Does anyone else feel confusion about everything?
I get confused about everything, I can't make decisions!! ! I can sit and think of pros and cons of something for days but not actually make a decision. This happenes with everything, I hang in limbo and know I am doing it but that doesn't help me stop. I just need someone to make them for me because the burden is huge. I don't know how to make decisions, whatever advice people give does not help. They always say just give something a try but do not understand the unpredictability of the situation I have to face is unbearable for me. I have to rehearse events beforehand or I do not know how I should act in them which causes a huge amount of anxiety. I do not know how to respond to anything in the moment and I am frozen and speechless. Its humiliating, I hate it.
I am sorry you feel confused. I have been experiencing this a lot lately.
It may be like what is called "analysis paralysis".
The opposite problem is "ready, fire, aim".
Somewhere between the two is where I want to be, but "analysis paralysis" is someplace I often find myself.
Google "five whys" so see a sort-of-related similar idea.
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RDOS scores - Aspie score 131/200 - neurotypical score 69/200 - very likely Aspie
Yes. What I can be like for a long time (Months or even over a year or two) after a hard hitting burnout and I find it dissabling as even going to do some tasks one could do before with ones eyes closed one find onself stuck when one needs to make a decision.
I ended up feeling I was banned from a shop as I could not make a decision so kept putting what I came in for back and they thought I was acting suspicious.
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Making an exhaustive list of all of the pros and cons is actually the worst way to try and make a decision. You'll find in most cases they tend to even out. You also spend too much time over-thinking. Practice making quick decisions (even hypothetical ones) can help. So can realizing that everyone makes a less than optimal choice from time to time. Do you have a lot of anxiety about making a "bad" decision? I do, which Is why I over-think things. You don't have to be perfect. You'll often learn more from mistakes than successes (which helps making better decisions in the future)
I understand the need for scripting, and the anxiety that can happen when things go "off-script".
I’m not the best at judgment. When my mom was alive, I always called her asking for her advice, she gone now, I have nobody to turn to. I can’t go to my dad, he don’t understand me, it’s very hard to talk to him anyway. NOWAY I’m talking to my sister, we don’t agree on things, we have a very complicated relationship, right now, it’s a hate relationship. But sometimes I do make the right choices.
Yeah I've had people really question me when I was indecisive and as always judging my character as if I was being rude.
And what you said about burnout, I am very burned out right now. I've struggled my whole life but especially the past few years and I am done trying.
I ended up feeling I was banned from a shop as I could not make a decision so kept putting what I came in for back and they thought I was acting suspicious.
Yes making a bad decision is something I worry about but not having a script is the worst part for me. Like I can literally just not know what to say or do without it and sit there and stare back at a person who is talking to me completely lost.
I understand the need for scripting, and the anxiety that can happen when things go "off-script".
And what you said about burnout, I am very burned out right now. I've struggled my whole life but especially the past few years and I am done trying.
I ended up feeling I was banned from a shop as I could not make a decision so kept putting what I came in for back and they thought I was acting suspicious.
The ideal solution (If money and other ties were not an object) is to have a long relaxing holiday somewhere that is quiet but attractive. Long as in a year or two.
Unfortunately not many can do this so it is a case of damage limitation to reduce stress as much as one can.
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