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honeytoast
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20 Jul 2021, 12:54 pm

Don’t know what else to say. I’m on the floor, curled up in a blanket. Feel lost and unsure.


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20 Jul 2021, 1:10 pm

time heals



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20 Jul 2021, 1:10 pm

I lost my best friend

I can’t stop crying haha


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20 Jul 2021, 1:11 pm

breathe
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write when you are able


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20 Jul 2021, 1:14 pm

cbd wrote:
time heals

It will but it doesn’t not feel like it now


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20 Jul 2021, 1:14 pm

Don't worry. All is ok. He is probably doing the same. Dating is about finding the "Right one" and this means that many may not be suitable. It is no ones fault. It is just how it is!

Forgive him and move on and when you are ready, look for another to go dating with, but leave yourself some time for your emotions to recover and heal.

Oh. And in the future it could be possible to remain friendly, but let that be a long term goal for now. Relax and recover.


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20 Jul 2021, 1:18 pm

Mountain Goat wrote:
Don't worry. All is ok. He is probably doing the same. Dating is about finding the "Right one" and this means that many may not be suitable. It is no ones fault. It is just how it is!

Forgive him and move on and when you are ready, look for another to go dating with, but leave yourself some time for your emotions to recover and heal.

Oh. And in the future it could be possible to remain friendly, but let that be a long term goal for now. Relax and recover.


I broke up with him so I don’t think I have to forgive him lol

I just feel broken. I am a villain


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20 Jul 2021, 1:20 pm

honeytoast wrote:
Mountain Goat wrote:
Don't worry. All is ok. He is probably doing the same. Dating is about finding the "Right one" and this means that many may not be suitable. It is no ones fault. It is just how it is!

Forgive him and move on and when you are ready, look for another to go dating with, but leave yourself some time for your emotions to recover and heal.

Oh. And in the future it could be possible to remain friendly, but let that be a long term goal for now. Relax and recover.


I broke up with him so I don’t think I have to forgive him lol

I just feel broken. I am a villain


No you are not a villan. You just decided that he was not ideal for you.


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20 Jul 2021, 1:23 pm

Keep an objective list of your reasons, like a diary. It's so easy to feel confused and guilty afterward because the emotion will cloud your thinking. It's hard. Be kind to yourself though. Chances are, neither of you are villains.


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20 Jul 2021, 1:26 pm

Is there two I's in that word? I thougt it only had one I. Uhmmm. Mind you, even law abiding villans (Or villains) have two eyes usually apart from Long John Silver. Or did he just have one leg? Uhmmm.


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20 Jul 2021, 4:29 pm

Mountain Goat wrote:
Is there two I's in that word? I thougt it only had one I. Uhmmm. Mind you, even law abiding villans (Or villains) have two eyes usually apart from Long John Silver. Or did he just have one leg? Uhmmm.

My phone says villain so I suppose it is correct.


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20 Jul 2021, 4:29 pm

IsabellaLinton wrote:
Keep an objective list of your reasons, like a diary. It's so easy to feel confused and guilty afterward because the emotion will cloud your thinking. It's hard. Be kind to yourself though. Chances are, neither of you are villains.

Thank you kindly


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20 Jul 2021, 4:33 pm

If you don't mind me asking: what happened? Could you talk about it?

Maybe your relationship is salvageable.

I'm definitely not making any promises----but who knows?



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20 Jul 2021, 5:07 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
If you don't mind me asking: what happened? Could you talk about it?

Maybe your relationship is salvageable.

I'm definitely not making any promises----but who knows?


It would not be good in the long run. It wa any choice to do this and I don’t think it can be salvageable at this point.


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21 Jul 2021, 3:13 pm

Take time for yourself for a little while. Its hard for any kind of relationship to last forever.
Most of them end even when both people are very much in love with each other. Life is full of impossibilities so don't be hard on yourself. I am sure you tried your best to save the relaonship.



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21 Jul 2021, 7:29 pm

honeytoast wrote:
cbd wrote:
time heals

It will but it doesn’t not feel like it now


The chemicals in your body should significantly readjust in less than a week.
It helps to experience new things that aren't associated with your ex.

The same thing applies when you lose a pet.

REM sleep helps to sort out the emotional burden, so I suggest you get as much as you can manage, during the next week.

Just speaking from experience. ;)