Way behind my peers

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- not have a job
- not have any friends
- havent been in a relationship
- didnt finish university yet
- have social anxiety
- not have a drivers license
- feel lonely and depressed
- worried about myself

Very unlucky

Im in the same situation to be honest. I will probably never catch up but I do not let that get me down. You shouldn't worry about that stuff because everyone lives their life differently. Its ok to do certain things at different times than other people.

You're still young. There's hope for you. I'm 64 and the 1st, 2nd, 4th(never went to uni),5th and 6th apply to me.

Pretty much all of us here are way behind our peers in some way or another.

Never been in a relationship
Don't have kids
Don't own my own home/have a mortgage
etc

..UNLESS, we stop considering non-comparable people our "peers," and start considering one another on the spectrum as our peers. Then we're all doing juuuuust fine.

All a matter of perspective, really. No sense in perceiving things in a way that frustrates you if you can shift your vantage point and think better of the exact same situation.

At the same age, I feel the same way all the time. I at least have a job, even if I can't do all the things a normal employee would do and sometimes feel like I'm not really part of the team. I've no friends at all and a romantic relationship seems like a very, very far away dream. I've made no attemps at getting a driver's license and I'm all sorts of depressed.
So you're obviously far from the only one.
I try to convince myself not to compare myself with other people, which sometimes works and sometimes less so.
And just because you haven't any of those things now doesn't mean you never will. There's no reason to rush any of it just because some other people do.