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Adele Brookes
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20 Jan 2019, 11:02 am

I was told about wrong planet by a friend of mine some time ago. I've been spending the last two years promising myself that if I didn't improve my main problems like anxiety and not being able to communicate with others properly that I would join the site - two years later, here I am.

I recently went for a job interview, last Thursday, thinking that I was a lot better than I actually am. I lasted about two minutes before feeling unwell and then going into a panic attack, during which a ambulance was called and the paramedics had to help me get me calm again.

I'm so disappointed in myself that I wasn't strong enough to be the girl I wish I could be. My Autism is terrible and I don't know where to go from here.



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20 Jan 2019, 1:05 pm

Welcome Adele Brookes to Wrong Planet.

There are a few ways to defuse panic attacks.

A panic attack is a very frightening experience for an Aspie. These attacks often come on unexpectedly and are accompanied by many frightening physical sensations, such as shortness of breath, hyperventilation and helplessness. They are triggered by a buildup of stress and trauma.

The shortness of breath that occurs during panic attacks and anxiety is often caused by a change in your normal breathing pattern. Typically, we are not conscious of our breathing. When panic and anxiety occur, our breathing may become more shallow and restricted. Instead of filling the lungs with full, complete breathes, we take in quick and short breathes.

Our lungs take in oxygen and exhale carbon dioxide. When our breathing is short and shallow, the stale air remains trapped deep in our lungs. Unless this carbon dioxide is vented it will trigger an automatic reaction in our brains that produce feelings of faintness, dizziness, lightheadedness, and confusion. It can trigger a panic attack.

Therefore one method to avoid panic attacks is to take deep breathes and vent the carbon dioxide deep in your lungs. It will help put you back in control.



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20 Jan 2019, 1:31 pm

Welcome to Wrong Planet! :D


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20 Jan 2019, 1:40 pm

Adele Brookes wrote:
I was told about wrong planet by a friend of mine some time ago. I've been spending the last two years promising myself that if I didn't improve my main problems like anxiety and not being able to communicate with others properly that I would join the site - two years later, here I am.

I recently went for a job interview, last Thursday, thinking that I was a lot better than I actually am. I lasted about two minutes before feeling unwell and then going into a panic attack, during which a ambulance was called and the paramedics had to help me get me calm again.

I'm so disappointed in myself that I wasn't strong enough to be the girl I wish I could be. My Autism is terrible and I don't know where to go from here.


Lots of people go through panic attacks; it doesn't make you a worse person.

You should contact the interviewer you met with and ask him/her for another chance. I doubt they think you're not qualified just because of what happened.

Best wishes. :)


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20 Jan 2019, 1:46 pm

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Adele Brookes wrote:
I was told about wrong planet by a friend of mine some time ago. I've been spending the last two years promising myself that if I didn't improve my main problems like anxiety and not being able to communicate with others properly that I would join the site - two years later, here I am.

I recently went for a job interview, last Thursday, thinking that I was a lot better than I actually am. I lasted about two minutes before feeling unwell and then going into a panic attack, during which a ambulance was called and the paramedics had to help me get me calm again.

I'm so disappointed in myself that I wasn't strong enough to be the girl I wish I could be. My Autism is terrible and I don't know where to go from here.


Lots of people go through panic attacks; it doesn't make you a worse person.

You should contact the interviewer you met with and ask him/her for another chance. I doubt they think you're not qualified just because of what happened.

Best wishes. :)


That thought had occurred to me as well. I'm eager to contact them but I'm still really embarrassed after what happened to me. I know that's silly really, but my brain is super tired and stressed after what happened.

I hate panic attacks, they really take it out of me. I sleep so much afterwards. Thanks for the best wishes :)

And thank you for the welcomes.



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20 Jan 2019, 2:35 pm

Adele Brookes wrote:
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Adele Brookes wrote:
I was told about wrong planet by a friend of mine some time ago. I've been spending the last two years promising myself that if I didn't improve my main problems like anxiety and not being able to communicate with others properly that I would join the site - two years later, here I am.

I recently went for a job interview, last Thursday, thinking that I was a lot better than I actually am. I lasted about two minutes before feeling unwell and then going into a panic attack, during which a ambulance was called and the paramedics had to help me get me calm again.

I'm so disappointed in myself that I wasn't strong enough to be the girl I wish I could be. My Autism is terrible and I don't know where to go from here.


Lots of people go through panic attacks; it doesn't make you a worse person.

You should contact the interviewer you met with and ask him/her for another chance. I doubt they think you're not qualified just because of what happened.

Best wishes. :)


That thought had occurred to me as well. I'm eager to contact them but I'm still really embarrassed after what happened to me. I know that's silly really, but my brain is super tired and stressed after what happened.

I hate panic attacks, they really take it out of me. I sleep so much afterwards. Thanks for the best wishes :)

And thank you for the welcomes.


You're welcome.

I know what it's like to feel like you're a bad person. I have problems with motivation and getting my schoolwork done on time, and long-term processes like learning skills seem almost impossible to me, so I often feel worthless and pathetic. Especially since I have a hard time leaving my comfort zone.

You can pm me if you ever wanna talk to someone during bad times. :)


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20 Jan 2019, 4:16 pm

coalminer wrote:
Adele Brookes wrote:
coalminer wrote:
Adele Brookes wrote:
I was told about wrong planet by a friend of mine some time ago. I've been spending the last two years promising myself that if I didn't improve my main problems like anxiety and not being able to communicate with others properly that I would join the site - two years later, here I am.

I recently went for a job interview, last Thursday, thinking that I was a lot better than I actually am. I lasted about two minutes before feeling unwell and then going into a panic attack, during which a ambulance was called and the paramedics had to help me get me calm again.

I'm so disappointed in myself that I wasn't strong enough to be the girl I wish I could be. My Autism is terrible and I don't know where to go from here.


Lots of people go through panic attacks; it doesn't make you a worse person.

You should contact the interviewer you met with and ask him/her for another chance. I doubt they think you're not qualified just because of what happened.

Best wishes. :)


That thought had occurred to me as well. I'm eager to contact them but I'm still really embarrassed after what happened to me. I know that's silly really, but my brain is super tired and stressed after what happened.

I hate panic attacks, they really take it out of me. I sleep so much afterwards. Thanks for the best wishes :)

And thank you for the welcomes.


You're welcome.

I know what it's like to feel like you're a bad person. I have problems with motivation and getting my schoolwork done on time, and long-term processes like learning skills seem almost impossible to me, so I often feel worthless and pathetic. Especially since I have a hard time leaving my comfort zone.

You can pm me if you ever wanna talk to someone during bad times. :)


I have the same problems. When I was at school my schoolwork was always late because of motivation and the fact that I really struggled to get my head around a lot of it! I used to think I was so useless. Some days I still think that way, but I try not to be too negative.

Awh thank you! That's so kind of you. You know you're always welcome to PM me too. I like to think I'm always there to help out when people need me.



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20 Jan 2019, 4:27 pm

there is nothing about being bad. i understand the embarasement of having a PA in public. been there had that, got a tshirt. but it doesnt define u as a person. u have special needs. its hard to well, accept, maybe u need some therapy for it? ppl say that can help sometimes...


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20 Jan 2019, 4:41 pm

serpentari wrote:
there is nothing about being bad. i understand the embarasement of having a PA in public. been there had that, got a tshirt. but it doesnt define u as a person. u have special needs. its hard to well, accept, maybe u need some therapy for it? ppl say that can help sometimes...


Yeah therapy is needed. I tried therapy three years ago, for anxiety and also because I suffered abuse when I was six and I have emetophobia, but I suffered severe attacks at three appointments so never went back.
It might be worth going back as it's getting worse.



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20 Jan 2019, 5:24 pm

ya a catch22 when u need therapy and cant do therapy. related. maybe we can help u here a bit, but we are not professionals. we do try.


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20 Jan 2019, 5:32 pm

I'm very grateful for all the help I've received here already. I feel like I've made more progress here than I ever did with a therapist.



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20 Jan 2019, 6:25 pm

ya in my experience, pills did help with magnitude but not with the problems. and price was too high, and i dont mean just money. and i had never seen any psychologist or shrink who could do anything for me. exept prescribe me pills that would just dull it a bit. all good stuff that happened to me, happened with help of unprofessionals, ya. not saying its allways the answer. but it is for me. i hope i can do something for u here, too.


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Job Interviews

I thought I might give a little advice on job interviews. There are 2 things that pop in my mind.

1. Think of a job interview as an elaborate game. The interviewer is your opponent. Pick your favorite game and as you walk in the door for the interview, you are walking into this imaginary game world.

Whenever the interviewer ask a question, that is your opponents move. Pause for a second. Think your best response. Then answer. That is your move. There is a back and forth during a job interview. The main point is that it is a game. Just play the best you can.

In a way it is like a game of tennis. Your opponent serves the ball and you knock it back to them. Back and forth. You are not focused on who is winning or losing, just what is my next move.

[A half century ago, I went into Boot Camp. Before I left someone told me that they would put a lot of psychological pressure on me during Boot Camp. They also said I should pretend it was a game. So I followed their advice. For 6 weeks I played a very intense elaborate game. I made it to the other side. I was subjected to quite a bit of psychological pressure during the game, but because it was only a game, I had no problem dealing with it.]

2. Know how to give a firm handshake. NTs will sometime use a handshake to evaluate your character. If your handshake is weak, they may perceive you as being a wishy-washy. So find someone who is an NT that you trust. Maybe someone with an outgoing personality. Maybe one of your parents. And then just tell them you would like to improve your handshake. Shake their hand and let them tell you if it is too weak or too strong. Do this several times until you honed a good firm handshake. Many times you will shake an interviewers hand when you first greet them and also at the conclusion of the interview. Just nail the handshake.