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I'm recently divorced. I've got custody of my son who is severely disabled and I have an immunodeficiency I get pneumonia/bronchitis every two weeks and will get 1300 a month for three years and that is it. I've just checked how much I will get in SSI, the only thing I'm eligible for, and it's 650 a month. How am I going to live on 650 a month alone if my plans don't work out......

Ex does not have to pay any child support and I don't know what I am going to do son has epilepsy and ADHD in addition to his Autism which is severe. Ex says he has won the divorce....he earns 15K a month. I think we are going to starve and I know I will not be able to buy son any clothes or shoes a coat or anything. I think my little boy and I are probably going to starve to death....and I already have malnutrition from being kept in this room without good access to food for 7 months. I will never see my daughter again and if I stay my immunodeficiency is much much worse and he is abusing me. I have had my eczema clear up and my thyroid problem get under control.

My family says I am not welcome and I won't have anywhere to go if things don't work out. I am thinking of just killing myself if things don't work out....and right now I am feeling extremely sad, scared and depressed.

I wonder in what way your ex got free from child support. Have you been in court, what monster ruled this to be ok.
Do you live in America? I'm not from there so I don't know who you could turn to. But a ill mother with a disabled child should have someone to turn to, some government help of some kind.

This situation sounds very very sick.

I hope someone can help you more detailed who you could turn to, I know nothing I must say when it comes to a severe situation like that. I know that there are individuals here at WP who are very talented and immersed in questions like these and know who to contact.

All I have to say is that you are not allowed to kill yourself if you have a child to take care of. Suffer through it till you collapse and die by doing whatever you can for your son, but ending it because you're ill and tired of life and fighting is not an option. It's your child you stay as long as you can and care for it or at least give him up for adoption if you now fear that you're near death and he as well.
But before you go that child should not be left in a state of despair, matters must be cleared up.
Oh f**k I sound dark... (I'm not religious, I think that people are free to do whatever the f**k they see fit with their lives but if they create life, they are responsible for life, especially life that end up in a situation involuntarily, children.)

But the best outcome (of course) is you get help from someone who knows the system and hopefully things improve. These kind of things are not allowed to happen.


Your Ex sounds like evil in it's purest form, non-caring man (as in human, not male). I've seen and heard some nasty s**t but reading about your situation makes me upset.

I guess I will have to hope like hell my plans work out otherwise I am screwed.
I won't kill myself.....
.ex found a lawyer who told him how to arrange it so that he doesn't pay any child support. Oh and I have HFA too. I was not allowed any legal representation, I have spent the last 7 months living in this room(I am not allowed free reign of the house and I have not had good access to food) and according to my bloodwork I have malnutition(I am allowed medical care). Yes I am still living with my ex for the legally mandated amount of time. You are required to give 45 days notice before you move and I am 19 days away from being free to move out....it is a law here where I live. He is giving me temporary medical custody of our son and says when he recovers from his Autism and mental retardation(his IQ is 33) he will take custody back. I will not desert my son....even if we do starve and freeze to death. I love him and he loves me too. He is 7 and the light of my life. The next three months I am going to be ok and I guess I should just focus on that and not the what ifs. Maybe I'm just scared right now my future is kind of uncertain right now.

You have to keep your goals in front of you, especially with kids involved. Focus on now with every inch in the right direction a victory. Fear galvanizes, so use it.

alright I will make sure not to post anymore?....just trying to suggest things and get put down for it, wonderful really made my day. I am very confused about where I went wrong, I thought suggesting looking into any available resources that might help would be a good idea....never thought I'd be put down for suggesting such a thing.

sweetleaf's intention was to help. I think the OP will be understanding about that. OP, just keep focused on you and your son's well being - survival mode.

Your Ex sounds like one of the most pathetic excuses of a man I've ever heard of in my life. The kind of douche bag who doesn't pay to help his disabled son and sick ex sounds like the kind of douche bag who should just drop dead tomorrow. Make sure you tell him that.

yes my ex did get a pro snake lawyer.

I don't mind sweetleaf and I should check into food stamps and such I'd not thought of that...... I have a place to go and live for the next 3 months and 19 days until I can leave. My ex is abusive. I think I should focus on the fact that I have a place to live for now and the near future. I've some friends who are working on making sure I can stay with them and that will take care of me. They said if that works out I will have a place to live....and I shouldn't be so anxious and afraid.....if it doesn't they will appeal it and do everything to help me. I am just terribly scared though.....Maybe I should relax and try to rest which is what my friends suggested. My ex is a vampire of sorts he sucks the life out of people emotionally. Even if I end up in a homeless shelter it will be better than here. I'm hungry....and been crying my friends say when I am there I will have consistent access to food and maybe my thoughts will be more clear.

I live in Alabama and no I was not appointed a lawyer.....you don't get appointed a lawyer in family court. I've spoken to ex also and he has agreed if I end up on benefits that he will pay for internet, which is important....as internet means I can scan the receipts as per the Temporary Guardianship document all direct expenses for son must be reimbursed provided there are itemized receipts with the aforementioned items and pictures uploaded of every single item bought for son up to the total of 1200 a month....I was panicking I guess that I wouldn't have internet and/access to that money.....also internet means I can see my daughter. Some days I'm just terribly afraid.....I was given a settlement which will help some....but in three years it will be gone. Going to sleep now and I think I will worry about it when I get there I guess......I can't do anything about it tonight.