Why do I attract bullies?

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We all attract bullies. In my experience, ignoring them doesn't work at all (as suggested by Tony Attwood in his book.)

The only real way to stop them is to work out every day, become a ripped bodybuilder/martial artist, and beat the snot out of them if they cross y-- I mean, intimidate them with your well-honed physique.

In other words, make incurring your wrath the most distasteful option

Too cute to hate.

I doubt I could be as strong as a guy but I have thought about getting a punching bag and boxing the crap out of it. Maybe release my penned up anger in a non-damaging way. Most of the bullying I get is through a psychological warfare. There's also a lot of manipulation that goes on and I don't know how to handle or know whether or not that person is being truly genuine or playing mind games. I just wish I was witty combative enough through words rather than having to irrationally react from fear.

Overthinking? No. If you don't think about, resolution is much more difficult. If you don't think about it and put it aside, then you just dwell and dwelling leads to fear. No, it's good that you talk about it and THINK about it. Hopefully that way can find a way to resolve it.

Are you dumbing down OPs feelings like they are pethetic and drama loaded? To add to that, you call the OP a "creep", when she's claiming to be a victim of bullying. In my oppinion, you had "what's your problem" comming a little.
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Missconstrue

I swear, it's like some bullies are magnet reactions. I wish I knew how else to cope with it to, besides useing my super angry stances. There's only so much bull a person can stand, so I don't think anyone should "take it in" for too long either.

Last edited by LiendaBalla on 23 Oct 2010, 6:19 pm, edited 2 times in total.

Because you are attractive.

I know how the game works.

Basicially, to them, you come across as an easy target. As long as you react to their pisstakes they'll keep doing it. They don't care about your feelings as you're living in another city to them.

Ignoring them is hard to do, but it's your only best option. If you can't play on their field, keep blocking them until they get bored. I put down and have been put down by the internet for a long time now. Some days I'll win, some days I'll lose.

Thanks.

It's hard not to react but I can see how that would work into their scheme of motives.

If not don't mind me saying, MissConstrue, I've noticed myself having always having the so-called tyrants tending to come in alignment with myself such as you have.Honestly, I feel that like myself you don't actively seek out people to be tormented as such and anyone whom would make such a conjecture does not see all things in a unbiased manner.
I'm not sure as to how to deal with such "Tyrants" for, it can very from situation to situation though, I'd try to do whatever you feel is right and just within your own mind...