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For a while there was a guy that seemed into me. He was perusing me. I got bad vibes from him sometimes but I was lonely so I let him into my life. I invited him over to my place after he bought me a few drinks. We got drunk and talked all night. Since I was drunk I gave him a nice jacket I had been saving for a male friend. We had good conversation all night, right up until I mentioned the horrible side effect of my antipsychotic medication is that I need a fibre laxative twice a day every day just to go number 2.
I thought since he was on the same type of medication and didn’t care at all that I was going to get fatter from my med, that he wouldn’t care about that horrible side effect. But when I told him he looked horrified and kind of grossed out. Yes I was drunk. And so after embarrassing myself like that, I embarrassed myself some more by asking for sex. He said he didn’t feel up to it and said he should go. I said “ I’m sorry it’s just that you messaged me and told me that you wanted someone in your life and liked talking to me and...” “I don’t mind being single right now.” He said. Then he took the jacket and left. Before leaving he also said he’d hug me but his beard would get in the way, which I thought was weird. Anyway I guess if I want to play the dating game, I got to be careful what I tell them. And the way I said it when I was drunk... I made it out to be worse than it was. But I couldn’t correct myself because I was loaded. Also I don’t think he cared about me too much in the first place if he rejected me because of that. He didn’t love me in other words.

Awww. Did you scare him away? Sometimes it takes time to love. Probably getting drunk is not a good idea, but it happened.

Don't worry. Apologize to him for being too forward while drunk. He will understand and if he is a good one he will get back to you. If not then don't worry.

I also did the push pull thing with him by telling him to piss off basically and leave me alone when he was pursuing me. I did that a few times. And always apologized afterwards. He might be getting revenge because I think we almost had an intuitive psychic connection. And it’s like he knew I didn’t like how he grew his beard out, or that I was uncomfortable with bringing him over because I met him at the rooming house I previously lived. Even though I didn’t say anything about those things. I don’t care for revenge but I want my jacket back!!

But you gave it as a gift?

Well yeah but I meant to give it to someone else. It’s just I was drunk and we were getting along so great. At first.

Whos fault was it that you were drunk?

Update: I later came to realize this guy was trouble. We were hanging out at the park and he was smoking pot. He was pressuring me to smoke it too and saying things every once in a while that sounded like emotional/ psychological abuse and boarder line threats. This type of behaviour reminded me of when a different guy abused me in that same way. I outright told him he scared me sometimes with the things he said and left to visit an old friend. When I told him the situation he looked worried and said without hesitation that I should stay away from that guy. We talked all night and drank a bit but I didn’t get drunk with him. I’m glad I had someone to go to that night that I actually know.