's why I refuse to tell any of my parents that I think I have it.
The only people I that hide my diagnosis from is my family because my parents are exactly as you describe - I'm 31 now and they still don't take my life or opinions seriously, because in their eyes I'm mad and spend all my time on worthless pursuits. It is, like you say, a form of ignorance as it comes down to belittling the existence of anyone whose lifestyle doesn't conform to society's expectations.
It's a difficult situation to be in, having your whole life invalidated by the people who are supposed to care most about you, I've chosen to deal with it by keeping my diagnosis secret because I think their reaction would be unfavourable. I basically ignore their opinions about me and don't feel the need to explain myself, but there is the option of disclosing your condition in the hope that they'll come to a better understanding of you and the person you are.
Good luck with whatever you choose, I hope things get better for you.
28 Dec 2009, 11:03 am
. ive given up bringing it up. they just think im a non-social defiant kid.
