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16 Jun 2021, 4:40 pm

Salad's fiance has also been through war in Syria so she will understand PTSD.



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16 Jun 2021, 5:16 pm

cyberdad wrote:
Salad's fiance has also been through war in Syria so she will understand PTSD.

Not necessarily - she could have PTSD without understanding PTSD.

Best wishes to both of them.


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16 Jun 2021, 7:03 pm

BeaArthur wrote:
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Salad's fiance has also been through war in Syria so she will understand PTSD.

Not necessarily - she could have PTSD without understanding PTSD.

Best wishes to both of them.


It doesn't matter if she has it or not. She would know people already with PTSD (perhaps her own family) so its unlikely to be shock.



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16 Jun 2021, 7:36 pm

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Fiancee is currently changing and we will be out hiking again very shortly. In the meantime if anyone here on WP has suggestions for how I should draft my letter explaining to her what I'm dealing with please do share so that when I come back at night to my hotel and check WP I'll have some ideas on how to draft my letter


Have some positive stuff in the letter about her etc so it’s not all sad. Without going over board



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17 Jun 2021, 12:45 am

I confronted her today and told her everything, and lo and behold magz was right: somehow magically despite my best efforts to conceal and not feel she knew everything I was hiding. Sigh. Surely I'm losing my edge if I've become that easy to read.

She then smiled and laughed and told me "it's ok, you don't have to act tough around me". So much for being able to hide things.....


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17 Jun 2021, 5:48 am

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She then smiled and laughed and told me "it's ok, you don't have to act tough around me".


That's wonderful news! Hopefully, from henceforth, you and she will both feel comfortable being honest with each other -- which, in my opinion, is absolutely essential to a strong relationship.


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17 Jun 2021, 6:34 am

I'm so glad for you. That's a very promising sign she loves you no matter what and will be there for you just as much as you for her.


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17 Jun 2021, 6:54 am

It’s great that you told her, and that it turned out not to be a confrontation…..instead, it was a catharsis for both of you.

I hope you enjoyed your hike.



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17 Jun 2021, 8:01 am

That was such a lovely response on her part! You are a lucky man.


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17 Jun 2021, 4:45 pm

salad wrote:
I confronted her today and told her everything, and lo and behold magz was right: somehow magically despite my best efforts to conceal and not feel she knew everything I was hiding. Sigh. Surely I'm losing my edge if I've become that easy to read.

She then smiled and laughed and told me "it's ok, you don't have to act tough around me". So much for being able to hide things.....


All's well that ends well :D