In need of some advice

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Sorry to bother you all again, but I just need some advice and the people here have gave me some good advice in my short time on this forum.

Anyway earlier today I wanted to listen to my music after letting my little sister borrow my headphones the day before. Well after asking her and not being able to find them were they said they were I started turning the house upside down looking for them and still couldn't find them. Now it's bad enough that it ruined my plans but I've lost track of the number of headphones I've went through in the last year not to mention that this is the second pair this month! The first time I came back to get them and one of the earbuds was torn completely off this time they've vanished.

Long story short I went into my room to try and calm down and get over the minor meltdown I was going though when my dad comes barging in and starts yelling at me for getting upset saying that it was just a pair of headphones get over it. I told him that it wasn't that it was the fact that every time something of mine leaves my room it gets broken or lost and I'm tired of having to hide everything from games to food just to keep it safe. Well that only made things ten times worse and certainly didn't help my self-esteem issues when he called my ret*d let again.

This is far from the first time something like this has happened and I can't talk with the guy without making him upset because our mindsets are so different. It's to the point that I have to put up a emotionless mask just to be around him because if I show any negative emotion around him something like this happens.

I just need to know what to do to stop these confrontations from happening so frequently before I either get sent to a mental institution, which is starting to look like a viable alternative to living in near constant fear of the man, or I end up having to ask if any of my online friends can take me in for awhile before I end up completely losing it.

I know it's going to be mentioned so I'll just say my mom has the same issues I do with him and most of my nearby family has simuliar issues with him.

I don't really know what to tell you about how to deal with this problem. Unfortunately, since you still live under his roof, you're still subject to his dictates, reasonable or not. However, I can definitely relate to having to hide your things in order to keep them intact. There are very few things that irritate me more than someone who has the balls to call me selfish for wanting to keep my things in good shape, especially when the person chastising me is part of the problem in the first place.

He is never going to change.
If that’s a realistic option, go for it. Is there any other way to permanently move out? Do you have an income? Grandparents or other relatives?