need help quick! before I go to therapy today...

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I'm going to therapy around 1.30 today... and I need some help before I go. I'm a little scared to tell my therapist about some of my problems. and right now, the big thing I'm worrried about is what could happen if I tell the therapist that I have Imaginary freinds. I don't know how I'm supposed to say that. not to mention I'm in love with one of my imaginary freinds. I feel weird about it becuase I'm a very lonely adult but I don't think anyone will understand what thats like... I just want to spend my days asleep so I can dream about my imaginary girlfriend. what should I do?

if your not fully truthfull w/ your therapist, your therapy won't either, tell um, but make sure to let him know you know there not real, just comforting role play

Ditto what Danmac says. What you have is a comforting story & the goal is a satisfaction in RL. The therapist's role is to help you with that transistion. It is OK to not talk about everything all at once though. Establishing a professional but trusting repoir with your therapist is an important first step.

It would seem to me like you should just tell your therapist. Isn't that why you're going to therapy... to work on coping with your mind?

How can this therapist help you if s/he doesn't know?

This begs further questions: Do you really want this therapist to try to help you? Do you trust that s/he is an advocate for you? An ally, not an enemy?

If the answer to these questions is 'No,' then you should not tell him/her. If the answer is 'Yes,' then you SHOULD.

It's not fair to ask someone for help, only to deny them the opportunity by withholding information. Totally understandable, given your anxiety about the situation, but still unfair to the therapist.

As to 'how [you're] supposed to say that,' I think you said it just fine. Very succinct. Any other words would just be padding and aren't necessary to get your point across. "I have Imaginary Friends." Once you get this out, I'm sure your therapist will seek further detail, at which point you can then worry about specifics. Blurting it out in this fashion may be the easiest, least painful method.

I'm sorry you're so lonely. You seem like a very nice, sensitive, self-conscious person. I already consider you to be a friend in spirit, having never met you. You are a fellow human being--confused, lonely, and in pain. You don't need to suffer alone, if you don't want to.

Yes, there are people who will judge you. There will always be such people. You know what I have to say about them? F___ 'Em. There are too many kind, understanding, patient, and gentle people to focus on the judgmental and the small-minded.

I wish you a very positive, constructive therapy session. I don't expect--nor would it be fair to expect--a Sea Change or some other massive, transformational shift. But I do hope you take a couple of small steps towards whatever it is you're seeking.

Best of luck and Regards.

I guess the real question is, do you think it's a problem that you HAVE an imaginary girlfriend? Since you call her imaginary, you obviously know she's not real, so you're not delusional. You're worried that he'll demand that you give up your fantasies and lose something that gives you comfort, and he may well do just that. And I suspect you already know that this is something you're going to have to eventually do in order to relate better to real people, especially girls.

But you don't have to take his advice or his suggestions, because that's all they are. He can't order you to do anything, and nobody can control what happens in your own head. I'd say tell him, but also tell him he needs to meet you halfway and let you find a way to let go besides 'cold turkey'.

I must thank each or you, it's nice that you've given me this advice. I have to leave for therapy real soon, in about ten minutes or less. agian thanks.

Sweet Pea hugs