Thought I was going to get a date but life said no

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You should try to find her on social media, perhaps to see if she's even real. Do people in Texas generally get paid on Tuesdays? It's usually Fridays here.

Interesting considering I tend to gravitate toward more superficial women

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Be careful...Superficial women tend to care about the balance in your bank account, your material possessions, your ranking in popularity, and what others think of YOU...Those women are better suited with an overt narcissist...(No offense intended)...In my opinion, these two kinds, complement each other really well...But an Aspie should definitely stay away from superficial women...

Thanks but definitely easier said than done in this case considering how well I got along with the cheerleaders/athletic/popular girls growing up

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Don't be misled...The altruistic gal i am referring to above, in her youth was also part of the in-crowd...Valedictorian of her 8th grade class, she presided the commencement ceremony...An innate leader, who others look upon for guidance...Her best friend was the Regional Spelling Bee Winner...She (ME) ranked 1st academically in high school...Graduated with distinction, which is higher than honors, from college and university...(Not surprisingly, she fell in love with her Aspie's logical brain )...

She grew-up to become very popular, yet never lost her altruistic heart...She wanted to make her societal contribution...And she did, in the legal profession for one decade, where she found her niche working for the disadvantaged...Later in life, when she wanted more balance in her life, she became a Substitute Teacher...There, for appx. one decade, she became a positive influence in the life of many youngsters...And it was while volunteering her time to a noble cause when she met he who became her beloved husband...

So, please don't be misled by appearances as these can be deceiving...Look for the motive...On my behalf, i must say that i did not 'settle' for an Aspie husband, as some ill-intended people may think...In my youth and even later in life, i had options...But i am glad i waited until later in life when one invariably chooses better...And i did...My beloved (Aspie) husband is my dream come true...

Looking back, i am elated that other attempts in my search for love failed grossly...Because as difficult as communicating with my Aspie husband has been, i cannot imagine myself with anybody else...In my neuro-diverse marriage, communication and emotional connection is a daily struggle..But totally worthwhile when we do achieve it...Again, best wishes in your quest for true love...Who knows, maybe God will bless you with an innate cheerleader, to cheer you up in your low points in life...Many blessings your way...

Not me. I have to wait until Wednesdays.

This person also only had a first name so I highly doubt I could find her on social media.

Most people in the US get paid every other Friday.

I used to think I got paid every week and would spend constantly until I found out it was every other week I got paid. That’s partly why my finances aren’t the best.

I know a couple who live in poverty in one of the impoverished areas of my area. I actually saw them for the first time in years when I left work a while ago but they either didn’t recognize me or are social distancing. Dating expectations are different in their world.

I understand! theirs plenty of women out there that do want a man like yourself! i'd guess all you can do now is next time you'll arrange to meet someone, just pay for your own expenses and let them pay for theirs. Or if a date goes well and you're in agreement, go halves.

I was catfished over three years ago and the man lied about his age and occupation but luckily after investigating i found out and he's since scarpered since the authorities were alerted. Luckily i've never had anyone ask me for money or bank details. Unfortunately people pray on others for scams and get you at a vulnerable state. It's good to never give up on love but at the same time, listen to your intuition and guard your heart. I hope you'll won't allow this to affect you, if anyone should feel bad is the women that did that to you! i'm sorry to hear that!

Interesting you should bring this up, as I also find goth/emo/punk women attractive partially because I want to lift their spirits.

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That dynamic may work, too...Men and women were purposely created different to complement one another like two pieces of a puzzle...

I am all emotions; while my husband is all logic...I am petite, and lately fragile health-wise; my husband has a strong athletic built...He is very good working with his hands in hard labor; i am excellent with paperwork, problem-solving, legalese inclusive...He lives very much in the present; i am always planning for our future...He is good with detail; i am a global-thinker...And the marked differences go on and on...

However, we are united in our worship to the Almighty God...And this is our special bond...We are very blessed to complement each other so well...

Same with me and my (NT) boyfriend.
Except I'm the one with all the emotions while my boyfriend is more of a logical thinker. He likes to drink (but isn't an alcoholic) while I don't drink at all. He's good at logical tasks while I'm good at creative tasks. He enjoys action or war movies while I hate those types but enjoy dramas and comedies. He loves heavy rock music, I love country music. He's into history, while I'm into writing. He can memorize what year a car was made based by its license number (I didn't even know license numbers contained that kind of information), while I am better at remembering people's birthdays. He's from the 70s while I'm a 90s b***h! But our relationship is healthier than some other relationships between NTs.

Part of the reason I'm also into athletic/cheerleader type girls is to complement my typical Aspie clumsiness

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Thank you for sharing...Your relationship and my marriage are tangible proof that the success of a relationship is not dependant on the biological 'tools' that we are born with or lacking...Ultimately, it comes down to how we put to use (or apply) the 'tools' we each are 'equipped with'...

I feel for some NT couples who have everything to succeed in their relationships; yet they fail...Because they don't use or misuse the biological 'tools' they were born with...Am i making any sense???...I mean, the more i think about this, the more blessed that i feel with my beloved (Aspie) husband...

Best regards to you and your boyfriend...Good night...