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I am sorry.

Can you start a new hobby where you might meet some new and interesting people?

I did lots of scuba diving and most of my dives where wreck dives. It was a very heavily male sport and great way to meet people.

Diving might not be your thing but something similar where you get some fresh people to hang out with who you share an interest with? My diving was in Norway - it was amazing - sure it must be pretty awesome in Iceland too.

If that doesn't appeal, how about a language course?

Diving is pretty good though as you often spend some time going out on the boat to the location, and then have blissful silent time under the water. I found it a really good way to meet people, whether they become friends or potential partners.

Oh my goodness diving in Norway sounds amazing! I'm in the UK. I just like the volcano name.

Ok, this might prove more of a problem as diving in the uk is terrrible.

Scotland is good.

Either way, diving is a very good way to meet nice interesting men. If you start diving in the uk you could go on a diving holiday to Norway?

I want to go diving =(

I always dreamed of it when I would watch Flipper as a kid.

I'm sure they must have classes or something for it around here. Lake Michigan has plenty of shipwrecks.

But I know I would be content to just swim around, play in the sand, and not have to constantly go back up for air.

One more idea, climbing. You do an introductory course and then after that you need to go with someone so they can b-lay you and you them. Usually they have lists of people wanting to meet others to climb with at climbing centres, or there might be someone on the course who you can start going with. After your climb you can pop to the cafe. This is a good non date scenario way of meeting new people. Climbing centres, in my experience, have a really nice friendly atmosphere.

....and if it doesn't work out well at least you will get sensational looking arms. Think Sarah Connor in terminator two.

So the basic idea is.... going out with a group can be detrimental to meeting people. Get out there by yourself, without any friends, try a few new hobbies and see if that yields any results.

I forgot to reply to this. I don't know if he's seeing anyone. It was only a dream.

You're right. He's not worth my time. I'm feeling less infatuated as time goes on. I don't feel like it's a loss anymore. I just feel like my time was wasted. And I feel angry tgat I was messed about. I got treated like I mattered one moment and dropped like a hot potato the next.

I has a weird dream last night that I married one of my other friends.

I'm so angry. I feel like I was made a fool of. I thought I meant something ... I genuinely did, but I was delude, I was a nothing.

Just keep cool O_O

This is astounding negativity, I'm shocked slightly by how negative everybody has been.

Being realist is fine, not seeing everything as perfect, manageable or salvageable is alright too, but to begin to concern yourself in and around year 30 (which, in my opinion, is still pretty young) is rather tough.

I mean, I understand and appreciate the concern. I can't tell people how to think, and I agree that there has to be a realistic layer atop everything we do as we age, but it's like I said prior; desperation will only lead to greater suffering. I know this from experience and if nothing else I say rings true, I think this is the key thing to take to heart.

I'm not around year 30. I'm 36. Closer to 40. I can see how my face has aged in the mirror. I'm getting grey hair. It's more difficult to lose weight now. It doesn't help that I keep meeting younger guys than me which makes me feel old.

My health has gone downhill in the past year. I'm seeing a Dr about it, but not getting anywhere, so I'm not actually well enough to go diving or climbing. I'm not young anymore. I'm exhausted. I find learning new things difficult. I'm not as sharp as i used to be. I'm not as thin as I used to be. Body parts are starting to become affected by gravity. My skin is starting to sag.

It's just the cusp of aging, but I'm definitely older.

Faceofboo wasn't being negative. He's the same age and understands.

You’re still dateable though
Hope you find s nice guy

I've never been saleable. No one wanted me when I was younger and more attractive. Why would anyone want me now im starting to show signs of aging. Ive never been this tubby.

I like women who are slightly “tubby.”

I’m not really keen on the “model” types.

I know it’s frustrating, Hurtloam. It frustrates ME that you haven’t found love yet.

I think you’ve been too shy in past, lots of guys probably wanted and still want you.youd likely get lots of interest on dating sites. You’re nice, quirky and pretty. I enjoy our talks, other guys will too.

I'm younger than you, and I've been grey for a long time @_@

Hair can easily be dyed, though. My mom only recently stopped dying hers, probably around the time when she became an official grandma.


British tubby is skinny compared to American tubby.

I am sorry about your health. Admittedly it is much easier to take up new sports in 20s rather than 30s or 40s but the basic principe I was trying to convey is that women often go out in groups, sometimes trying something new alone makes it easier to meet new people. That something new could be anything.

I am a couple of years older than you. I think when one is "up close and personal" with ones own body it is easy to dwell on the negatives. I think those same thoughts too but I know other people see me differently. Chances are it is the same with you.

Don't loose hope.