Unhappy and don't know what to do with my life

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I'm going to be graduating from high school in a couple of days and I'm kind of depressed that the life that I have been living for the past four years is about to change. I'm depressed most of the time, but I'm more depressed now than I usually am. Every once in while I contemplate suicide and if college doesn't work out I think this is going to be the end for me. I feel tired and weak most of the time and I dread living out my whole life. I'm destined for unhappiness no matter what I do in life. I only get to live life once and I have to live it as me. Although it isn't all that bad being me. I have a nice family and my dad owns a business, but I spend almost all of my time on my computer. I have a lot of hobbies, but most of them I don't really enjoy doing I just need something to do. Does anyone have any advice on how to live a happy life if it is possible to do so? I spend a lot of time trying to convince myself that I'm happy and that the positives of having aspergers out weigh the negatives. But I can't deny that I'm unhappy and that having aspergers is hell any longer. My curse is that I have a really powerful mind but I am lost in my own world and cannot socialize with anyone and I am left to wander aimlessly doing whatever random thing I feel like wasting time on.

just keep going. maybe the change will turn out to be one for the better. highschool often isn't great for anyone who's a bit different so perhaps you'll find yourself happier at college. Aside from the depression and lack of socialising it sounds like you have quite a nice life and lots of potential to be happy. Keep up with your hobbies as they will probably help you make some like-minded friends at college, or at the very least provide some opportunity to practice socialising

You have to stop the "What If's. This is borrowing worry.

Life is about consistent change. You need to create a plan. You need to focus on that plan. You need to understand that you may have to adjust this plan as life throws curve-balls. You have to be okay with that and understand that you are still in control of your life and your choices. You make the decisions. This is a positive and exciting time.

Try walking/running/jogging or doing some sort of physical exercise to exert energy on a regular basis. This will release the negativity so it cannot fester and create "what if"s and other anxiety-driven paralysis. The more anxiety you feel, the less you will be able to make rational decisions. This is a natural physical response to stress to provide the body with the energy it needs for a Fight or Flight response to the stress. You don't need Fight or Flight for this. So exercise to provide your body with that energy exertion and then you will be able to think rationally. Create your plan. Trust your plan. Stay focused. Look forward.

This is a good thing that's happening. Don't drown yourself in unnecessary negativity just because anxiety is high.