Beating myself up (literally)

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I almost broke my own jaw tonight. I am splitting with my husbanb. Didn't know I had Aspergers when we met 12 years ago, or else I wouldn't have inflicted myself upon him in the first place, much less had a child.

i have a hard time believing you are "inflicting" yourself on others. why are you so hard on yourself?

Yes^.

I read it as "inflicted him on me". Until I reread it.
He musta known what you were like before he married you. He just didnt have the proper label for it. So he isnt the one to complain.

Gosh!

Sorry to hear that your marriage is on the rocks.

Pm me if you want.

Was just thinking about you, and about how we havnt spoken for a while.

You discovered you had AS afterwards, but you didn't develop it i.e. you've always been the same person regardless of having a label. Having a diagnosis did not change who you were.

Wow, that's huge. Breaking up with my spouse was one of the hardest things I've gone through. And I didn't have any children.
It's not your fault you weren't diagnosed with asd, I wasn't either when I got married and my autism was the cause of my divorce. Hard not to beat yourself up over being the cause of the failure of your marriage, but sounds like you already covered that. Deep breaths.
Was this a mutual decision between you and your spouse? I hope that the breakup is amicable as it is better for everyone, especially a child.