Those who used to respond positively but no longer do

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I used to get positive replies from certain people here but they no longer do. It eats at me because my mind tells me the positive things they used to tell me they no longer stand by and they now wish ill will towards me. There are a few I know for certain who wish ill will on me because they have said so but the ones who don’t say anything at all anymore I can’t stop wondering what they think about me now. I have been told by someone here I most likely have a persecution complex but it doesn’t help when others don’t tell me if they still wish me well.

A lot of people are going through rough times nowadays and need to guard the little emotional energy they need to function.

Basically what's been said above.

But additionally, I don't mind being supportive when I have the energy but since no one I've ever been supportive of has ever really made an effort to reciprocate it starts to feel one-sided after awhile so if I don't continue to invest as heavily it's not that you've done something wrong it's just that you don't seem particularly appreciative so I assume you don't need it.

The cycle of not investing in return when people invest in you while complaining that people don't invest adequately in you only serves to reinforce that feeling of not really being appreciated and I don't imagine that it's too far-fetched to assume it plays into why people might comment less frequently over time. It doesn't make you a bad person or mean you deserve that as an outcome but it's a pattern of behaviour you need to be aware of in order to break out of.

In other words, if you notice somebody else who is in distress, try to make that person feel better. You don't have to give great advice. Just say that you care about the person.

It's a guarantee that if you do this, more people will like you.

I've offered support several times and answered all of your questions such as "Do you want me to have a girlfriend?" many times. I've given specific advice when you ask for it, and comfort when you don't. There isn't much more I can offer in terms of support or guidance without depleting my own mental and emotional reserves by repeating myself.

You've been given a lot of information about housing, ideas for cooking, and motivation to pursue new interests, as well as feedback about your medications, therapy, and a possible trauma disorder related to your mother. Lots of us have offered you as much as we can. I hope you'll use this time to start considering some of that advice from all of us, who do wish you well. We sincerely do. I know it's hard to make changes in our lives especially with autism, depression, and set routines, but I hope you're thinking about some new baby steps forward.

FXE is also correct to say that it's draining when one person wants and needs the same reassurance over and over again, but doesn't seem appreciative of the help they're given, and doesn't reach out to others in distress around the forum. That's not a criticism. It's just what it is. We all have a finite amount of energy for supporting others, and it's usually best for us to spread it around to as many people as possible so that no one is left without replies.

So very, very well-said.
I know, myself, when I’ve been really down and needing a kind word or helpful insight or direction, I SO much appreciate the encouragement from WP.
I hope people know how very much their kindness has helped me during bad times!
If I have not expressed my sincere,honest gratitude for advice and encouragement, I thank everyone who has helped me through some rough times; I mean that from my heart ❤️

Same as above. I'm struggling myself at the moment.

I'm glad you've been doing some drawing. I still haven't done any.

That's wonderful Marknis. I didn't take it personally. I was only responding to what you wrote with my own perspective. It seems that others have the same perspective. No one should be called out for supporting you and then going quiet if they run out of steam. I just wanted to make sure that no one feels guilty if they haven't replied to you, based on what you wrote. It's common for autistic people to take things personally and think people are talking about them, when they aren't, and I worry about those people who might not speak up. No one wants to feel obligation about supporting anyone else here, when they don't have the spoons.

I think it's great you are taking new initiatives and yes, I do wish you well!

I'd be sad for you too!

Most married people are ambivalent about being married; many wish they had the freedom of being single again.

It's not that this married person doesn't think she is cool; it's that she thinks that being single might be "cooler."