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I am having yet another depression attack since I had a nightmare about my older brother beating me up before I woke today and it’s making me feel like I’ve driven away those who like me. Do I still have friends here? What can I do better once I come back from my hiatus?

Hope you’ll feel better soon

Thank you, sorrowfairiewhisper. I don’t like it when I have nightmares. They stay in my mind even after I wake up.

Obviously we don't really know each other but I like you!

It's horrible to feel depressed and think people don't like you, hope you get out of it soon

Thank you, OutsideView. I really don’t like being depressed and wish dysthymia was more easily treatable.

You’re welcome Marknis! I know it’s easier said than done but try to think of something else to distract yourself. Take care

I really do need to distract myself with something. I also haven’t been getting good amounts of rest and having a nightmare didn’t help. I wish my mind would be kind to me when I am asleep.

You have to employ logic in your thoughts, as well as pure emotion.

For example: Why would anybody NOT want you to have a girlfriend? When somebody suggests that you emphasize your special interests over your pursuit of a girlfriend, it doesn't mean that this person doesn't want you to have a girlfriend.

I would feel great, actually, if you got a girlfriend.

You also have to realize that most people mean well for you, and they are not trying to screw with you.

Regarding the nightmares, are you taking an SSRI? Sometimes they seem to cause insomnia or nightmares, in my experience. Taking the meds earlier in the day might help. In addition to SSRI I take a medication which is used off-label to prevent nightmares related to PTSD, and I also need a prescription sedative. With that regimen I can sleep for about five or six hours a night and I don't have nightmares or night terrors very frequently.

I get beat up by my brother in my dreams all the time.....when I wake up, I am relieved, because he's not there with me.

You take Gabapentin just for sleep, and not for pain? Just a word of caution. I took Gabapentin for pain, which is its normal indication, and it made my depression much worse. I had to go off it because the depression was so bad. My father took it for cancer pain and found the same problem, and recently my mother quit it after a few days because she couldn't stop crying.

If you are still having sleep issues / nightmares with those meds, I suggest you talk to your doctor immediately and try something else. Obviously it's not working. I have a few ideas for meds that could possibly help but I'm not a doctor and wouldn't want to give medical advice on the internet.

Have you found any new special interests or hobbies lately? That could also help to keep your mind busy, and tire you out.

Hope you got my measage ok, Mark. X

Ugh, I hate depression attacks!

You're always welcome here on WP and you're a good friend here. I like you.

I often have dreams about being bullied by the kids who bullied me at school. Throughout the dream I feel sad, lonely, isolated and depressed.