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Brainfre3ze_93
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13 Jul 2014, 4:22 pm

A few days ago, my mom noticed I was acting different than what I normally was. I didn't exactly want to talk about it, but she was concerned about enough to seek professional help for me. Since it was affecting pretty badly, and she wants me to be completely honest with this person.
My concern is what will happen to me if I do intend to reveal what's going on, and it is not pretty. * a fair warning * Over the past few years I have had several episodes of depressions in my life, and this has been a constant ordeal which have lasted anywhere from a few days to a month or two.
It has gotten so bad, that I have even considered suicide as a viable option. That latest event that I just mentioned was one of those times, but my mom doesn't know this. I'm legitimately scared of what will happen if I do tell her, or if she will be informed from this professional about what is going on. I've heard horror stories of people losing their lively hood, being put on drugs, and being placed in state control all in the name of " help " all because they admitted that they have a problem. I'm concerned that I will never be able to get employment now because once they see with a background check that this person has shown to be suicidal. They would never hire someone with said problems. Not to mention I'm not the only one in my family who has struggled with it.
If anyone has some experience with this on what I should do, it would be greatly appreciated.



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13 Jul 2014, 4:28 pm

All true, in my opinion.


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13 Jul 2014, 4:43 pm

in the US, your doc can not share with your mom or with anyone. unless you are planning to off yourself imminently and have the means, you won't be committed. if you are still scared of ramifications, just describe your depression without the suicidal thoughts. the treatment is the same. and yes, it involves pills.



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13 Jul 2014, 5:20 pm

In some countries, yes, there can be problems with admitting you're mentally ill and seeking help. In the US, the laws prohibit the psychiatrist from telling anybody about what you tell them. If you're not an imminent threat to yourself, you are basically given antidepressants and sent on your way. I don't know where you're located, and your profile doesn't say. But in the US all health info is confidential. In the US you can't involuntarily be placed under state control, the only way there would be to have your rights taken away is if a judge decided you weren't capable of taking care of yourself and placed you under guardianship. That is unlikely to happen with just depression.



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13 Jul 2014, 5:55 pm

pezar wrote:
In some countries, yes, there can be problems with admitting you're mentally ill and seeking help. In the US, the laws prohibit the psychiatrist from telling anybody about what you tell them. If you're not an imminent threat to yourself, you are basically given antidepressants and sent on your way. I don't know where you're located, and your profile doesn't say. But in the US all health info is confidential. In the US you can't involuntarily be placed under state control, the only way there would be to have your rights taken away is if a judge decided you weren't capable of taking care of yourself and placed you under guardianship. That is unlikely to happen with just depression.

Yes, but state laws (http://www.ncsl.org/research/health/men ... -warn.aspx) and professional psychological practices (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Duty_to_w ... psychology) require or permit mental health professionals to disclose information about patients who may become violent, or may be in imminent danger of harming himself or others.

This is a very fine line. Misunderstanding and misinterpretation of these laws and policies abound among even the most professional of mental health professionals simply because they aren't lawyers. I would personally be very careful to resist stating any ideation about suicide or other violent harm. If such ideation is real and not just idle talk, then, of course, an individual owes it to himself or herself to seek the best help available. But, informed-patient consent expects that the legal aspects of what might happen if the wrong statement is made need to be understood by any such individual.


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13 Jul 2014, 6:13 pm

Brainfre3ze_93 wrote:
A few days ago, my mom noticed I was acting different than what I normally was. I didn't exactly want to talk about it, but she was concerned about enough to seek professional help for me. Since it was affecting pretty badly, and she wants me to be completely honest with this person.
My concern is what will happen to me if I do intend to reveal what's going on, and it is not pretty. * a fair warning * Over the past few years I have had several episodes of depressions in my life, and this has been a constant ordeal which have lasted anywhere from a few days to a month or two.
It has gotten so bad, that I have even considered suicide as a viable option. That latest event that I just mentioned was one of those times, but my mom doesn't know this. I'm legitimately scared of what will happen if I do tell her, or if she will be informed from this professional about what is going on. I've heard horror stories of people losing their lively hood, being put on drugs, and being placed in state control all in the name of " help " all because they admitted that they have a problem. I'm concerned that I will never be able to get employment now because once they see with a background check that this person has shown to be suicidal. They would never hire someone with said problems. Not to mention I'm not the only one in my family who has struggled with it.
If anyone has some experience with this on what I should do, it would be greatly appreciated.


How would any future employers find out you have a mental health diagnosis unless you tell them? If you admit to molesting a child or if you threaten to hurt somebody physically, your mental health provider can tell the proper authorities. Other than that, it is illegal, it is a felony to reveal confidential medical information. It's not going to show up on a background check.



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13 Jul 2014, 6:14 pm

pezar wrote:
In some countries, yes, there can be problems with admitting you're mentally ill and seeking help. In the US, the laws prohibit the psychiatrist from telling anybody about what you tell them. If you're not an imminent threat to yourself, you are basically given antidepressants and sent on your way. I don't know where you're located, and your profile doesn't say. But in the US all health info is confidential. In the US you can't involuntarily be placed under state control, the only way there would be to have your rights taken away is if a judge decided you weren't capable of taking care of yourself and placed you under guardianship. That is unlikely to happen with just depression.


I live in Texas by the way.